BikiniBound's Diary

[Blancita]

You have no free time but it is soooo worth it. I wish I could spend every second with Bella. I too used to love my personal time but with kids, your priorities completely change.

I want to adopt 2 more but Sean still isn't on board to that idea. He wants me to have another but the doc has already told us we were lucky to have one and that my body did not do too well with the pregnancy. I'm DONE and I hope he changes his mind as well.

Well we do seem to have lots in common he he. I also want to adopt one or two out of foster care. H really wants to try for a boy but I'm not into it.

Free time loses its importance as you have such a good time with the baby, especially as they start talking and interacting more. My little sweetie is so affectionate, I guess cuz I'm all over the poor thing every second. She hugs my neck with her little arms and snuggles up to me and it feels so good.

Of course watching someone else's kids isn't nearly as easy or rewarding as taking care of one's own. So dont at all take experiences as baby sitter as an example of what's to come. It feels totally different when its your own, and they become part of your routine. It does feel weird when I'm out on my own though, unless I'm going to or from work. Its almost exciting LOL.

Having a cry free baby like mine who slept through the night practically from the start, and complete with 2 to 3 hour naps, does of course help one's outlook. I honestly dont know how my sister does it with her baby who seems to cry 24/7.

Oh yeah, and your not that old to have a baby. I worried just like you, but I got pregnant with no problem on the first try at age 37. And you know my sis just had her second at age 41. Its quite common nowadays.

 

[ali2]

That part isn't what scares me..lol. I know I'll be a good mom. I'm just so used to doing whatever I want whenever I want--pretty much. I have tons of "alone time" that's pretty important to me. I know that is all going to go out the window. However, I have been told that the joys of motherhood make up for my lack of sleep/free time. I hope they're right!!!

Towards the end of my pregnancy I used to get these panic attacks...I would be doing something and I would get this thought, something to the effect of...this is the LAST TIME I will be doing X, Y or Z alone. I used to cry regularly about it.

Everyone is differnt but I really incorporated my daughter into my life instead of the other way around. There are people who will totally change their lives and themselves for their children and if that is what you want to do, so be it but for me, I realized that it is more true to myself to make Abby a part of my life instead of remaking my life. Essentially, there wasn't anything I wouldn't do just because I had her. If she needed to sleep and we were in a room full of people, she slept. I have family members who would turn the lights out on everyone and make then whisper. To me, that's no way to live.

Is it an adjustment? Sure. It all depends on how you want to integrate your child into your current existance. Remember, some day, eighteen, twenty years down the road, the child moves out (hopefully) and you are left to continue on.

Anyway, it is really ineloquently said but my point is you can be one of those people that totally change when you have children (to the point where you are unrecognizable) or not. I wanted to retain some semblance (albeit a sleep deprived semblance) of myself. It made the transition easier for me.

 

[bikinibound]

Towards the end of my pregnancy I used to get these panic attacks...I would be doing something and I would get this thought, something to the effect of...this is the LAST TIME I will be doing X, Y or Z alone. I used to cry regularly about it.

Everyone is differnt but I really incorporated my daughter into my life instead of the other way around. There are people who will totally change their lives and themselves for their children and if that is what you want to do, so be it but for me, I realized that it is more true to myself to make Abby a part of my life instead of remaking my life. Essentially, there wasn't anything I wouldn't do just because I had her. If she needed to sleep and we were in a room full of people, she slept. I have family members who would turn the lights out on everyone and make then whisper. To me, that's no way to live.

Is it an adjustment? Sure. It all depends on how you want to integrate your child into your current existance. Remember, some day, eighteen, twenty years down the road, the child moves out (hopefully) and you are left to continue on.

Anyway, it is really ineloquently said but my point is you can be one of those people that totally change when you have children (to the point where you are unrecognizable) or not. I wanted to retain some semblance (albeit a sleep deprived semblance) of myself. It made the transition easier for me.

