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Well I am here to confess that I have had another breakout. Lollies this time. Lots of them and put on weight again too. I feel as though I will be stuck in the 75s for ever because I keep sabotaging my efforts. I know what to do, I know how to avoid deviations but I just do it anyway. I am mad with myself and disappointed that my willpower is so weak. I am starting again. Now when have I said that before? Too many times!! I am sick of doing this and sick of feeling ashamed of it but I still keep doing it. My greatest motivation is weight loss and yet it isn't enough to stop me eating junk.
 
Hello everyone, I hope the sun is shining where you are!

L-Jay: Sounds like you are having a really hard time. You have been so strong for so long, and it is hard when progress is slow. Also our hormones can play havok!! I am so fortunate that is not happening for me at the moment. I know what it can be like. You hang in there because you deserve this.

So to all who are struggling ... you have to make a choice.
I guess I am commenting on my journey here. As you know I am losing slowly. And in the last couple of months it has slowed down again. So I made some enquiries and Dr Cohen has made some comment - and I have had great chats with consultants to try and get my head around this.

There are 10% of population that are slow - nobodies fault - just the facts, and I am one of them. Because of that it has taken nearly a year to reach this point - not through going off and eating off the plan, but simply because I am slow.

What can happen is that as it approaches 9 -12 months, the body may have reached it's metabolic equilibrium on this plan. That is what we are all trying to do of course, but can be a reason for further slow down which is what I am experiencing. I have 3 options ...
1. Throw it all in due to frustration! Can't do that, I have worked too hard for this and I deserve to achieve my goals here.
2. I can cut my losses for now and Dr Cohen will issue my refeed immediately. (Apparently he is tightening up on early refeeds I hear) He sees that could be a reasonable option for me at this point.
3. Continue as I am - maybe only losing 2.? or 3.? per 4 weeks. Need patience!

Here is my decision ....
I had wanted and expected to be finished by October at the very latest - this is wk 50. I have some residential conferences back to back followed by holiday, so I have set my last day of refeed as Friday 22nd October and therefore on Saturday 23rd after weighing and measuring I will have completed 67 weeks and will be fantastically ecstatic about 'life after ..!!"

This means I may or may not be exactly where I want to be. I should be pretty close, but all I can do is my best and get as close as I can.

After my holiday I will have 3 more choices ...
1. Decide I am happy where I am and stay there.
2. Go back on it to lose the last few kilos - may be worthwhile.
3. This option links in with the decision I had to make for now - that is, to wait 3 months then to have new blood tests and have a new profile and therefore a new program.
That is a choice I had to make if I got refeed now. You have to wait 3 months. Going off the program now will lead me to life after and balance things for now, and although it keeps you balanced there for life, if I want to maybe kickstart my body for the last bit, I need to go through the process again after 3 mths for them to make a new plan.

I have been tossing this over in the last couple of days, but don't want to delay what I am doing - my mind was plugged in until October, so unless it slows down further I will stick with it. But if afterwards I feel it is the best option then I will consider it for early next year.

So it has been a bit up and down thinking this through - and I just want to say to each of you - make the most of what you ARE losing and the opportunity you have. Things don't always come to us easy, but decide what is worth fighting for, worth sticking at, and go for it!

Well that's enough for now - rjm hope you are moving forward after missing out, those who are feeling the monthly cravings, remember that they will pass, and those who are sick - don't be too hard on yourself - especially feel for you missys-mum!

My new count down ... 118 Day until Life After! 16 weeks 6 days!

Have a good day,
lizzi
 
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Lizzi, I am curious to know why you need a new plan after 3 months. The "Life After" guidelines state that if you stay within 4-5 kgs of your finishing weight, you can use the same program for the rest of you life! So I am wondering why they are telling you that you need a new program.
 
Hi rjm, I hear the question, and it is certainly one I have been grappling with. This plan that I am on will work, but my metabolism is obviously stubborn (for want of a better word) and it's response is slow.

