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rivergirl89

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I hate it when someone calls me beautiful and I don't feel it.... I feel like my weight totally ruins any looks that I have. Does anyone else feel this way? Ever since I gained weight my confidence has totally disappeard and I guess I can't wait for the day that I feel good in my own skin again.
 
I know what you mean.

Women always tell me I look younger than my age (27) by telling me I look 19 or 20 and they say stuff like I would be dateable if only I were in shape.

Oh the pain! lol.

Hmmm, though I guess its encouraging they must see a hot guy underneath my weight.

Slowly but surely I'm bringing that man out!
 
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haha I feel bad for complaining but I'm having a bad night and I'm so sick of feeling like I'm not good enough or not feeling like myself b/c of my weight. This really helps motivate me though, that's good right? I actually had a problem w/ an ex of mine b/c of all of this.. he knew me and was w/ me before I gained weight and ever since I gained weight I just didn't feel good enoguh for him anymore (he's the typical tall, dark, and handsome perfect type of guy) and I guess that really just did a lot on my self-esteem. But the sad thing is that I can't blame him for not thinking I'm good enough for him once I gained the weight.....
 
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I would think so.

Its always good to put your thoughts out there.

Gives you perspective and all that and hey if you're the type that gets cheered up by someone that is perhaps worse off than you I'll tell ya something sad that happened to me recently.

I actually had a semi attractive girlfriend who left me for a guy fatter than me.

It hurts I can't deny but a part of me can't help but laugh a lot about it.

I guess love really is blind huh?

Then again maybe she is just a chubby chaser and was turned off by my announcement of losing weight. Oh damn talk about self sabotage lol.
 
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CrunkChipmunk said:
I would think so.

Its always good to put your thoughts out there.

Gives you perspective and all that and hey if you're the type that gets cheered up by someone that is perhaps worse off than you I'll tell ya something sad that happened to me recently.

I actually had a semi attractive girlfriend who left me for a guy fatter than me.

It hurts I can't deny but a part of me can't help but laugh a lot about it.

I guess love really is blind huh?
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I am not that type and I'm sorry if I'm coming across as that type and I'm sorry for what happend to you.. I guess I just need to get this out and I thought maybe someone on here would understand how I'm feeling...
 
Oh I meant no offense. I've always had a habit of being able to cheer friend's up with my various misfortunes.

In anycase I do understand what you were getting at with not being able to feel good being a bit overweight when people compliment you regardless of that.

Well in my case more than a bit.
 
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Oh I meant no offense. I've always had a habit of being able to cheer friend's up with my various misfortunes.
In anycase I do understand what you were getting at with not being able to feel good being a bit overweight when people compliment you regardless of that.

Well in my case more than a bit.
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Sorry to hear that... that type of stuff doesn't really cheer me up. But I wish ya all the luck with this whole weight loss thing. I myself have about 70 lbs to loose. And thanks for listening to me vent haha it did help improve my mood a bit...
 
Well....

I saw your befores...and you ARE beautiful.

It is rough sometimes to accept that...when all you think about is a goal. The only problem with not believing it...is that if you don't believe it now; do you think you will when the goal is reached?

I think you need to look beyond the weight, and weight loss for something else that makes you feel like you are un-attractive.

As for the guy that you think you aren't good enough for... Here's my take, and I am a guy...so it is a different perspective.

If he looks at you for only what you look like....why do you even care. If that was the entire problem with the two of you in the first place....then F-him...

There are people we dance with, and people we marry...and very rarely are they the same people...the question is:

What are you looking for now?
 
Chef thanks for the compliment and we had more problems than this but he doesn't even really matter I just had a run in with him and that's why I mentioned him... I used to be a lot thinner and I was totally happy w/ how I looked and I don't think I'm ugly now I just feel like I'm not at my best and I'm the type of person that needs to the best in everything to feel good about myself... I guess you can say I'm a bit of a perfectionist and I'm not juts this way w/ my looks I'm this way with in every aspect of my life. I just can't accept or be happy w/ how I am now physically...
 
None of us accept what we look like now, or how we are shaped these days...

If we did this would be beauty forums instead of the weight loss forums hon.

Just because you can't be happy with how you are, doesn't mean you can't be happy with who you are!
 
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LOL chef I feel dumb for even posting this thread last night but I was just having a horrible night. I feel better today and I'm not happy with how I look right now but I am happy that I'm doing something to change it and that's what keeps me going.:) Thanks for listening.:)
 
i agree in a way

rivergirl89 said:
I hate it when someone calls me beautiful and I don't feel it.... I feel like my weight totally ruins any looks that I have. Does anyone else feel this way? Ever since I gained weight my confidence has totally disappeard and I guess I can't wait for the day that I feel good in my own skin again.
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well i think when we have a compliment given to us we should except it and let it motivate us you know? if you are told you are beautiful now just let it motivate you into the state of mind of "wow im beautiful now imagine what theyll say when i lose my weight" i dotn know thats how i look at it :)
 
i know the feeling. i usually just mutter a thanks and try to figure out how they got to the conclusion that i am beautiful!
 
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