I agree with you on that. I will not however (and I'm not saying you do this b/c I have no idea) be one of those parents who feel the need to inflict their children on others. For example, people who take their babies or small children to night time R-rated movies, and do not seem to care when their baby or children make a big fuss, ruining the movie for the others. I also do not intend to take my baby/small children into nicer restaurants until they are old enough to behave in one. And even if I was in any restauarant, the kids will not run around or be noisy. If they are, we will leave. I cannot stand sitting in a restaurant and having my meal ruined by screaming brats who have clueless parents. I will also not bring my children to adult gatherings unless everyone is bringing their kids. Of course, this is if I ever end up having any.

 

[bikinibound]

Well we do seem to have lots in common he he. I also want to adopt one or two out of foster care. H really wants to try for a boy but I'm not into it.

Free time loses its importance as you have such a good time with the baby, especially as they start talking and interacting more. My little sweetie is so affectionate, I guess cuz I'm all over the poor thing every second. She hugs my neck with her little arms and snuggles up to me and it feels so good.

Of course watching someone else's kids isn't nearly as easy or rewarding as taking care of one's own. So dont at all take experiences as baby sitter as an example of what's to come. It feels totally different when its your own, and they become part of your routine. It does feel weird when I'm out on my own though, unless I'm going to or from work. Its almost exciting LOL.

Having a cry free baby like mine who slept through the night practically from the start, and complete with 2 to 3 hour naps, does of course help one's outlook. I honestly dont know how my sister does it with her baby who seems to cry 24/7.

Oh yeah, and your not that old to have a baby. I worried just like you, but I got pregnant with no problem on the first try at age 37. And you know my sis just had her second at age 41. Its quite common nowadays.

Tell H if you adopt a boy out of foster care, he'll be guaranteed a boy. There are no guarantees the other way.

I pray I have a baby like yours. I cannot stand crying babies. I'm sure it's different when it's your own, but still....

You and your sister were fortunate not to have any problems. But let's face it--for every few couples in their mid to late-30s who have a baby without any trouble, there is one that has a hard time either conceiving, carrying to term, or have a baby with problems. The risk goes up dramatically with age. That's why I recommend not waiting as long as I did. I wanted to have them sooner, but finances did not allow.

 

[AmyRB]

I agree with you on that. I will not however (and I'm not saying you do this b/c I have no idea) be one of those parents who feel the need to inflict their children on others. For example, people who take their babies or small children to night time R-rated movies, and do not seem to care when their baby or children make a big fuss, ruining the movie for the others. I also do not intend to take my baby/small children into nicer restaurants until they are old enough to behave in one. And even if I was in any restauarant, the kids will not run around or be noisy. If they are, we will leave. I cannot stand sitting in a restaurant and having my meal ruined by screaming brats who have clueless parents. I will also not bring my children to adult gatherings unless everyone is bringing their kids. Of course, this is if I ever end up having any.

We do the same. Unfortunately I will have to inflict my daughter onto other people this week since we are flying back to OH on friday. I feel REALLY sorry for whoever is sitting next to us. Lol! She a fantastic baby, just like Cita's but she likes to talk and sing a lot. For non-parents, it may be a bit annoying.

I would KILL to be able to go to the movies again. I am dying to see that "Baby Mama" but Bella is just too young.

 

[Miss Ladybug]

YO baby YO! I'm heading to the gym to bust some calories, I'll try and post something later tonight or tomorrow, it's been a crazy Monday to say the least. Love and hugs! Hope your weekend was a great one! thanks for the rep, I so love you for that! OH and on the Idol pics, I'm not saying they are in that order, I'm just saying those are the best vocals of the group. They all have individual talent, and I like them the same! LATER GATOR!
Kimmers

 

[Trevor10]

Kimberly if you have a boy, i hope you pick the name Trevor...its such a good name

how is everything going?