As far as I can understand, my present program will work and the refeeding program will keep it off. If I am satisfied to wait it out even if my loss slows down more, then my present plan is all I need.

That is part of the decision I had to make, and may have to make later. I certainly average less than a kilo a week - I have had good weeks of 1.2, but then it might only be 0.3 or 0.4 - my average in the last couple of months comes out to about 0.6kg per week. I had a week where I lost nothing and didn't break at all in that week.

Once we go off the plan, even though our plans continue to work for life to keep the kilos off, our blood chemistry changes because we eat different foods. That is why they say that the program may not work as well after we put on more than 4 or 5 kilos. Notice I said 'may not' - it might for some people, that is why some people give it a go. It is just that they can't guarantee it. ... So, what is being offered is the opportunity to plug into that different chemistry after 3 mths, and for my body to have the chance to respond freshly.

Apparently our body can put on new layers of fat, and these can come off easily. Many people can get all their fat off even if they have been overweight for life. But I think that they are saying that some metabolisms can't handle that so their old stubborn layers can be resistant - especially as some (not all) clients approach a year of the body having the same foods and quantities. Maybe it is like a survival mode? So what I have been experiencing is more than the just being cold that you get from this program, but I am also having very low pulse and blood pressure (even though it was high when I started), and the bowel has slowed down too. (It doesn't even respond properly to the tea!!- although every assistance has helped. It took 3-4 days to get a minimal response from the tea brewed strongly!) It seems my body is saying it is in preservation mode!! I really wanted answers from Dr Cohen because of these slow responses. taking some thyroid medications is helping to relieve some of the above, but not enough to make any difference on the scales.

And if I hear correctly, Dr Cohen is saying my body is unlikely to 'speed up' under this present program. That is why he will issue the refeed if I want an out, and why the suggestion is to then wait 3 months, enjoy life after Cohen's, and then go back with a new program - hopefully it would enable me to get an easier result.

My decision is to wait it out until October and see if I make it!! If I do then I won't need a new program.

I hope this makes sense, and I hope I have got it right. I am putting the conversation of 2 consultants together here and hoping that I am being accurate. I took in a lot of technical information in a relatively short space of time. I was so so grateful for the chance to talk and try and understand this.

People don't need to worry about their programs not working or not lasting because they should as has been said. Even if people have a lot to lose this doesn't have to happen to them. Apparently there is no way of guessing who will be in that lower 10% - and it isn't related to age or hormonal status. The initial blood tests don't indicate how the body will respond - I really wanted to ask that. And I think this is really only likely to happen for people who have a lot to lose who approach the 9-12 mths mark and have been losing slowly. I didn't lose 7kgs in my first month, and have only ever averaged 4 or less per month since. Because I was losing so much weight, it therefore was a long time and places me in this situation.

So all you people out there - will me along to my goal by my October deadline! Toss in a few prayers, and we'll see if I can get there.

My new count down ... 118 Days until Life After! 16 weeks 6 days!

lizzi
 
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Cruising...for the time being :)

:) Fornight: Don't think you haven't achieved. That loss is great! Also, keep in mind you will be carrying more water because of your period. I'm also that time of month and find that i'm not going to the toilet as much, i'm drinking just as much so i'm probably holding water at the moment. The great thing is you'll be able to expect another great loss the following week. You've done so well to make it through without too much trouble

:) Rjm: I'm so glad to hear that the scales have moved down for you. You've been really brave to keep on going considering all that's been happening for you. You deserve to congratulate yourself.

:) the old me: sounds as if you having trouble at the moment. I too have experienced the urge to eat wrongly or in my case binge. It's most definitely self sabotage on my part and i've had to work really hard to remember that i deserve to be healthy and slim and feel good about myself. I also keep reminding myself that i'm a child of god and i deserve the best.

