Cant Seem to do it :(

Jharasen

Jharasen

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So as I sit here looking on the computer..trying to figure out whats wrong with me.. nothing happens..lol... so my problem is i cant lose weight.. the past couple months iv been stuck in this 253lbs zone.. i may lose a pound or nothing at all.. latly i havnt stuck to my diet cause i wasnt seeing any results.. thats my problem..when i dont see results fast i give up i feel like i havent done enough...the problem is i cant get to the gym havnt been to the gym in a few months..cause i have noone to watch my son..and i have a bad foot problem..the pain gets really bad...so what i wanted to know is how to i stick to this.. like i get bad cravings and i cant stop eating..i feel like i should lock myself up ..lol..but if anyone can help me ...try and figure out what to do i would love it.. i want to start over.. go grocery shopping and buy stuff that will help me.. and i also need to figure out a meal plan..so if anyone out there can point me in the rite direction.. i would be very happy....and if theres anyone out there who has had the same problem ...let me know how you fixed it!! :) thanks everyone for your help.. i really need it.. i need to lose over 100lbs still...:( plz help
 
Jharasen said:
So as I sit here looking on the computer..trying to figure out whats wrong with me.. nothing happens..lol... so my problem is i cant lose weight.. the past couple months iv been stuck in this 253lbs zone.. i may lose a pound or nothing at all.. latly i havnt stuck to my diet cause i wasnt seeing any results.. thats my problem..when i dont see results fast i give up i feel like i havent done enough...the problem is i cant get to the gym havnt been to the gym in a few months..cause i have noone to watch my son..and i have a bad foot problem..the pain gets really bad...so what i wanted to know is how to i stick to this.. like i get bad cravings and i cant stop eating..i feel like i should lock myself up ..lol..but if anyone can help me ...try and figure out what to do i would love it.. i want to start over.. go grocery shopping and buy stuff that will help me.. and i also need to figure out a meal plan..so if anyone out there can point me in the rite direction.. i would be very happy....and if theres anyone out there who has had the same problem ...let me know how you fixed it!! :) thanks everyone for your help.. i really need it.. i need to lose over 100lbs still...:( plz help
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This is going to hurt.

Stop making excuses!

TRack your calories everyday, every food. Eat healthy foods and healthy servings. Eat less, Move more.

Stop using your son as an excuse. How much time would you like to have with him? A lot? Or a little? At what age would you like for the responsibility of caring for you fall upon him due to illness? Sooner? Or later?

How old is he? My guess is that he would love to go for a walk or stroll with you everyday. Screw the gym. You dont need it anyway. At your weight a brisk walk and some body weight exercises will be plenty. Dont want to leave your son? Squat him. Seriously. Pick the lil bugger up, do some squats then take him for a walk.

And stop teaching him bad eating habits!
 
Just like Virtus said, take your son on walks. Even just going to the park with him and playing with him, actively, will help burn calories. As for a food plan, figure out how many calories you require for daily stuff, then reduce it from there. You don't need a gym to be fit.
 
Yea..that was a little harsh...how do you exspect to help people when your being rude!...some people dont take kindly to rudeness!! think about that before you try and help someone else...

and thanks Jaraku..for being Calm and not rude!!
 
I look after 2 little girls sometimes and I dance with them, I leave cloths all over the house and then jog around and pick them up with the girls behind me forming a train. They love it and I get fit.
Start to eat more healthy natural foods and you won't get so many cravings for the junk food after a while.
I'm 53 years old and had virtually given up on ever losing weight until a few months ago something clicked in my head and I decided that it was now or never. You need to make a commitment to yourself to be healthy for the rest of your life. Try not to dwell too much on the scales and concentrate on getting fit and healthy. If you do it all properly and you aren't losing weight as fast as you want then just gradually step it up a bit. It is possible for any of us. I'm a few pounds off having a healthy BMI something that like you I didn't think was possible.
Keeping a diary here has been a great help because of all the support from other members. Read other peoples diaries for inspiration and comment in them to start making online friends.
Good luck
You CAN do this. :)
 
I understand that being a mother is extremely busy, but I have to agree with what Virt said. You really need to stop using your son as an excuse. As long as you keep using him as an excuse your life will NEVER change.