 

[ali2]

I agree with you on that. I will not however (and I'm not saying you do this b/c I have no idea) be one of those parents who feel the need to inflict their children on others. For example, people who take their babies or small children to night time R-rated movies, and do not seem to care when their baby or children make a big fuss, ruining the movie for the others. I also do not intend to take my baby/small children into nicer restaurants until they are old enough to behave in one. And even if I was in any restauarant, the kids will not run around or be noisy. If they are, we will leave. I cannot stand sitting in a restaurant and having my meal ruined by screaming brats who have clueless parents. I will also not bring my children to adult gatherings unless everyone is bringing their kids. Of course, this is if I ever end up having any.

I completely agree - I do not inflict my daughter on people but I would take her to restaurants, I just taught her how to behave at an early age. Not to say that she never had her problems but growing up with it, she had a better idea of how to act. Actually, taking a baby is easier than you think b/c they sleep during the festivities.

Children will do whatever you let them do - those kids you see acting like loonies, their parents allow them to behave that way.

You will be great when it happens It is scary and wonderful and exhausting wrapped up in one big happy package.

 

[carrie3101]

I prefer a boy--but at my age I'll just be thrilled with a baby that is healthy. I know that sounds cliche--but as scared to death as I am of something being wrong with the baby--it's true. I want at least 2 kids, but I doubt I'll have more than that biologically b/c of my age. I would like to talk my H into adopting 1 or 2 out of foster care at some point.

If you wait until your 30s, I recommend not waiting until your mid-30s.

Yes, I learned Korean from living there for 5yrs..lol It's fairly rusty from lack of use atm though.

Whoa, 5 years in Korea! That must have been quite an experience! I would love to live abroad for a long period of time. I spent a summer abroad in Italy, but that went by so quickly...hardly enough time to feel like a native!

My brother is having a baby boy...well not HIM, LOL..His wife. They were hoping for a girl, but like you, they're just thrilled that all seems to be going well so far. They're having a hard time coming up with a name... they're calling him "Bologna" for the time being, as that's all the mom seems to want.

Hope you're having a great and thin day!

 

[Omega]

Just calling by to wish you a good Tuesday.

 

[yarmiah]

Having kids is great . . stressful at times, but so worth it in the long run. I have 2 now and will be turning 39 next month. I think every once in a while . .how about 1 more? Then I come to my senses . It's jsut way to easy with now, no more diapers, bottles, diaper bags, etc. Tho I will admit, I got teary eyed watching a video last night of my kids when they are toddlers. I love that 18-2yr age when they are just talking . . TOO CUTE!

Good luck and have a great day!

 

[Invariant]

Hey Kimmy, just dropping by to wish you a Happy Tuesday. I hope the baby-making has been in full swing lately. If you need me to send you some cheese, let me know. I hear it works wonders as an aphrodesiac.

 

[niapage]

Yay congrats on breaking that 219 your doing gr8!!Hope you have a
wonderful day,*T*A*M*M*Y*

 

[bikinibound]

We do the same. Unfortunately I will have to inflict my daughter onto other people this week since we are flying back to OH on friday. I feel REALLY sorry for whoever is sitting next to us. Lol! She a fantastic baby, just like Cita's but she likes to talk and sing a lot. For non-parents, it may be a bit annoying.

I would KILL to be able to go to the movies again. I am dying to see that "Baby Mama" but Bella is just too young.

Well, at least it's not a long flight. Crying is the worst--singing and talking isn't so bad if it's not ear piercing. Trust me, I will be inflicting my children on airline passengers, too. With H being from Australia, we will be flying there with small babies/children no doubt. I will do my best to keep them as quiet as possible. But that is a LONG ASS flight, so I'm sure it will be horrible.

Why don't you get a babysitter so you can go see Baby Mama? That does look funny. I love Tina Fey. I'm sure your friends who are parents would be willing to trade babysitting for date nights out.

Twin--Thanks for stopping! I don't even care about AI anymore...lmao. Those bastards!!

Trevor--that is a great name, but I've already got my heart set on Matthew. Matthew Trevor...hmmm...