We are all unique beings and we all deserve to treat ourselves with respect. I often marvel at how well i feed my kids and then look at how i'm treating my body with disrespect. It sometimes manages to pull me back into line. Maybe focus on that a little. You wouldn't treat anyone else that way? Also give yourself some credit! You HAVE lost weight & you know you are capable. REMEMBER, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE A HEALTHY BODY! Try this website, it was given to me as a link from the guy who owned the Melbourne clinics.... Stay strong, you've come so far.

:) Lizzi..what persistence. You must have had an amazing journey. My jaw drops when i look at your ticker i just can't believe my eyes! You really deserve a pat on the back. Keep focusing on all you have achieved. 64kg is an amazing loss and you must be feeling so much better physically and looking pretty hot too;)

Hope you're all coping okay. I feel I can do this now. I'm sure i'll have slip ups but it's good for now. I conquered the weekend. For me that was a HUGE feat. They're usually my biggest binge times. (if you don't count monday, cause that was usually my 'i'll start tomorrow day'.

:) L-Jay: Hope you're doing okay and your persistence pays off...

Good night everyone. Hope you've had a great weekend and good luck with another amazing cohens week :D
 
Feeling a bit pathetic and shame faced

Thanks Fornight, I appreciate your input and that you took the trouble to comment. Weekends are bad for me too. I think I need to work 7 days a week! LOL

Lizzi, you have had a very big decision but have approached it in your usual sensible way. I feel ashamed of my pigging out when I remember that you stick to it faithfully no matter what. Good on you.

I really need to stop self sabotaging and get a couple of deviation free weeks under my belt. I reckon if I can do that, I can stick to it again. Lets hope I can anyway. It's not as if I don't know what to do. The count starts tomorrow.
 
Keep on going and Saty Strong

Lizzie - Keep on going you get you 118 days under your belt... how fantastic will you feel at the end knowing yoiu have the will power to stay strong and confident to reach your goals...

rjm - to answer your question from a few days ago, i had stayed in the 119's for 8 days... then all of a sudden movement. I vaugly remember my consultant patrica mentioning to us that in a 4 week cycle you will have an estimated 1-2 weeks of slow movement. So maybe it was my slow week as i then dropped 2kg vertually straight away..

fortnight - My hubby and i weigh ourselves every 2nd day and then jot it in a book. we convert that to a excel spread sheet along with a weekly measurement spreadsheet. i will see if i can edit it so you get the basic copy... but you will have to edit dates and stuff...

Keep focused everyone is going great guns.

Tam
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Hi guys, I'm REALLY new...

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I am interested in the Cohen programme, I've got a couple of friends who are just about finished it, and have done really REALLY well.

I was wondering, is there anyone who finished the programme some time ago around here? I am wondering how sustainable it is after you're finished the refeeding (bloody awful term, that!!!).

I have a considerable amount to lose, and just haven't done anything much for a few years (other than maintaining the huge weight I have now), so it's time I did something.

