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appleeyes

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i had a healthy baby girl nov 25
im so incredibly happy
but i cant handle the fact that i used to be a size 00 and now a size 9/10 its extremly discouraging and i know i should be patient but all my friends keep on asking my why im fat they dont fully understand the fact that i had a baby and what it does to your body. ive never got over 108 pounds now im at 145 and i cant seem to get rid of any of hit. im half japenese so i have a small bones and body structure so a lil baby fat on me looks horrible. please help i cant sleep and extremly depressed.​
 
I feel for you. Every new Mom feels the way you are right now. I say--don't be patient. BE ACTIVE. Your baby will enjoy some fresh air as much as you will. Get out for a walk, if you have a jogger--use it!! If cold or inclimate weather is a problem, then walk the Mall. Also, I found that finding other new moms in your area helped. Look in the newspaper for support groups for new moms. They are out there. Don't let a little extra weight get you down--just focus on one day at a time and doing SOMETHING active for that day. When you stay focused, comments from others won't bother you as much. Set a goal and focus on that--NOT the negative. Hang in there--You Can Do It!
 
You've come to the right place Jessica! Welcome! Everyone on here is incredibly supportive and helpful. Congratulations on your new arrival too!
Good luck and I look forward to hearing about your journey to a fab new you!
You can do it!:)
 
thanks for the reply its just hard sometimes im 16 and all my friends have there own life and it feels like i have no one but my baby girl i thank God everyday for her she means so much to me i just wish this could be a lil easier
 
Calm down, babe. You just had your baby, give your body some time and have a little faith! A modest amount of exercise should go a long way for someone so young. Don't listen to your friends -- if they are seriously calling you fat, they're jerks and you don't need them.

If you have someone who can take care of your baby while you're at the gym, that would be a good idea. If you don't have someone who can look after her, then what the others suggested, walking/jogging with her is a great option. You're in AZ so the climate should be on your side, if not right away then at least pretty soon.

Do not panic, having a baby is a HUGE deal for your body and anyone who doesn't understand that needs to do some research. Just be patient, be kind to yourself, and take it a few pounds at a time.
 
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Give yourself a little time! *encouraging smile* You just had your baby. Having that beautiful little girl is a wonderful exchange for some temporary body fat. Slow and steady will bring it down. Eat healthy and walk often! As someone else said - take it just a few pounds at a time and you'll get there.
appleeyes said:
thanks for the reply its just hard sometimes im 16 and all my friends have there own life and it feels like i have no one but my baby girl i thank God everyday for her she means so much to me i just wish this could be a lil easier
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I bolded part of what you posted earlier. Your "own life" now consists of your little girl. *gentle smile* Every decision you make from now on will include both of you. You can lose the pregnancy weight! Keep researching and enjoying your baby. What is her name? *smile*
 
OK - when I read your first post, I wondered how old your friends where - if they're complaining that you haven't lost the weight yet, there was some serious immaturity in action.

Your life will never be the same, parenting is a huge task - and your friends are NOT gonna get it. Simply because *nothing* in their lives comes close to the importance of what you must do - and that's to be a good mommy to that little girl.

Take your weight one day at a time - eat healthily, exercise a bit more, but focus on taking good care of you and that baby.

What those "friends" think means NOTHING in the overall scheme of what should be important now.

Best of luck to you, and remember, it's one day at a time!
 
After I read your first post I had this long reply in my head already formulated but after reading M2M's reply all I can say is DITTO! She hit the nail on the head and I don't think I could say it any better...so I won't try. :p

But seriously, you have just entered into the most precious time of your life, enjoy that, become more active and live a healthy life so that you can be a good role model and mother for that beautiful baby...not for your "friends."
 
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