Feeling self-concious and Exercise?!?!?!?!? Please help!

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aly6690

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Ok, I've been going to the gym and working out with a trainer for a couple of months now, and am losing weight steadily. At first, I used to be very self concious whether I was on my own or with my trainer in the gym but slowly that went and it bothered me less and less whether the gym was empty or really busy. recently, my trainer decided to workout outside in the park...despite the crap weather! Anyway, yesterday everything was going ok then a group of guys came into the park and were playing football. From the minute the enetered, I completely lost interest in training. My trainer picked up on it but didnt push it. But on the walk back, he said that I went from giving it my all to "wanting to get out of there asap". He said that it was something he wanted to talk about before my next session, but I really dont know what to say.

Does anyone else ever get this sort of feeling? Has this happened to anyone else and if so how did you deal with it?

Thanks
 
aly6690 said:
Ok, I've been going to the gym and working out with a trainer for a couple of months now, and am losing weight steadily. At first, I used to be very self concious whether I was on my own or with my trainer in the gym but slowly that went and it bothered me less and less whether the gym was empty or really busy. recently, my trainer decided to workout outside in the park...despite the crap weather! Anyway, yesterday everything was going ok then a group of guys came into the park and were playing football. From the minute the enetered, I completely lost interest in training. My trainer picked up on it but didnt push it. But on the walk back, he said that I went from giving it my all to "wanting to get out of there asap". He said that it was something he wanted to talk about before my next session, but I really dont know what to say.

Does anyone else ever get this sort of feeling? Has this happened to anyone else and if so how did you deal with it?

Thanks
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When I was at my highest weight I got this feeling about eating, I felt really embarrassed eating anything, especially anything unhealthy in public. I also felt embarrassed taking the elevator to the second floor because it was obvious it was because of my weight.

I think exercising actually looks good on a fat person, because it shows that they're trying to get healthy. I don't think people will be thinking negatively about you, just thinking something like good for her for doing something about her weight.
 
Yeah, I've felt self-conscious before. Been at the gym, seen a co-worker, didn't want them to see me doing 'wimpy' workouts or whatever. Even though I knew rationally that they really wouldn't think less of me.

I've also worried what other people would think - but it's definitely gotten better over time. Normally when I see someone over weight at the gym, I think "Good for them!" And I figure that's what other people are thinking... and if it's not... then screw those jerks :p

Next time just think "Lets see you strap on a 50 lb backpack and do what I'm doing!" and keep on trucking :D
 
I had that feeling when I started working out regularly and walking around my city to lose weight. I guess its part of the process where we start becoming more comfortable in our own skin. Let's face it, at our starting weight and in-between weighs we still don't feel all that comfortable (Well, at least me anyway ;p) I think you should really think about what makes you feel so uneasy so you can find ways to make that feeling become less, know that you are on a path to better yourself and continue to do what you are doing.
 
Im interested in finding out what thoughts/pictures/sounds were running through your mind that cause you to feel self conscious.

If you can identify what the limiting thoughts are, you can easily remove them by using different techniques such as NLP.

For example you may have looked over at them, noticed they were looking over at you, said something to yourself like "I wish they won't here, Im all sweaty and look horrible" which then caused you to feel bad, and therefore self conscious.
 
Hi guys, thanks for all you support!

@biggestloser105: thanks for you support and positivity!

@Jeanette401: I know exactly what you mean. Everytime I go into the gym i do have a quick look to see if there is anypone I know!

@Peguinita: guess you're right. part of this journey is learning to feel comfy in your own skin and if I am really honest I got a long way to go with that!

@Chloe Braun: this might be a stupid question but what is NLP. As for what I was thinking feeling etc. Well my mind was pretty much all over the place: main things I remember feeling was "OMG are they watching me", "what are thiey thinking", then came up with what they were thinking. "why are there people around". Then randomly started think of stuff that happened in sports lessons at school. Then I started thinking back to how I loved people watching me when I played tennis! To be honest this is just some of the stuff i though of. Feelings wise i just felt panicked and really scared but not sure why i was so panicky!

thanks guys!
 
aly6690 said:
Ok, I've been going to the gym and working out with a trainer for a couple of months now, and am losing weight steadily. At first, I used to be very self concious whether I was on my own or with my trainer in the gym but slowly that went and it bothered me less and less whether the gym was empty or really busy. recently, my trainer decided to workout outside in the park...despite the crap weather! Anyway, yesterday everything was going ok then a group of guys came into the park and were playing football. From the minute the enetered, I completely lost interest in training. My trainer picked up on it but didnt push it. But on the walk back, he said that I went from giving it my all to "wanting to get out of there asap". He said that it was something he wanted to talk about before my next session, but I really dont know what to say.

Does anyone else ever get this sort of feeling? Has this happened to anyone else and if so how did you deal with it?

Thanks
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I always feel super self-conscious when I start working out in a new place. When I first started going for walks outdoors, I'd only go at night so nobody could see me, I'd go to the gym later in the evening or make somebody go with me so I wouldn't have to be alone, and I'm kind of nervous about trying out the rec centre at my uni later this week once term starts back up. I think after awhile it's less about feeling legitimately self-conscious with being over weight and working out and more about being in a new place.

I'd just think and focus on what exactly about the situation was making you feel nervous or like you wanted to leave and talk to your trainer about that. It really just might be because it's a foreign location and you need to get used to it like you got used to the gym. :)
 
I try not to think about it till tonight cause i wore a tanktop and my sports bra and i guess it was cold O.O i was sitting on one of hte weight machines and looked in the mirror and was like oh snap girls calm down HAH, but when im on the elliptical i have my head phones in and half the time my eyes are closed and im mouthing words to songs i know people look at me well i guess they do when i look like im lip singing but i dont care about that it gets me thru the sweating and pushing against the resistance of the elliptical. BUT i did care tonight about the girls being eh alert. Oh i also dont like to look like a clueless person trying to work some of the weight machines expecially when i first started going id stand there read the intructions on the side adjusting levels blah blah. We all have our quirks for sure. I just try and pretend im the only one there.
 
I love to see big people working out, but only if they're working hard. What I hate to see are the big guys that only do bicep curls, or the big ladies that walk and hold onto the treadmill for 20 minutes. But here's the thing: I hate it because I know that they think they're helping themselves. I hate it because the industry and the media have brainwashed us into thinking that exercise is easy when it's not. I hate it because I want to help, but I'm actually thinking that you'd be too self-conscious (or arrogant) to let me.
 
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