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bodymatters

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Hello Everyone,
I am new to the forum and signed up yesterday, i thought i could be a lurker for a while until i picked up enough tips and got to know a bit about you all but everytime i read a thread i get overwhelmed with my feelings, i reckon i have a volcano in me thats needing to errupt and i now see i will have to tackle my problem bit by bit. I am coming to terms with my emotional eating and i know i am on the brink of turning my life around, i have put a start date on my diet when the girls go back to school, right now theres to much going on [xmas] to regain control over my eating disorder, i never even knew i had a problem, i would be grateful for anyone who can remember there time at realizing they had a problem and how hard was those first few weeks? what was the most painful thing did you have to come to terms with? anyone know any good sites for emotional eaters? my biggest fear right now is using my surplus energy to fall flat on my face, remember the volcano. Any tips and thank you.
 
Hey, I want to welcome you to the forum! I used to use this forum a lot and it helped a lot. One day I just stopped everything and kind of reverted back to my old ways so now here I am again to regain control and lose the weight once and for all. I'm getting married in Sept so failure is not an option! lol.

From my experience when I was doing well, making a diary on here and using it consistently helped. Talking about your feelings plus what you're doing to achieve your goals helps you keep focused and accountable, especially when you have others there for you and supporting you.

My eating is a big problem. I have the appetite of a 300 pound man with a labor intensive job, I swear! So for me, I know what the right portion is and I have to stick with it and if I really need to eat more, that's when extra veggies came into play. That worked really well and I wish I had never stopped. But I cannot undo what I did, so now here I am ready to start anew!

I'm not sure about any good resources for emotional eating. The only thing I can think of is if you're eating because your stressed or upset, take that behaviour and change it into a new one such as going for a long walk, going to the gym or taking a relaxing bath. Doing something like that will help relieve that stress and keep you busy and away from the fridge. So hopefully something like that will help.

Again, welcome to the forum and good luck!
 
Its only a matter of time

Hello Risty,
Thanks so much for your words of compasssion like i said i need them, but in a way i am using my old bit of self as a excuse i really want to start when the kids go back to school but right now i am allowed to do what i want, i should enjoy my last few days of freedom but i feel like a balloon ready to pop. You are the only one right now on how i feel and i know my future, what i mean is finding the time to work hard to being my old self, its going to take guts time and money but with people like you its going o be easy. Take care until i am ready to join. x
 
I wish you luck with whenever you decide to start. The one thing that I know from my past behaviors and that is I always would say I'd start on monday, then monday would come and pass and so I'd say ok next monday. Well it went on like that forever. Basically what I'm saying is that it's better to just start. Even if you start out small, at least you've started, and then when your kids go back to school and you may have more time, then you can increase what you're doing. Just a thought!

But whenever you do start and make a diary and whatnot, just let me know and I'll visit it ;)
 
Hello Phoenyx,
Well done! you look fab! i am starting my diet on Monday and need some hot tips for my pitfalls? What shall i eat at breakfast? i love toast [bread] u know the type, egg on t one morning, next day, bacon on t then beans the nevt day etc. It makes me feel i am not having a full English breakfast lol, HELP! i was going to buy special k???????????????????????????????????????????? you loook fab girl x
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Thanks!

I thought I'd go ahead and answer this in your thread. ;)

Really, there's a ton of fantastic information on this site to get you started... most notably in the stickied posts in each section. There's one in the nutrition section called Nutrition 101 that should help get you started. All the sticked posts in THIS section are also well worth the read.

You'll find that what a lot of weight loss entails is caloric deficiency (with healthy choices in what you eat) and exercise. But the one tool that makes it work is your own personal will and desire... that overwhelming WANT to lose the weight.

I tried and failed several times before I finally hit that 'alright, enough of this shit... the weight's gonna come OFF!' mindset.

Couple other things that will help... I'd recommend setting up an account on fitday.com to help you keep track of calories, and calories burned. A lot of people here use it. Another is to set up your own diary in that section. It will help to give you personal accountability, and a good place for others to read your progress as well as leave feadback, offer encouragement, etc.

