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keepasecret

keepasecret

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Hello All,

Coming to you from sunny florida, where unfortunately all of us are not bikini beach babes.

My name is Alicia, I was fairly skinny my entire teen years but when I started getting attention from the fellas I kind of blew up to avoid attention...I s that weird or what? Kind of hid myself inside my body...:leaving:

Anyway, I am 5'7" and currently 225 lbs. Measurements 42-37-50. I have some hips! Although I am pretty strong underneath all this fluffiness...I went through a separation a year ago an now a divorce so I really want to get back to being me.

I have 3 kids and I am pretty active with them but deep down I want to have options when choosing who I want to be with. I feel I am limiting myself because of my size.:angelsad2:

I am pretty accomplished otherwise, and I am tired of hearing how pretty I am. I lost about 40 lbs 3 years ago at my highest weight of 249 using Weight Watchers, but I have regained about half of that.

So I am looking to get down to 145-150 and wear some fabulous jeans and a kickass halter top, and make some heads turn!!! :drool5:I don't have any health problems to speak of and have been off sugar (CHOCOHOLIC!!! OMG!!) for about 3 weeks. Started eating better and working out about 3-4 times a week for 30-45 minutes of cardio and 20 mins or so of weights.

Looking for guidance and inspiration since so many people have told me I am crazy after to having 3 kids and being this weight for almost 10 years, BUT I AM SO LOOKING TO PROVE THEM WRONG!
Wish me luck and any and all advice is welcome...

Added this pic taken when I posted originally 9/08
 
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Good luck keepasecret. Hopefully you will succeed and I trust that you have the strength and devotion because you are a mom and I bet you want your kids to be proud of you.

PLEASE don't let anyone tell you what you CAN or CAN NOT do because ONLY YOU can know that. If we listen to people opinion about our abilities we will fail. So be a deaf person to any negative comments or limitations.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Welcome Alicia!
75-80lbs.. no sweat! You can do it. You going pure diet, or adding some active time in as well? Take a look at the stickies in this forum, there filled with great advice, and I'd recommend starting a food journel to keep track of what you eat. It's amazing how much it helps.
Good luck!
 
keepasecret said:
Looking for guidance and inspiration since so many people have told me I am crazy after to having 3 kids and being this weight for almost 10 years, BUT I AM SO LOOKING TO PROVE THEM WRONG!
Wish me luck and any and all advice is welcome...
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There you go, Ms. Alicia. There is a nice piece of motivation, in and of itself!!!

I've never been called crazy, but I've certainy heard the not so veiled comments about my battle with weight from co-workers etc. I'm just vain enough to want to prove them wrong. We can talk about things like health etc. But damn, wouldn't it be nice to make someone's head turn?

And yes, men feel it too, don't let them kid you. I have been too heavy for too long. I'm well aware of the fact that there has been irreversible damage to my body. I will never turn heads on a nude beach (at least not for the right reasons ;)). But I sure wouldn't mind having peopel look twice while I'm wearing a black t-shirt and jeans...

It sounds like you have picked the right way to do it. Resistance training, cardio, keep it up. You should start a diary, and post a before pic. Trust me, we'll all help keep you motivated!!

Welcome in!
 
Well thanks to all of you. I have been reading some of the diaries and posts out here and everyone seems really supportive. I appreciate any and all support since this is a really difficult time for me.

As for diet, I eat pretty healthy foods but I think I eat too much volume, I won't be going dieting alone no, I like going to the gym but maybe need to step it up a notch, more days, longer time frames...don't know.

I saw in Steve's post he said that working out to lose weight is different than toning or building muscle, what is the difference????

Anyone know how stress affects things? I have not been sleeping well for months regardless of what I do and although I have made marked changes in my habits the last few weeks the scale hasn't budged very much, think it could be stress? I only get about 5 hours of sleep a night where I used to get 7-8.

I will definitely start a journal, that helped so much in WW and a before pic in my diary :) I think I can start that today!
 
keepasecret said:
Hello All,

I went through a separation a year ago an now a divorce so I really want to get back to being me.


I have 3 kids and I am pretty active with them but deep down I want to have options when choosing who I want to be with. I feel I am limiting myself because of my size.:angelsad2:

I am pretty accomplished otherwise, and I am tired of hearing how pretty I am.