Use Fitday or Livestrong and start tracking your calories, start moving, walks, jogs, aerobics, swimming, biking, whatever you can fit into your day and just MOVE, MOVE, MOVE.

There is no way you're plateauing at your current weight if you're in a calorie deficit. Usually people start plateauing around 160-180.

Good luck and stay strong!
 
Try to stay positive. You can do this if you really want it.
I would suggest figuring out how many calories you need to maintain your current weight. Then subtract 500 calories from that. Use a diet journal and record everything that you eat. (you can buy a journal for $10) Stay under your target calories every day, no exceptions. Make sure that you only eat healthy food, no exceptions. Get at least 30 min. of exercise every day, no exceptions. If you have a child you can still exercise. You can walk together, with a stroller, with a wagon, ride a bike with a child seat, etc. You can even use a treadmill while he is napping or sleeping. If you don't have a treadmill, you can walk around your house, do jumping jacks, skip rope, push ups, sit ups, etc. Look online for ideas to keep it fun. Make a plan, and stick to it. Take one day at a time. Good luck.
 
Hi, I'm 27 I can completely relate to how you fell. Although I just started I can tell you what's working for me. By your favorite fruit to snack on so when you have a sweet tooth you can eat that instead. When I get really hungry I eat a banana before my meal. I'm not a big fan but for some reason they really help felling me up. Then I don't eat as much. If you have on demand you can go to the sports and fitness and do some exercises its better then the gym I think. Cause the instructors really know what muscles to use. Go to Walmart and buy 5lbs weights. And like every one said just get out and be active. As a mom myself I know its your hardest job. I have 2 kids myself. But as soon as you start felling better you will treat your son better and give him the excitement he deserves. And if you have a bad day its okay start fresh tomorrow.
 
Tough to hear...

I understand that you feel as if nothing is working. I have been there. I have asked so many questions and read pretty much every board on here and researched countless hours on the net. This is my suggestion. You can take it or leave it, but when you ask for pointers for what works you will get them. We don't like to hear what we are doing wrong but it is the cold hard truth.

1. You need to commit...not half way, not sometimes, but really make a life change. Until you do that no matter what you do you will eventually slip back into your old habits.

2. You say that you have a small child and nobody to watch him. I understand because my son is going to be 2 in September. However, he does nap and go to bed at night. You need to find time that is your time to do what you want to do. The overhaul of your mind is important. The more you get it straight in your head the more it will come to fruition. You need to believe that you can do this.

3. When he is sleeping you need to find an activity that you can do. Floor exercises, squats, lunges, jumping jacks, step-ups, anything that gets your heart rate up and keep it up. When he is awake you can go for walks. If you have a stroller you can walk at a brisk pace to where you can feel your heart rate going up. After doing this for awhile and you feel you're ready try doing some short 30-60sec sprints in there. Start with 1-2 and work your way up. The more you keep changing it up the less likely your body will get used to whatever you are doing.

4. Most importantly, you need to get a hold of your eating. I am sorry but this is the key. No matter how much exercise you do, if your eating is bad it all for nothing. You need to figure out what your calorie maintenance is and then the restriction so you can understand how much you should eat. I use Fit Day. It is awesome. There are many different ways to figure it all out but it asks you to fill in the info and does it for you. You HAVE to keep track of EVERYTHING that you put in your mouth. I mean if it is a cookie, a pretzel, a skittle, anything...it is important. I would start out by not cutting anything. Track it and look at it to see your deficiencies. Maybe 2-3 days so that you can get a feel for your problem areas.

I was 224lbs 23 months ago and I am 140lbs today and I still have 20 to lose. It is possible. I lost about 50lbs just through eating properly and I have lost the rest through eating properly and going to the gym 5 days per week. However, the gym thing didn't come into play until I lost the initial 50. So it is totally possible. The excuse of your son isn't an excuse for you anymore. You need to make the conscious choice for you and nobody else. Once you start you will get addicted and you will stick with it if you have the drive and motivation in your mind. Keep it up and you will see the difference.

I hope this helps...I know it is long.
 