asy :D
 
Hi everyone,
asyoz, hi, and welcome. I finished the re-feed in November last year and had no trouble at all maintaining my weight till February this year when I decided I wanted to lose a little bit more weight and I went back on the program for a week, and then stopped it without doing the refeed again. After this I began to gain weight and that is why I am back doing the program again. I have no doubt that the program works, but feel that you should never try to go on it without completing at least 2 weeks and completing the refeed again. You won't regret starting, if you do, and we'll all be here to give you support. Good luck.
Lizzi, thanks for your explanation, now I understand. I am so glad that I didn't have this slow metabolism. I really don't think I would have the willpower and determination you have. You're not going to know yourself when you can eat "normal"food again. I imagine it will be a bit scary after such a long time. Hopefully you will reach your goal before October and won't need to worry about any of it, but even if you don't you must be looking absolutely fantastic as it is. I'll keep you in my prayers, and see if we can't get this metabolism of yours to speed up a bit.
mumbine, sounds like you are right in the swing of things and doing well. I found that as my body adjusted to the amount of water I was drinking, I didn't need to go to the bathroom nearly as much, and the size of my bladder increased so it could hold a lot more. Well done for getting through the weekend, and if you have made it through the week of your period without too much trouble, you should breeze it in, as that is the hardest week.
the old me, so sorry to hear you had a bad day. I found the 2nd time back on much harder than the 1st time, and I told myself that I was going to stick to this for 2 weeks so I could do the refeed again, and that was all. I made it to 2 weeks (because I knew that I wasn't going to make myself do any more than that if it was too hard), and have found that I am able to keep going for a little while longer. I'll take each day as it comes and any time I find it too hard, I'll start the refeed. When I did this last time, I worked on the same thoughts. I told myself that if it ever got too hard, I would allow myself to complete the refeed no matter what I weighed. I think this prevented me from breaking as I gave myself a "way out", and I knew that if at any time I did break it, I would have to do another 2 full weeks before I could even consider the refeed. Just focus on getting through the next 2 weeks and then take each day as it comes. Hope it helps a bit.
Tasm82, good idea to keep a chart. Looks like your hubby is doing really well too. It must make it much easier to have him doing the same program as you. No tempting food in the house. Tell him we also said congratulations to him. You are both doing really well.
Not much happening for me this evening. I'm hoping the scales will keep their movement up this week, and that I might have a better week than the last 2 weeks have been. We shall see what the morning holds.
Have a great night.
Talk to you all soon.
 
Lizzie- WOW you are an inspiration. I get goose bumps thinking about your efforts and reults. I will be praying that you reach your goal and all goes smoothly.Huge CONGRATULATIONS from me.

ALL- thanks for the discussion about periods. I have only suffered slight discompfort in the past , but today I dont know what hit me, it was unbearable. Can anyone tell why this programme creates this pain. Also have been cold from week 1, does this get better and does it go away in summer.
I have gone back to find who had posted that they drank 4-5 litres of water a day but could not find who ( and in the process lost the message I was typing, I am not reall savvy with computers). I am interested as to why you drink so much water. Was it something suggested to you be the consultants.
Great idea about freezing the diet lemonade. Cant wait to do that one. Thanks to whoever posted it, worried if I go back to get your name I will loose my message again.( If anyone can give me a tip on how to avoid loosing message I would welcome the advice. As for tickkers. Do you have to go through the whole process each time you want to change it, and how often do you change it.

L-Jay - thanks for the warning on spoon licking, last night I thought of you I was preparing a dinner party and had to stop myself doing a taste test three times. I hope you are feeling better.

Thank you everybody your postings are informative and inspirational.
 
beebee Dun think you meant me but I do drink at least 3 litres of water during office hours and if you add up those I drink outside office hours, it should add up to about 4 to 5 litres. The reason I drink so much is due to my consultant's advice. He told us that we need our liver to metabolize the fat. Liver has two functions, metabolize fat as well as to detox but it can only do one thing at a time. Therefore if we drink more water, the kidneys will be able to help to do detox and leaving the liver to concentrate on metabolizing the fat. The kidneys need water to do detox. I heard this from my chinese sinseh before so I start to drink more water.
 
Beebee

Beebee - I think you have been reading an old post of mine... I drank the water out of pure thirst that day. Sitting at work it was easier to drink water than get up to get a can of coke or something. I purely don't recommend to drink that much as i totally lost concerntration and went woozy for the last bit at work - lucky i work within the family business...

rjm - just read your post about the job... not too worry it does seem like your totally busy trying to do everything else.. and starting a business is such hard work... We are thinking of starting a doggy biscuit biseness but trying to find out any information about this is sooo hard... especially since it would be in Kalgoorlie, WA

Fortnight - still trying to get the chart for you... need hubby to alter the axis dates and stuff to be current for you...

Has anyone heard from moni? curious to know how she is going...

Anyways goodnight everyone...

