Feeling helpless

[bebapayne]

Every morning it's the same. "I'm going to start working out tonight when I get home from work and I'm going to eat super healthy and I'm going to lose a bunch of weight." But then 6:00 rolls around, I walk through the front door and I just have no motivation. I change into something comfortable and I sink into the couch, watching ANW or Teen Mom. I can't help it. I'm a lazy person. But it doesn't help that my boyfriend is also lazy. He isn't there to pick me up off the couch and kick my butt until I work out. He isn't there to tell me that if I spend just 30 minutes working out, I'll feel better.

Together we weigh about 500 pounds and I CANNOT STAND IT. I want to and I need to do something about this, but I just cannot find the motivation.

I'm going for a bike ride today. It might be only 20 or 30 minutes, but it's more than I did yesterday. That's my DAY ONE.

Stay tuned for DAY TWO.

 

[Cate]

Hi bebapayne (beba from now on, unless you would prefer something else) & a great big welcome to the forum.
It is totally up to you to do something about it.
Walk in the door, change into something comfortable & then walk straight out again & just go for a walk. Take a water bottle. Start using an app that tracks your food & exercise. (a lot of us use My Fitness Pal). Start with a small walk.
Have a proper plan.
If there is unhealthy food in your apartment DO NOT EAT IT. If your bf insists on having it there, then that is his problem.
Start making small adjustments.
Drink more water.
Stairs instead of elevators.
Eat less processed food.
Eat more vegetables & fruit & have lean protein, rather than fatty protein.
Cut down on (or scrap) deep-fried food & other junk food.
Be strong & tell your BF that you want to do this, even if he doesn't. I think you will find that he comes on board once he sees you losing weight & being more active.
If he doesn't do it anyway.
9 years ago I used to weigh 30kg(66lbs) more than I do now. I can tell you now I feel great about that. You have to be determined & strong & you will reap the benefits for the rest of your life.
BUT...
You have to start. Why not start, right now? No excuses.
We'll be here to support you.
You can do this. Cheers, Cate.

 

[Llama]

Welcome Beba! Cate is always a good person to listen to, but I'm going to add my 2 cents anyway:
- your boyfriend isn't responsible for what you do, you are.
- you don't have to change everything at once; start with something small so you won't get overwhelmed. (For example: if you commute by public transport, get off one or two stops earlier than normal to get that walk in before getting home and crashing onto the couch. Leave one bite on your plate every meal. Or eat a small salad with light dressing before your meal.)
- you can do it, and we'll try to help!

 

[jen_renee]

I hate exercise. Anyone that reads my diary knows that. I'd much rather sit on the couch and watch TV or look at Pinterest. I've managed to lose large amounts of weight in the past though. If I can do it, so can you. I'm super lazy. haha! Baby steps!! Cate and LaMa's suggestions are great! Welcome to the forum!