The results you want to see aren't going to happen quickly. Losing weight (the healthy way anyway) takes time. You didn't wake up one morning and all of a sudden you were 100lbs overweight. Gaining weight happens over a period time. So does losing it. It's hard. It's frustrating. You'll want to quit and cry and swear. But it's one of the best things you can do for yourself and your family. If you noticed, there is a pattern with all of the people that have posted here so far. Track your calories and get some exercise. It really does work. Is it the easiest thing you'll ever do? Not likely. Will it be one of the most rewarding? Pretty sure the answer to that one is a resounding 'yes'! You can do this. You just have to commit to it and decide that you aren't going to derail yourself if you don't see results immediately.
In terms of eating right, lean protein (chicken and fish are good-not battered of course), vegetables (I eat a big ol' salad every day) and whole grains like brown rice are all good choices. Just make sure you're eating the proper portions. I've always eaten pretty healthy food, my problem was I ate three times as much as I was supposed to! There are tons of resources on the internet that can show you the nutritional value of the stuff you eat. Make use of it!!!
 
If your son is little, put him in a stroller and go for a walk. If your son is older, go on a field and play soccer with him. Do things like sit ups, push ups, squats, lunges, and jumping jacks in your home.

Buy some small free weights of 5-10 pounds or so and do exercises for biceps, triceps, shoulders, back and so on in your home. You can do sit ups, squats and so on with weights as well.

Do you live in a building or a house, if it's a building you can use the staircase to do intensive cardio while being close to your son.

You don't need a gym to workout, I workout without a gym and it's fine.
 
I agree with not needing a gym. In fact, I dont LIKE the gym! I'm too poor to pay someone else to teach me what to do in what order however many times I should do it, darnit.

I'm a much bigger fan of working out at home. Go online and pick out a program that inspires you to want to try it. I know a LOT of women who like Zumba (my bf's mom and like 5 of my friends included), there's also other dance-y things like Turbo Jam that are high energy fat burning programs. Personally I use belly dancing and P90X, at home, without weird people staring at me or paying anyone every time I want to work out.

for the record, i dont believe anyone is trying to be rude to you. What I -do- think they're trying to impart is you are making excuses for yourself, whether that sounds rude or not its what you need to hear. You are the only person in charge of your own behavior, take control and let it empower you! If you have a craving, that craving doesn't own you. Its your body and its the only one you get, girl! And believe me i've been there. I was the QUEEN of mindless binging when I was younger. And eating when I was bored. Or happy. Or sad. etc etc. Changing that behavior takes time, it doesn't mean you should give up every time you make a mistake. If you go one day eating well, go for two. Its about how bad you really want it, and over time it gets easier, and if its too much at once, make small changes at a slow pace until its routine. When I first tried to lose weight years and years ago, the only thing I did was cut out coke at restaurants and get ice tea instead. These days, its the -only- thing I order when I eat out, I dont even think about it because I made it a routine a long time ago. You just have to try different things to see what works for you, and don't give up when the going gets tough. No one ever said this is an easy journey, but you can get support here if you want it!

and remember, persistence IS better than perfection. This takes time, you can't expect quick, or even the same weight loss every week, or every month. Be thankful for everything you're doing better for yourself, because its not just weighing less, its being healthier.

I also agree with using fitday, its a great (free) site to keep track of everything!
 
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So Just an update..things have been better since i went for grocerys ..my husband made a meal plan and we only bought what we needed....so far its been great..weekend wasnt the greatest but i shrugged it off ..i drank on saturday..and sunday i had extra food..a little bit of noodles with crackers and tomato soup on it.. and 2 slices of thin crust pizza..but the thing i was wondering is if im eating enough calories with my diet..all i drink is Water( YAY ME!!! lol i hate water..but im making myself do it) i drink about 36 oz of water a day....and then my meal plans
im pretty sure you can veiw them here...
but the thing is the first couple days it killed me ..i felt like i was dieing..but now it dont bother me as much..
i havent been doing much exercise. i go to the pool with my son.pretty much everyday...uhmm iv done some walking around like shopping and things...and saturday i dance my ass off..lol but take a look if you can and tell me if things im doing are good..

i am trying my hardest to think positive and be happy ..

thanx
 
Your calories (now) look a little low. I saw a couple days where you were at 850-900ish? There was also a day where you were @1900. Try aiming for 1200-1400 and you should be fine.

Glad to hear things are going better for you.
 
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