I'd love to continue my Ello' with "I'm the Doctor" but then i'd be lying...
But, alas. Hello. I'm Brendan, 23. Male, Australian, living in Rural Queensland and basically 1 of those kinds of people who always have issues with weight.
I can easily identify that the main problem in regards to my weight is the fact I and my Wife cannot seem to end up with a healthier diet... I actually don't even know to be honest but we have bad habits with fast food and easier alternatives, including bad portion control... no portion control at all probably.
I was Younger, little, 12-14 and weighed the average I should have. I was active and stuff in school etc. My parents fought, etc, broke up, I became more sensitive and emotional, I became more secluded with myself and basically ate more. I know I did. I ended up nearly 16 and close to 170kg.. But by Grade 12, I had saw someone. Yes a girl. Yes the same person who is my wife. As soon as I saw her she was the reason I wanted to better myself. I think I had lost some weight from the initial large gain from age 15 but somehow when I asked this amazing girl out in high school. Via a text.. She didn't even know me.. She said yes. We've been together ever since 2009 and happily married for a year since august 23rd.
Now I can't really remember what I did exactly but I remember I was somewhat more active during my grade 12 year. I can remember doing some exercises at night before bed and even a few during the morning and random pushups and stuff on school lunch breaks etc. I think purposely eating half of what my mother put on my plate was helping and eating less of the school snacks back then really did help, though my parents wouldn't get healthier options. I did however buy food from the school lunch shop. I remember the lettuce and chicken wraps were the nicest.. I think I managed to eat a healthy portion/meal at my breaks and probably ate the healthiest I ever have in my life during that time.
By graduation I was Just above 70kg, I think I managed to get to 71kg at the lowest and I loved it... But of course, my 'step dad' kicked me out of home because he didn't like me the same day I graduated and moved in with my best friend. The stresses of life and being left out to sort my own life out did add to the whole issue again, but I was still somewhat able to manage my weight. I ended up around 77kg within half a year or so there. From then I had to look for somewhere else, but my partner and I decided I'd move in with her... (Yes, she lived with her mother...)
During that time though.. The addition of horrible sleep patterns due to more stress, yes, caused by a complaining mother in law who somehow expected a recent school leaver who ended up with no place to live except an isolated town to manage to get a job and a car and license, not realizing the processes etc, basically managed to cause much shittier choices. I wanted to eat crap because it really did make me feel a hell of a lot better at the time and It sickened me to my core so much I looked into a mirror and decided then and there to change again. Within 2 years, I brought my weight back down. I think I got to 78-82kg and even though I wasn't too happy It was far better than being around 140 which I managed to hit in cecil.
My partners mother then blew a gasket or lost her marbles. Went psycho killer style insane when it was her who miss-read a text and ran me out of town. Caused a very large issue between everyone for a week and after being forced to live alone without the 1 i love for a week slowly ended up causing, from what I think.. an unconscious decision to try to make myself feel a little better by eating some foods that were treats.. It wasn't too bad I put on a tiny bit of weight, was at about 85 or so and changed between 82-88 again within a few weeks. I searched for a job since I was in town and managed to get 1.
my partner and I then had our own home, my weight was pretty good etc except I had trouble dealing with working and budgeting etc etc. Family problems continued, even between a few month trip to my dads... Basically ended up 90 ish kg after a year and bit of work..
Which basically brings me to 2 years, 7 months since starting my job and was only 80 ish kg..
I'm now 110kg and when I look at myself I see grossness and shame.. And I feel it. I feel ashamed that I continually fall into a rut and I just eat and put weight on..
Now I think i want some help.. My Wife and I both joined a gym.. but we can't afford a trainer and nutrition trainer... So I am asking for help here.
I want to eat well and healthily and I still want to be able to enjoy food as much as I think I enjoy the crap we eat.
I want to be able to get a plan or idea of exactly how we can eat to better improve the chances of weightloss for us.
My goals are to get below 100kg and then 90kg, and then 80kg and I want to, if I can. Get to 70kg. I know I can successfully maintain a healthy weight. I have done. I just need to learn the right ways and tools to successfully lower it and learn to deal with more than just eating and exercising etc.
So thanks for reading if you did, sorry its long but I'll wait for some replies before I do much else.. I finished work just before and its 3:10 am now so I'll be off to clean up and get relaxed and into bed.