Don't know what to tell you about emotional eating as that wasn't really my problem, except for maybe boredom eating. Just plain old eating too much of the wrong thing, eating too much, period, and sitting around on my lazy ass instead of exercising is what got me fat.

What exactly does an 'English' breakfast entail, anyway? Normally during the week I may have a hard boiled egg and a couple slices of whole grain toast with a VERY small amount of butter on it with some honey for breakfast. Or some plain yogurt with honey, nuts and rasins mixed in to it, or cottage cheese with the nuts & fruit... something like that. If I have cereal I eat Kashi Go Lean Crunch. Whole grains again, more natural ingredients, and I like the taste a lot better than that of Special K. But if you feel that it would be a hardship to cut out the beans or bacon altogether, cut back on the amount of them you eat. Maybe add in some fresh fruit instead.

Good luck when you start on Monday. :willy_nilly:
 
Dear bodymatters,

My heart is just breaking for you right now reading your post.
The reason is because in reading your post, there is that sense of just not knowing what to do to get better, to get a grip on things.
I know that feeling so well.
Do not give up on yourself. Also, listen to what the others are saying when they tell you that there is no perfect day to "start" a program. This is just my opinion about it-if you make it this big overwhelming deal, this monumental task you must start on a certain day, it is bound to be that much more overwhelming for you.
What might help you at first, from one emotional eater to another, is to say, ok-Today I am going to be aware of everything I am putting in my mouth. For emotional eating (the kind I have, anyway, just speaking for myself again) it is often difficult to pinpoint where the diet is off-track because it is so easy to pop something in our mouths that is unintentional. I know I will "graze" on stuff throughout the day (leftovers from the kids, a cookie here, an extra handful of fries there) and never really think about it. By forcing yourself to write down on paper everything you consumed that day and the time, perhaps you can pinpoint exactly what times of day are most stressful for you.
Once you take that first step, you could say-ok, today I am eliminating ONE thing-not a whole entire sweep of your diet, just one thing to tackle. As each day goes on, you may quickly realize it is not so hard and you can add more things to tweak and change from there.
I really hope I am helping you in some way.
Keep reading the posts from these awesome achievers like the ones above, find your strength, and LOVE yourself. You are worth it.
 
Hello Phoenyx,
Thanks so very much for your words of encouragement they mean so much to me, just seeing your picture makes me want to lose weight. I know my mindset is there but i also know it is going to be hard work, i have spent all week motivating myself eg doing my before and after pictures, my home diary, my shopping etc, now i feel i can cope and you are right about always starting on a Monday, i feel i have already started in the respect that i am not thinking about food all day and thinking on ways of changing. Its going to be hard because my family are going to be eating different things but i feel this place is my strength plus my own inner strength, when i find more of it. A english breakfast consists of bacon,eggs, mushrooms, beans, black pudding, sausage, fried bread, tomatoes, coffee and toast, listen to this phoenyx i was thinking the other day after my first week on my diet i would treat myself to one errrrrrrrrrr! :smash: Looks like i need to find some new diet tips quick, like storing carrots in the fridge :Angel_anim: x
 
Hello Brenda,
Yes, you are helping me because you understand me perfectly well, everything you have said is soooo true :waving:. I am a emotional eater and being one of these people it takes patience with ones self just to feel in control :banghead: as food as been a big part of my life and now i need to gain back what i have lost, i have never been on a diet b4 only twice at weight watchers when i was about 25 years old but it was a joke really as i only ever lost half a stone each time, so you can imagine i have just done what i have liked and now at 40 years old i am at my heaviest 4 stone over weight [roughly], i need to find time to weigh myself just to let you know the exact amount i am. I do feel better after talking with you, risty and phoenyx and i know this place is my success story, :)but with you i feel a spiritual connection because we are emotional eaters, well you could say x emotional eaters. Keep in touch much love caroline x
 
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