Failing Misserably, Am I a Closet Eater

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I havent excersized the last several days because of Christmas traveling and plans. I have been eating like a pig. I think i HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM that is getting worse. I have been hiding and eating. Like if there is a box of donuts in the breakroom at work I will take one when nobody is around and run in the bathroom and lock the door so nobody sees me eat it. i do the same stuff at home with my family. I have no limits to how much I will eat. And the insane thing is that I am not even hungry! Hunger has nothing to do with food for me. I rarely ever have felt real hunger. And there is nothing so wrong about my life to blame it on my problems. I have no clue why, but it is compulsive and uncontrollable. How did I get to be like this? How do I change?
 
I used to be the same way. I felt that because I was heavy, I needed to hide eveything I eat and not let people see me eating "bad" stuff.

You need to just start eating healthy. One thing I recommend is eating on a schedule, not when hungry. Eat smaller meals every 3-4 hours and you will never be hungry. It keeps your metabolism running high, and your body will stop storing so much fat because it knows it will get to eat again soon.

It's hard to change your eating habits at first. But once you keep going with it, you'll find you don't crave junk food so much. Also, you'll find that you feel sick when you do eat the junk food. I never believed this, but after years of yo-yo dieting, I've found that it's true.
 
I used to do that sometimes too!!!
I once ate a family size can of Raviolies in my shed.............who knows why??? Now I no longer do that crap........just never let yourself eat in hiding...say "ok, if i want this i have to eat it right here in a normal place...The tabel....the break room...where ever" and you might not do it again....if nothing else you will be breaking the weird habbit of sneaky snacking....it is humiliating and brings with it feelings of shame......Its like if no one saw....did it really happen????....but we know it did, and we think we are nuts for doing it!!!! But it is not nuts it's just part of this issue we have with food and our weight!!!!
just set rules and limits for yourself about how and where you can eat....and then stick to it!!!
good luck sister!!! STAR
 
Hey sorry your feeling down tom! I can still eat like that
and that's what angers me the most I have lost 50lbs out
of 105 that I need to lose and I can still eat as much as I did
when I started my diet.Christmas time I ate horribly just for
'lunch I would make 1/2 plate fried potatoes covered in melted
cheese and 1/2 plate of ramen noodles covered in cheese the
grab 3-5 pieces of fudge and thats just lunch.We had larosa's
pizza for dinner I had 6 slices and 1 hour later had 1 slice of oreo
edwards pie and I had what I had for lunch at midnight so I know
I had to have eatend 4000-6000 calories and that was a 4 day
holiday for me!So I know where your coming from.But once you spend
a couple day's eating right exersicing you get this wonderful feeling
of accomplishments and you start feeling great again and it makes it that
much harder to pig out! Good luck you'll overcome this,Tammy:)
 
I am trying, I am trying so hard to lay off but its like an itch that needs scratched. It really is an addiction as real and dangerous as any other. I want to pull my hair out. I wish now I hadnt told my family I was dieting, it will be twice the let down if I fail.
 
I feel you pain. But seriously, just cut out all of those goodies for a week and you will be amazed at how different you feel and how you won't crave them so much. Eating healthy feels good. I am amazed at what foods I have grown to love that I thought: ew gross! about before I begans eating healthy.

And just think about how great you will feel and look once you start losing weight. It definitely makes up for going without the junk food.
 
If you continue having problems you might wanna find somebody you can talk to about it, maybe a shrink or something. Could be that theres something deeper causing the issue.
Alternativly you can give it your best shot to give it up, perhaps when you sneak away to eat something switch it for carrot sticks or something you like thats healthier and see how you feel.

Good luck anyway :)
 
I am doing okay right now, taking it hour by hour, and day by bay. It is still difficult for me to stick to my diet but I am determined. Hey, does anyone know how to obtain the weightwatchers point system without joining the club?
 
WW points are just based on calories

Sign up at fitday.com log your calories and try keeping them about 500-1000 or so below your BMR (see for better explaination)
 
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I understand how you feel about eating out of control. It has happened to me so often that if I could remember them all, I still couldn't count them all.

What thintowin said about balance and timing in your eating has been important for me. I have been losing about 2 lbs a week for a month now, while eating plenty, and exercising a little. I think I am even more satisfied about my current feeling of control than I am about the weight loss. The change can be made, despite how difficult you may find it at first.

I think writing down what you want and what you are doing to help you get it helps a lot. Maybe you could start a diary. It also helps to read other people's diaries, especially those who have made substantial progress already. Doing a little exercise helps. I'm guessing that these things help because they are all activities - they're not about trying to deprive yourself or get through life with your hands behind your back - they're positive active things, that seem to have an impact on the automatic part of you and get it to start helping with your weight loss instead of fighting you.

You have a great motivation and lots of determination already. Thinking about small chunks of time like you are is a great help in getting through the beginning of things too. May you achieve many successes in 2007!!:) :)
 
I am now feeling much better about my diet. I found a calorie calculator that said to maintain my weight I needed around 2500 calories a day. I have cut that daily buy 1000 to 1500 which I think is pretty good. I have also been doing simple exercises daily. At first I felt like I was starving in between meals and the urge to cheet waws almost irrisistable. Now I feel like I could probably have waited a bit longer before I ate again, even though I am taking in so much fewer calories. It has only been a full week now, but I am feeling great about it. I feel like for once I found something that I can stick to. And I like the food i have been eating. A breakfast bar in the morning, a lean cusine or smart ones, or healthy choice meal for lunch, another one for dinner, and then a low cal snack after dinner. For my snack, one night I had a hard boiled egg, then anouther time a plain baked potatoe with mrs dash, and one night a peice of jelly toast, once a single small pancake... I have discovered there are a lot of low cal foods I enjoy, and that the serving size is important. I eat slower, chew slower, and in between i try to keep buissy to burn calories better. Sticking to a schedual of what to eat and when has probably been the greatest help because my body is getting to feel in tune with it and accept it. I have now no desire to cheat. I know it has just been a week but I am thrilled, I have never felt this confident about a diet before.
 
Wow! :D That is some turnaround. Good on you for sticking with it through the first week! Congratulations on your weight loss too! :)
 
Be careful not to eat to FEW calories. The minimum recommended for women is 1200 per day, I'm not sure what the men's minimum is.

But if you don't eat enough, you may not lose any weight. Especially if you are working out....
 
Just a little piece of advice for anyone who has found themselves getting into closet eating. First of all, I would suggest to anyone who is into closet/binge eating and is exhibiting any other signs of compulsive behaviour or depression that you speak to a mental health professional. There may be an underlying problem there that could need treatment.
But my advice is less radical and actually pretty simple! I have a friend who was an overeater and lived with roommates. Rather than overeating in front of the other girls, she would take her meals to her room and overeat there. When she told me about it, I told her to start concentrating on items around her that she strongly associates with certain people (ie. photos of friends, a teddy bear from her boyfriend, a blanket from her grandmother). I suggested that she really think about what these items mean to her - that they were a representation of these people in her life. Then, when she would retreat to her room to overeat, to focus on these symbols of friends and family and imagine herself pigging out in front of them. She thought it was a ridiculous idea, but eventually she told me that it really worked! That when she would try to hide out in her room she would feel like she wasn't alone, and that she wouldn't want to disappoint any of the people represented by the things in her room by harming her body like that. I feel really proud of her. She does still tend to overeat, but the closet eating has stopped for months now. :)
 
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