Ali-I agree--most kids are brats in restaurants b/c their parents let them be. I have seen some kids who were very well behaved in restaurants. I'm they know better b/c of having good parents.

Carrie--I think I would trade my 5yrs in Korea for a summer in Italy. LOL@bologna!! One of my friends called hers Wormy b/c that's what the ultrasound looked like to her and her husband--a worm...

Tammy and Margaret--thanks for stopping by!

Rae--Cheese huh? I love cheese. H bought some brie yesterday--but it's all his. I'm just not that into the soft cheeses--I like 'em HARD!!

Yarmiah--they are cute at that age. I'm looking forward to the newborn stage b/c they are so darn precious--and they can't crawl/walk anywhere so you don't have to watch them every single second.

 

[wulsk]

I refuse to accept that being in 30s brings more risks to pregnancy if otherwise we are in good health. I am sure some people with white dresses have their evidences in their books, but I am not buying it.

 

[bikinibound]

I refuse to accept that being in 30s brings more risks to pregnancy if otherwise we are in good health. I am sure some people with white dresses have their evidences in their books, but I am not buying it.

Really? That is a very misinformed opinion. Certainly being in good health helps, but there are still risks regardless. Here are the facts regarding down's syndrome from the American Pregnancy Organization:

What is the Risk for Down Syndrome?
Some parents have a greater risk of having a baby with Down syndrome.

The risk factors include:

Maternal Age
As a woman’s eggs age, there is a higher risk of the chromosomes dividing incorrectly. Therefore the risk of Down syndrome increases with a woman’s age.

Mother’s age Chances of having child with Down syndrome
Age 20 1 in 1,600
Age 25 1 in 1,300
Age 30 1 in 1,000
Age 35 1 in 365
Age 40 1 in 90
Age 45 1 in 30

As you can see, from age 30 to 35 the risk of having a baby with down's syndrom nearly triples. From Age 35 to 40 it quadruples.

Women over 35 (especially first pregnancies) are considered by OBs to be high risk pregnancies, and are monitored more closely than younger mothers. I'm not saying you shouldn't have a baby in your late 30s (as that would make me a hypocrite), just that you realize there are increased risks. I certainly wouldn't rush anyone into motherhood who isn't ready, but I would want you to be aware of the potential consequences of waiting too long.

 

[bikinibound]

Ugh...I have eaten 90g of fiber over the last 2 days, and it's making me incredibly gassy. I am sitting in a small room with the door shut, and it's amazing I haven't passed out yet.



I've been extra hungry the last few days, so my calories have not been good yesterday and today. 4500 over the last 2 days. Sunday was good, though. I did make up for it somewhat by working out at the gym for 40min and then going on a 53 min/3 mile walk. Yes, it was much slower than normal, but I had just drunk a ton of water before my walk and felt very sluggish and heavy. I was fighting off cramps the whole time too.

 

[Bellaryna]

Kimberly if you have a boy, i hope you pick the name Trevor...its such a good name

how is everything going?

I ABSOLUTELY AGREE!!
As that is the name of my youngest so I am just a smidge bit partial. LOL

 

[Invariant]

Kimmy, it's amazing how everytime I come in here, I have myself a good belly laugh. You're so funny.

Hey, you know what, at least you got that HUGE walk in. I'm sure it helped you feel less gluttenous after all that eating. If I exercise after I gorge myself, it really allieviates any doubts and guilty feelings I'd otherwise have of myself.

I hope you're having a good Wednsday!! (((Big Hugs)))

 

[bikinibound]

I ABSOLUTELY AGREE!!
As that is the name of my youngest so I am just a smidge bit partial. LOL

See, that would make for too many Trevors around here..lol. And then if I said something like, "I have to go breastfeed Trevor now," some of you might think I meant one of the Texas Trevors and would think I was a real sicko (not that you don't already think that), and that the Trevors were some very lucky guys.