Did U screw up? Food Forgiveness, :)

reach4Astar

reach4Astar

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Ok so did you totally eat something you should not have??
did you over eat and now you feel like kicking your own ass??
Well dwelling on the fact will only make it worse............we are only human and we mess up somtimes .................and we all know that a mess up does not mean failure........failure occurs when you stop trying...........so here is the place to admitt your food sins...........forgive your self and move on. I feel like i need a place to vent this issue and thought others might as well............so...... I guess I will be the first to find food redemption!!!

tonight I ate 3 slices of supreme pizza from pizza hut and had a breadstick too............I have been being really good on my food and exercise.....I waited to long to eat supper because of work and ended up eating more than i wanted cuz i was starving!!!
so to correct this and keep it from happening again i pledge to myself that i will not skip dinner and will keep some slimfast shakes or meal replacement bars at my office or in my car for nights when dinner is not going to happen!!!

ok i feel better now!!!
STAR
 
Do you really need forgiveness?

I dunno, for me personally I dont sweat things like that. I look at it more like this.....

When we were children we made mistakes. In our home lives, with our friends, in our homework and on our exams. This is a natural part of growing up and I would never think a child should need to forgive him/her self because they werent perfect. That would just be silly and counter productive. Learning through mistakes is one of the best teaching methods there is. I know, I am a teacher! :)

Now, look at us. All grown up and still making mistakes. The only difference is we feel the need to forgive ourselves for them. But why? Aren't we all like children in this journey? If it weren't a learning process we would all be perfectly fit and healthy already. But thats simply not the case. We need to re-teach ourselves how to eat, move and think. We have to re-learn control of our eating and hunger, and we need to study damn hard to do so. Had I put as much study and effort into my school work as I have in the weight loss battle recently, I would have graduated with the highest honors and had a couple doctorate degrees by now.

So I dont really think forgiveness, at least in my books, is an issue. I see it more as acceptance of the fact we WILL all make mistakes. My biggest struggle up till recently wasn't being able to say "oops, I am sorry about that body..", it was learning to accept the fact I am human and not perfect. By doing so I am learning and using that experience in a positive way to grow from it. Saying your sorry sometimes is the same as admitting you were wrong. Most of us here when we slip off the wagon are not wrong in any way shape or form, we just had a moment of weakness, a VERY human trait.

Reach4Astar, you a great example of that. You had a mistep and you learned from it. Now you are going to try to keep healthy foods around and change an eating habit that leads you to situations you feel bad about afterwards. I see nothing to be sorry about. You have accepted the fact it happened and are going to make a concerted effort to change that aspect of your life which could lead to those problem areas in the future. I see nothing negative about your attitude at all that would require any sort of appology, especially to yourself.

And not just that. But you have taken it further. You have posted your moment of weakness which will honestly really help others out there as well. In my eyes you have nothing at all to be sorry for. You turned a negative into a positive on many levels. Not only have you accepted you took a mistep, and you are learning from it, but you are acting as a teacher to help pass along that learning.

For me, I am following a new plan which has been wildly successful so far and is seeing me lose more weight than ever. I have "days off" Where I will eat those super yummy restaurant foods I would never eat at home, I do drink 2-3 beers and feel no guilt, and I will buy ice cream for my daughter and her friends, and one for me too! I use that day to get out all my hidden and secret desires and it feels great! If it fools my metabolism into turning up a notch later in the week that is an added bonus. Who knows, your 3 pieces of pizza could have done the same for you.

Long story short, I don't think any of us has anything to really be sorry about. Our mistakes and misteps are not as destructive as we might think and just proves we are human. If we were not, we would be machines, and what fun would that be? Accept your humanity, accept your misteps and better yet, use them as learning/teaching materials, and you will have nothing in the world to be sorry about. In fact you should be proud. If it means anything, I am proud of you.


sirant
 
Well said Sirant and how right you are. I have only been on my health kick for over a week now but I was a heavy drinker who ate loads of choc bars and biscuits plus no excerise....Now I am cycling to work, 9 mile return trip, have cut out loads of junk food and was drinking no alcohol. I have decided though to allow myself a glass of red wine a night and enjoy the odd bar as a treat. I reckon my extra excerise and cutting back will still enable me to reach my target of losing 30lbs....Anyway good luck all :)
 
i am one of those people who could fall off the wagon, feel totally disgusted with myself and never get back on (well not until it was time for the next "diet")
well this time i still fall of the wagon occasionally, but instead of dwelling on it like before i now do as sirant does. i have cheat evenings a couple times a month. whatever i crave/want i`ll have. so far i have had no problem. in fact it seems to be working well. partly cos i dont feel totally deprived and secondly with me too it seems to kickstart my weightloss if its been a bit sluggish.
so try not and feel bad about it, i bet that pizza was delicious at least at the time.slim
 
Have a piece of chocolate - a one ounce piece of really good dark chocolate can be fit into pretty much any program...
 