But, alas. Hello. I'm Brendan, 23. Male, Australian, living in Rural Queensland and basically 1 of those kinds of people who always have issues with weight.
I can easily identify that the main problem in regards to my weight is the fact I and my Wife cannot seem to end up with a healthier diet... I actually don't even know to be honest but we have bad habits with fast food and easier alternatives, including bad portion control... no portion control at all probably.
I was Younger, little, 12-14 and weighed the average I should have. I was active and stuff in school etc. My parents fought, etc, broke up, I became more sensitive and emotional, I became more secluded with myself and basically ate more. I know I did. I ended up nearly 16 and close to 170kg.. But by Grade 12, I had saw someone. Yes a girl. Yes the same person who is my wife. As soon as I saw her she was the reason I wanted to better myself. I think I had lost some weight from the initial large gain from age 15 but somehow when I asked this amazing girl out in high school. Via a text.. She didn't even know me.. She said yes. We've been together ever since 2009 and happily married for a year since august 23rd.
Now I can't really remember what I did exactly but I remember I was somewhat more active during my grade 12 year. I can remember doing some exercises at night before bed and even a few during the morning and random pushups and stuff on school lunch breaks etc. I think purposely eating half of what my mother put on my plate was helping and eating less of the school snacks back then really did help, though my parents wouldn't get healthier options. I did however buy food from the school lunch shop. I remember the lettuce and chicken wraps were the nicest.. I think I managed to eat a healthy portion/meal at my breaks and probably ate the healthiest I ever have in my life during that time.
By graduation I was Just above 70kg, I think I managed to get to 71kg at the lowest and I loved it... But of course, my 'step dad' kicked me out of home because he didn't like me the same day I graduated and moved in with my best friend. The stresses of life and being left out to sort my own life out did add to the whole issue again, but I was still somewhat able to manage my weight. I ended up around 77kg within half a year or so there. From then I had to look for somewhere else, but my partner and I decided I'd move in with her... (Yes, she lived with her mother...)
During that time though.. The addition of horrible sleep patterns due to more stress, yes, caused by a complaining mother in law who somehow expected a recent school leaver who ended up with no place to live except an isolated town to manage to get a job and a car and license, not realizing the processes etc, basically managed to cause much shittier choices. I wanted to eat crap because it really did make me feel a hell of a lot better at the time and It sickened me to my core so much I looked into a mirror and decided then and there to change again. Within 2 years, I brought my weight back down. I think I got to 78-82kg and even though I wasn't too happy It was far better than being around 140 which I managed to hit in cecil.
My partners mother then blew a gasket or lost her marbles. Went psycho killer style insane when it was her who miss-read a text and ran me out of town. Caused a very large issue between everyone for a week and after being forced to live alone without the 1 i love for a week slowly ended up causing, from what I think.. an unconscious decision to try to make myself feel a little better by eating some foods that were treats.. It wasn't too bad I put on a tiny bit of weight, was at about 85 or so and changed between 82-88 again within a few weeks. I searched for a job since I was in town and managed to get 1.
my partner and I then had our own home, my weight was pretty good etc except I had trouble dealing with working and budgeting etc etc. Family problems continued, even between a few month trip to my dads... Basically ended up 90 ish kg after a year and bit of work..
Which basically brings me to 2 years, 7 months since starting my job and was only 80 ish kg..
I'm now 110kg and when I look at myself I see grossness and shame.. And I feel it. I feel ashamed that I continually fall into a rut and I just eat and put weight on..
Now I think i want some help.. My Wife and I both joined a gym.. but we can't afford a trainer and nutrition trainer... So I am asking for help here.
I want to eat well and healthily and I still want to be able to enjoy food as much as I think I enjoy the crap we eat.
I want to be able to get a plan or idea of exactly how we can eat to better improve the chances of weightloss for us.
My goals are to get below 100kg and then 90kg, and then 80kg and I want to, if I can. Get to 70kg. I know I can successfully maintain a healthy weight. I have done. I just need to learn the right ways and tools to successfully lower it and learn to deal with more than just eating and exercising etc.
So thanks for reading if you did, sorry its long but I'll wait for some replies before I do much else.. I finished work just before and its 3:10 am now so I'll be off to clean up and get relaxed and into bed.