Tam
 
Thanks everyone for your kind words. This forum is really very supportive and you are all an inspiration! That is why we keep logging in - to know that in some shape or form there are others who are trying hard to lose weight. I appreciate your encouragement and your sharing of yourselves. And I also appreciate the prayers!

Tasm82: You and hubby seem to be doing so well! Good for you and I am so glad you are doing it together because it means you can both change lifestyle to accommodate health. When you get through this, you will both be an inspiration to your friends and family, I am sure.

fornight: I am glad they are fixing up the chart for you. I use excel to write it down, etc, but do not do a chart or have it make calculations for me - I do much better with things like powerpoint than I do with something like excel on the computer. But documenting it is one of the highlights of my day in terms of motivation.
With the water, moni was the big water pusher - and others like cryss followed on. You are right about the need for the water. We had several means of calculating how much, and they are somewhere earlier in the forum. I was drinking 5 litres when I was heavier, but have gradually cut down as I lost weight - otherwise you wash away too many electrolytes. Recently I cut it down to between 2 1/2 and 3 1/2 litres. But I am just about to be more consistent with about 3 - 3 1/2 litres, which has been suggested to me by the consultant as ideal for during my weight loss.

beebee: Thanks for the encouragement.It is so frustrating when you lose a post. Been there, done that! I now make sure I don't have to press the back button to find something while I am getting it ready. So I either make sure I only scroll down the page to see the recent posts. OR, I make the post in a word document so I can flip around the forum, then copy it in for posting.

rjm: Thanks for your support, it means a lot. And you seem to be doing OK too. I'm glad that the ticker finally went down. You are so much closer to your goal now, so I hope you can stick it out - then it is done with! And you will be so proud of yourself. You of all people know what it is to have to come back on to the program to lose more. This time you can have a different mindset and there will be a much greater sense of completion for you.

asyoz: Welcome! It is worthwhile to do this. I have known some people who have kept it off. As long as you keep on the program so the refeed is accurate, and do the refeed properly, it seems that people really do keep it off. You will be given tools to enable you to manage it in a way you have never been able to before.

the old me: So glad you think there is some sense locked up in this body of mine - thanks! I try! As for you, what's this shame bit? I understand it, but it would be better to be proud of what you have done. This is a huge issue. Anyone who does not recognize that has not looked around at the mall and seen the mass of people who are overweight. There is more to this than just willpower, so don't beat yourself up. The first practical thing would be to take extra chromium - and if you are, then up the dosage, cos your body must be out of balance somewhere. It is worth looking for the practical reasons rather than just blaming yourself. You can do this, I know you can, you seem a strong and capable person, so look for the reasons - not just lack of willpower! Good luck.

mumbine: Congrats on making it through the weekend! It has obviously been a difficult one for you. Be really proud of yourself for your achievement. And you are right, I have changed a lot and am thrilled so far with the results. I have had people who have walked past without recognizing me and others who have had to look twice. I have friends who now say I am closer to goal than they are! And others telling me I can't need to lose any more ( but they don't see it when I can pick up the fat on my stomach and it is a total handful!! Nor the pockets on the top of my legs or in the small of my back). Clothing covers kilos!!

missys-mum: You hang in there - this has to be your turn, and I can see you really want this for yourself. I hope you are feeling better really soon. It will make the hugest difference.

L-Jay: How did you go on the rest of the weekend? I hope things are ok and you can find your equilibrium. Take care of yourself, it has been a bit discouraging for you lately, yet you yourself are such a positive person. I feel for you.

Time for work,
have a great day,
lizzi
 
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No more ticker movement :(

I shouldn't be too concerned that my weekly weigh in showed no further movement. As i said, i feel as if i'm carrying water at the moment. I'll just have to wait and see how it pans out next week. For now I'm very happy with my 3.7kg weight loss for the week and i'm really hoping that it doesn't drop too dramatically and i can keep up a healthy and motivating loss each week. I have done my measurements and have definitely lost there. It really doesn't seem possible but I am already feeling it in my clothes, mainly pants, my thighs aren't filling them out as much, there's a bit of room to breathe:D

Anyway, i should go and have brekky otherwise i won't be eating dinner until 9pm! Also, sound like i need to up my intake of water, i've been drinking about 2ltrs a day. I'll try more and maybe the scales will move a little faster.