Bad month >__<;

I been having the worst month in a long while. >__<; Holidays always ruin it for me... I loos all self control. -_-; The thing is I know that one day wont ruin it... but that one day turns into another day and then another. Then I loose all will to continue.

But it last for a week or so then I come to my senses again and get back on track, usually. But this time around I've had some serious problems. >___>;; Like the last couple of days I've been eating wasa crisp bread, and one peice wouldn't be a big deal... but I've managed to eat a whole 300 grams pacage in TWO days. >___<;;

That's NOT good....

And I beat myself up about it. But it's like... once I start eating I can't stop. Not when it's something I really really like. *sighs* It's really frustrating. Like even if I though, 'I'll only have 2 peices' I end up getting more.... because it's soooooo good. So in the end I eat so much I almost feel ill. -_-;;

It wasn't this hard before, I could easily stick to my diet... but not now. >___<;; And I dunno why!

I'm having a better day today though... but I'm still annoyed at myself. And I will be until I've gotten some more control over my eating habits again.

^__^;; I'm just gonna stop now. A confession about my cheating to everyone. :p
 
Sirant you are right..........I don't really need forgiveness, I just feel better when i get it out there.........It's like a spring board for sucess;) ........admit what you did wrong, talk about it....and move on...... and writting it down helps me to see the errors and how i could correct them.........and telling someone makes me feel accountable and makes it not a dirty little secret but a normal kinda screw up............I can't doo cheat days......I am like Yoji, one day can turn into a month quite easily.........I admire thoes who can do a cheat day and jump right back on the wagon the next day........for me i gotta realize my triggers and what whacks me off, (that sounded bad!:eek: ) what tripps me up and try to plan ahead..............pizza and me don't mix, so if i screw up i can come here and let off the guilt steam and move on.......and if othere post here, I can see that it truly is normal and does not mean failure...........and they can do the same!!! so its all good!!!
STAR:D
 
badcompany said:
Just curious as to how a lot of you deal with a choc craving ?
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I drink something and wait if I still I want chocolate I have a fat free chocolate pudding.. if it's a slight craving. If it's a full fledged craving, nothing else is going to satisfy me, I have what I am craving, if I don't I over eat other things.

and then eat what I wanted to begin with.
 
I think the important thing is to eat healthier and work out a little more the next day instead of beating yourself up over it...I did make a bad choice last week though...I had a SMALL french fry from steak and shake and later checked the calories online to find it was like 23 grams of bad fat and 600 calories!!!!! WOW all the healthy choices I could have had for 600 calories and they would have probably filled me up better too!
 
I had a SMALL french fry from steak and shake and later checked the calories online to find it was like 23 grams of bad fat and 600 calories!!!!! WOW all the healthy choices I could have had for 600 calories and they would have probably filled me up better too!
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Don't beat yourself up! Everyone needs a little 'sumpin, sumpin', now & then.
I am so looking forward to my birthday lunch.
A&W Teen burger & diet root beer float. 607 calories & I plan on enjoying every single one.
I haven't had a burger in six months.
 
I eat 2 chocolate chip cookies almost every day :D

Now...if I ate the whole bag - well then...I'd be right here fess'ing
 
I didn't eat for all too long today... And then when my fiance was on his way from work I asked him to stop by TACO BELL for a nacho bellgrande.
It was bloody delicious!!!.. but I know that it's about 790 cals. ANd right now I got a Werthers hard candy in my mouth.

I'll make up for it though :D
 
Chocolate chip cookies are evil. Unnecessary calories (i would estimate, about 120 calories pure cookie), so thats what, about 30 min at the gym to burn off that 240 calories.

I compare everything now to time spent at the gym :p
 
The pecan chocolate chip cookies in my cookie jar are 170 calories for 2. Provided I make room in my calories for them, and don't eat the full cookie jar, I'm ok with it.

I've always said if I felt deprived, I would never stick to it. Learning to live with food I enjoy in a healthy way has been far more beneficial to me then simply trying to avoid it altogether.
 
bless me forum, for i have sinned, this is my first confession.

I havn't had dinner yet, but i have been eating like a little pig all day.... all good/healthy food but perhaps too much of it... for example for lunch i had a chicken breast with salsa and melted cheese (the cheese totally upped my calories for the day) and i have a cup of brown rice probably should have stuck with half a cup... and 2.5cups of salad, with feta and cranberries probably should have had 1 cup and no feta given the chicken had cheese on it tooo....I LOVE CHEESE! CHEESE PLEASE! MORE CHEESE!!!!!!
well now i'm just about at my caloric intake for the day and i think for dinner i can only afford to eat some veggies...and maybe squeeze in a half cup of rice...drink lots of water to make myself feel full....
 
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