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...ON the home front: Well,...things have changed alright...On Friday...my boyfriend and I had a talk...and he basically told me that he is stressed the hell out by finances. A while back we had talked about him moving to his friend's warehouse where he could live for free and save money. We have lived together for
5 years now. He is a day trader so he is contantly studying and working on the computer...for hoursssssss....and he basically told me..that he felt "
cluttered" . Mentally...and that he feels pressure, and that his mom not working and him having to support her and his brother and then having me there all the time, without having a day or two to think is causing him additional pressure because he feels he has to support me. I felt really bad...and he told me that sometimes he wasn't happy. He said not in the relationship, but in life in general. He is going to be 33 in April and the pressure is on that he puts on himself.
There's a lot of things that I haven't done in my life...like completely live on my own...and I think these are things that he wants to see me do in my life, and honestly ...yea...I think I do too. So since he told me that...I made the decision to
start moving my stuff out, and go back to my mom's (where I'm writing from right now). At the time of the talk, he seemed frustrated and basically worried about "
making it"...and barely staying afloat. Not something out of the ordinary with this economy right now. Yes, ...it did hurt...
but I am wise enough to realize, that other people's feelings and or actions about a situation are merely a reflection of what is going on within them, and has nothing to do with me.
He told me he loves me.

..and that he wants to be with me, no doubt about that..and that if we are going to make this work, that we need to focus on us and evolving. Honestly, I respect him and love him so much as well as myself, that I chose to stay strong and make the happiest time of the weekend and focus on the positives of staying with my mom. ( I assume we are like caterpillars right now and need to evolve into butterflies...

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1) I'll be close to work
2) I'll cuddle with Roman more.---,my little brother
3) See my mom more
4) Go to the gym at night and morning since I no longer have him by my side to want to run home to cuddle with
5) Focus more on school and completing my graduation TONS of hours online as well as in class
6) Focus on my business more
7) read more...focus on ME more...
.....And then we had the greatest weekend together!

We actually acted like first romance in the beginning...it was strange that it would come after something like that. I guess it really makes you realize what you have when you are near losing it. For the both of us I think.
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All in all....last night, I went to pack my stuff and I got kinda sad

and went to hug him and hide in his cubby hole..hiding my desire to cry...(because I was allowing my thoughts to get ahead of me for a second) and he lifted my face up...and told me that
"No babe...I don't want you to pack your stuff and not live with me...I just need a few days to focus and study". And this morning he told me I'll see you in a couple days. I guess the reason I got sad was because...."
DO I JUST WANT TO RETRACT NOW!?" ....I want to make people happy...in my life and others. That's all..and if things become not happy for someone at times...then I think yes, space is the best option for the situation to gain clarity. Time heals all circumstances, and remaining in the "present moment of well being" does as well.
...I personally,...feel that ..yes,
one day I do want to marry this man...but he's comfortable as am I...and he kept saying
"I want to do this right babe.." meaning ...we have lived together since 3 months. We didn't really date at all. I get him. We just did live together...it wasn't a mutual decision...and that's what's maybe the underlying issue here too as well...
The thought initially hurt to go backwards in the relationship it seemed at first, but then I gained clarity....knowing that "I am in the perfect place at the perfect time for me, and my desires."!
....Even though he may want me to come back in a couple days,...I have now found the benefits of remaining here Mon-Friday at least. He told me that he wants to take me snowboarding for Valentines day. (which is how we really got together 5 years ago)...and it touched my heart. I saw him try so much to be soooo sweet...and it really broke my heart as well as made me happy. I think we just both want to miss each other and bring back more life to the relationship. We really do love each other so much.
...I asked him though..to be honest and tell me if this is an illusion and I'm living in denial here, and the sincerity in his eyes...it said it all...he does love me...it's just
PRESSURES OF LIFE!!!...
I respect that and love both of us enough to understand that like an adult realizing that, yes, I do love you and yes, I do love me enough to work hard and find me..and take care of me...so that I can live on my own and if the day comes and he happens to be the right man for me...then GOD will allow for us to be happily married.
...Months back he told me that he really didn't think of marriage ever...and that somewhat set me free...to live in the "present moment" allowing it to be what it is... All in all...he's not congruent with what he says on Friday to what he said yesterday...and now I just want ME TIME!
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I am not sad one drop!! I miss him already...I am not calling him, nor looking for him because he mainly needs the space. So be it. I hope that God allows for him the clarity and desire and drive that he needs to find what he lacks in his life. And if space is that what he lacks...be it "granted"!
.....On the food front: I have been stupendous this past week, amidst the stress...unfortunately I often don't have time to take a lunch and get stuck eating at my desk...booo...so I bring oatmeal and little snacks. I just finished TOM this week...actually today...and I weighed myself and only smashed .25 of a lb. Woopti doo!...hahha....
I am SUPER HAPPY always..because I am grateful to have all the love I need in life in ME!!!
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I love LIFE...and I thank GOD for everyone and everthing that crosses my path because it is meant for me at that moment in time...as is the same for all of you!!!
.....I feel blessed...and happy.....and though I miss my baby...I notice how much I have grown this past year...
I AM STRONG NOW!! It's amazing...I can control what would have tore me up for a week mentally before...in a couple hours ...sometimes less....it really is all in the
power of perception.
.....My 1/2 Marathon was cancelled due to some stupid rain...I went one hour drive to the Expo and NADA...so that was that. Another thing that just wasn't meant to be!!! I
MISS YOU ALL!! Thank you for the love..you have no idea how much it means to me!!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!! ...
...this week...I will
SMASH some pounds for that ass!!!

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