bye

[Alyssa Autopsy]

this forum is okay, but since joining 3fatchicks, i have found much more support.
thanks to the people who have given me some support while i was here
but this site simply isn't active enough for me.
i like to talk to people daily

i'm not gonna come back to check up on this post
so good luck to everyone
and if you are on 3fstchicks
my name is the same on there

 

[Omega]

I hope that you find continued support on your new forum.

It is unusual that you say that we are not very active here. That is funny as I chat on to people all the time... There are more people here than I could ever get round to chatting to...

I must admit that I was so surprised by your posting that I could not resist checking to see what you had done to try to make friends with others while you were here...

I see that you have made a total of 84 postings as you write this "Bye" posting on your departure.

Of these, 72 were in threads which you started yourself.

This leaves a total of 12 postings where you made an attempt to relate to others and their experiences... Where you made an attempt to meet people instead of sitting in your own thread waiting for them to come to you in order to support you.

Unfortunately 4 of these postings were all made to threads created and posted only into by an internet marketer who came to our site and made a vast number of one line postings in a very short period of time before the Administrator set his account to prevent further postings and remove his postings from view...

One posting was to a thread last posted in 2006
One posting was to a thread last posted in 2007
One posting was to a thread last posted in 2011

The date of the posting is clearly written in the headings. It is always worth checking this.

This actually only leaves the situation where you made a total of 5 postings over 4 threads where you were likely to meet someone.

It is a shame that you didnt meet someone in those 5 postings... It isn't however surprising.

In forums - just as in real life - people need to work at building friendships.
The best way of getting support is by giving support.

You build your own support network by venturing out and becoming part of a support network for other people.

You say that you are not going to come back to check on this post - but it might as well serve as a lesson to others regarding how not to use this forum to best advantage.

If I had spoken to you as you arrived I would have suggested that you check out the clubs section and the challenges section and make postings in both these places in the hope of meeting people that you could relate to... Join clubs and challenges and see if others join the same ones... Chat to them there...

People can not only start a diary - but go out and visit other people in their diaries... See what they are doing, cheer them on, encourage them... With luck some people will come back to your diary and do the same for you...

I must admit that I am useless at getting round to diaries - as I tend to hang out in the clubs and challenges... We can't all do everything - but you do have to do something to relate to others...

 

[BelindaR]

Too bad

I've been a member here less than week, already joined a challenge, and I think it's plenty active for a forum. I see teammates posting every day. And people posting to my diary even though I've chosen to update it once/week. Maybe it's the other way around and you're not active enough? Maybe you should join a challenge to find that support you're looking for? Just saying... I probably wouldn't have the support and people cheering me on to succeed (like that pun, Omega ) if I wasn't active and actually trying here myself.

 

[Omega]

Good pun Belinda

SUCCESS! is what we are here for - and it is there for all to find in the challenges section...

 

[Korrie]

the forum is as active as you are...get involved!

 

[Trusylver]

On the other hand some new members are shy having never joined this type of forum before, stick to themselves for a bit but never get past that shyness because they get ignored by regular established members. The forum is not a welcoming place and some members can be intimidating.

 

[Camila1]

I don't know, having joined less than a month ago, I have found this forum to be a very friendly and welcoming place. But I also made the effort to go and get involved by joining the challenge and reading/responding in other peoples' diaries. To each, his own, I suppose.

 

[Goal2Bhealthy]

I have been on other forums, including 3FatChicks, and I find they are basically the same. Many of the senior posters have known each other for a long time and tend to stick together. But I have been welcomed here and agree that your results will depend on what you put into it. This forum is big on challenges and I'm not ready to join in yet. Maybe some time in the future. Right now I am sifting through the many threads and finding some very interesting links and bookmarking them for future reference. I have learned to check the dates of threads, as many of them are a few years old. But there is still interesting information to be gained from reading them. Maybe Alyssa will come back and take another look.

 

[Omega]

When sifting through the old threads - I really strongly recommend the postings made by "Steve". He hasnt posted here recently - but had a wide knowledge about weight loss and helped a number of people with all sorts of suggestions about things like plateaus and effective exercise.