Looking for guidance and inspiration since so many people have told me I am crazy after to having 3 kids and being this weight for almost 10 years, BUT I AM SO LOOKING TO PROVE THEM WRONG!
Wish me luck and any and all advice is welcome...
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I am currently going through a divorce too...final court date is Sept. 16... so I know what you are going through. Tough, confusing, horrible time. However, adversity introduces you to yourself. Can't remember who said that, but I truly believe it. If you truly give 100% to changing, or "finding" yourself again, you will not fail! I too have three kids(6 3/4, 5, 3 1/2) that keep me extremely active/bust/exhausted as well. I have them 85% of the time, and wouldn't change a thing. I also understand how you feel limited in your "choices" of a future partner due to your weight and have also been told repeatedly how handsome, as opossed to pretty, I am, or how I'm a guy, it doesn't matter about your weight as much as if you were a female...It matters to me, as I'm sure it matters to you about your self image, and about how you feel. Guidance and inspiration you will surely find in this forum. I've been poking around in here for about a 3 weeks, and am extremely fueled by the stories and pictures of success. As to proving people wrong...great motivation for anyone, definitely one of mine. Good luck to you and I wish you the best!!
 
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Thank so much! I have seen some of your other posts and they are always positive. Keep your head up, emotionally this is a hard time. Anything dealing with feelings really is especially when there are kids involved...

I have an 11, 9, and 6 year old and they all have dealt with it differently. I cannot say I have gained weight because of it but have had soem sleepless nights to say the least...

Part of me wants to show him what he would have missed so I am using that to fuel me! I ended the marriage but I still have a little bit of animosity towards him. :iamwithstupid: Anyway...onward an upward an believe everything happens for a reason.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, BRING IT ON!!! :auto:
 
keepasecret said:
Part of me wants to show him what he would have missed so I am using that to fuel me! Anyway...onward an upward and I believe everything happens for a reason.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, BRING IT ON!!! :auto:
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:iagree: with everything above. My soon to be "ex", is super attractive and somewhat successful in her own right, and I too would love to show her that she chose poorly, people who really want to can change, and maybe make her realize her decision was not such a good one. Onward and upwards is right!! Hope to share success stories with you, and if need be, lift each others spirits.
 
That being said, all we can control in this life is how we deal with what happens to us, or how we choose to feel, or how we will move forward in a positive way. But rubbing the ex's nose in "look what I've become" is still great motivation!
 
Thanks so much Snowbunny! I used to be one of those too, had to move to Florida to escape the winter! But what's funny is here where the weather is pretty much wonderfull most of the time and activities are focused ont he outdoors, I don't do too much!! i need to take advantage of my surroundings more...:)
 
Welcome Aboard.

Hi Alicia :waving:

Here's wishing you the best of luck, motivation, and will power, because that's what it takes. :cheers2: And we're all here for an extra dose of support!
 
well, if they say you're crazy, i may as well hang up my gym shoes. i have two kids, and have had this weight on for 12 years. i think it's harder as you get older, but it can be done! i just started back on track 2 days ago. today is day 3. i have "treadmilled" successfully every day. it's not for long, but my intensity has increased every time. i need to feel good again, and not scared about my what my weight could do to me.
 
Here's wishing you the best of luck, motivation, and will power, because that's what it takes.

well, if they say you're crazy, i may as well hang up my gym shoes.

Let me say listening to "they" has always gotten me into trouble because a lot of times others' motivations are soemthing they put off onto you. I am anomaly because of my color, situation, and background so I take what other folks say with a grain of salt. The easiest way to motivate me is to tell I cannot do something, that I will fail....because then I am just itching to become the one person that changes the mindset that it CAN'T be done. Whatever is my favorite word to "they"....

As for willpower, I don't know if I have more than the average person but I believe in removing temptation so its not as necessary. I would also like to motivate my daughter to change her habits because she is only 10 and at 5'1" almost 140 lbs. So she will be getting a "NEW LIFE" also!

Thanks for all the encouragement and I wish you all well in your journeys, I will be checking back in often...
 
Time to post new PICS~!

I will be posting today so be on the lookout, have lost 6.2 lbs since beginning, but looks like my inches have moved much more...new info to come!
 
Alicia - it sounds great , don ´t give up ! After a couple of months you will be a pretty girl - maybe in June you can buy a new bikini ....:hurray:
 
You can get back to being you...dont let anyone elses negative words stop you. It doesnt matter how many kids or how long you have been at a weight...it only matters what you do from here on out. Use their negativity as motivation as you said...."prove them wrong"!
 
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