Bye...
 
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Hi everyone,
Beebee, I tend to drink 4-5lts of water a day. This is mainly because the more I drink, the more I find I need. If I don't drink enough water I find myself getting really thirsty and I get this horrible frothy feeling in my throat. My consultant also told me,at the beginning, that as you body loses fat all the toxins are stored in your blood. Your body cannot release any more toxins (fat) into your blood until you flush out the ones that already stored there, so you need to drink lots of water to flush out the old toxins so that your body can lose more weight. The more water you drink, the more weight you lose (that's my motto, anyway).
Mumbine, 3.7kg is terrific for your first week on this. The first week I did this (the first time) I only lost 2.5kg, but still managed 9kg in my first month. It's not surprising that you are feeling it in your clothes. You will not believe how quickly you go through the sizes, it is great. I found that clothes that I had in my cupboard would be too tight one week, fit the next week, and about 2 weeks later would be too big!! After only being back on this for 3 weeks, I am already fitting back into all the clothes that had become too small for me again.
Tasm82, moni and some of the others started another thread. Not sure why. Last time I looked at it she was still doing well.
Lizzi, if anyone is an inspiration, it is you. You seem to have an amazing ability to always find the right word to say to help us through our difficult times. Thanks!
fornight, great description of why we need the water. Thanks.
No movement today, but I musn't be greedy. I seem to be in a better frame of mind at the moment, and am thinking I will just keep going till I can't keep going any more. I really want to get back to 75kg at least, and if I manage I might go a bit less. I am not really thinking that I will go less, but I will leave that option open.
Have a great day everyone.
Talk to you all soon.
 
Thanks everyone for wondering how I got on. Well I splurged big time yesterday, and weighed this morning. Surprised to see I'm only up yo 85.5. You know what? I'm not even feeling guilty. Back on the wagon today.

I figure we have to keep things in perspective. Things wont always be perfect. Our attitude toward these things is what determines whether we will be successful. If we slip up, we have 2 choices - drown our sorrows in more food, or accept it and move on. Thats what I'm going to do. It was a conscious decision I made, and now I've made another one - concerning how I'm going to react to it.

There have been so many interesting posts, I have to go back and read them properly.
fornight just wanted to let you know - there is a chart on this forum. It has dates and adjusts as you submit your weight. Its in the section, if you click on weightloss forum up the top of the page, I think its under hang on I'll check
 
Yeah, in the column that appears you click on the 1st heading (I've forgotten what its called already duh) But its something like weightloss table. Once you've submitted your details it sets up a progress chart which will automatically adjust as you update.
 
hi all

Well i did a lot of waiting the original program has still not arrived BUT my wonderful wonderful hubby drove the 6 hour round trip to pick up a replacement copy so i could start on Friday. I have been doing my own version of the program giving myself 100g protein and 100g vegies, no carbs (less 6 weeks) so the actual program is ok but i do miss the different colour vegies in my stirfry and salads. Oh and avacado but i am determined to see this thing through to the very end with no devations This is my birthday present to myself - i turn 38 tomorrow and i don't want to be this size for my next birthday.

My family (hubby & kids) are very supportive now and have taken to eating similar things (eg fruit &yoghart for breaky) My hubby is trying really hard to cut out all the sweet stuff he has and to eat less carbs so i think we will all benefit.

My hubby surprised me by taking me away (actually told me on Friday) so i could prepare food. We went out to dinner at a restaruant (in shepparton) and they were only to happy to prepare my meal the Cohens way with only one exception bean shoot - thought they were on the list but they were not oops!! It was great we had a hugh spa and went shopping (ideas for my B/D) it was great to just sit and talk and to make plans of how we can support each other (this really helps)

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. Mumbine i will hold you to catching up for a cuppa or if you are near Lilydale lake this week, would you or anyone else like to take a walk with our kids, its such a beautiful day today i hope it will be like this all week. Thankyou for caring and thinking of me. Sometimes I feel very alone.

I have been reading the posts everyday but sometimes I just can't post because i still feel self consious - people in my past have always been very judgemental about me and the weight i'm carrying. The forum is very supportive and i would like to give everyone a big hug as your friendship and words of support are very important to me:eek: .

Anyway to those who are struggling just remember that it is only for a short time ~ really in the big picture 4,6or even 12 months is not that long. Most people plan holidays that far in advance and count the time down. Just take each day as a new day and set simple goals to master the day. Tempations are put before us not to temp us but to see if we can be tempted:mad: The enemy of this world is cuel and will try to cheat us out of our love, joyfullness, peace, happiness,kindness (to ourself), goodness, faithfulness and our self control ~ so ladies take a deep breath because you can do this and do it well.

Thank you to the person who posted the curry recipe I used it last night with chicken, vegies and mango it was scrumptious. Majic lea I have written down all your recipes to try this week. My son is also very interested in the Cohens food and as he wants to be a chef. He says it will be part of his restaruant in the future.

Well so far so good (lost 2.2kgs before starting), 3 days down several to go. I like the food (not the yoghart) Take care everyone Bless you all for a happy and contented Cohens day in the sun.

Jewls:eek:
 
okay, I tried reading all the posts, and I know by the time I post, I forget who wrote what so I'll do what i can remember

Mumbine you've done well in your 1st week. Isnt it great to see results so quickly. Hope you cruise through this week

Lizzi your post was really interesting. Its empowering to have answers. I really hope you make the time frame you are aiming for, but at least you have another option if thats not the case. You have come too far not to see it through. And we know you will. It must be hard to remember what it was like before you lost weight. I know I find it difficult to remember what it was like being 122kg. And when I feel disgusted with myself now, I think how far I've come and it reminds me how lucky I am

rjm great to see ticker movement - what a relief hey?

see - I had all these other people to post to and I've forgotton already. But welcome to the new one, and everyone else you sound as if you are doing well, its great reading everyones encouraging posts

the old me cant forget my partner in crime. Weekends are tough. But, those two days can make such a difference. Lizzi is right, it's not all about will power. Our bodies are a remarkable, but complicated piece of creation, and we beat ourselves up so readily over things which sometimes we cant control. Sometimes when we do control one thing, it expresses itself another way, which can be just as damaging. So, make up your mind to put a positive spin on what happened (not what you did)!!! Its been said before but I'll say it again - the journey is just as important as the arrival. If we can stick to this and not deviate that is fantastic, and an effort to be hugely commended, but if things dont always go the way we plan, its a tragedy if we dont learn something from it. What I've learnt for both of us is this the way we feel about it now is what will determine the outcome for today - if we are positive, we will succeed. If we are negative, and beat ourselves up, are ashamed, feel like giving up, and think this is how I'll always be, we have learned nothing. We are still reverting back to old behaviour and we know where that got us - FAT. We are doing something about that now. These slip ups are important training. They are teaching us how to handle our reactions and attitudes to food for after-cohens. This is an attitude change which makes the difference. Food is not good or bad, its our attitude towards it which makes it so. We are not good or bad. Basically we have a good or bad attitude about it all. We arent perfect, and we never will be. The difference between fat and thin people is that thin people dont have guilt over food. They dont carry guilt around like a sack weighing them down. Lose the guilt. We ate things not on the plan. That doesnt mean we have to do it again today. Some people are two steps forward, three steps back, but they get there and they develop character building qualities like endurance, patience, empathy for others who are going through tough times, etc. I think this is the only diet I've ever been on thats given me the ability to think the right way about food. It isnt the enemy, my viewpoint of it was.
 
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