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Kimmy, I'm so proud of you, resisting temptation and all that! I find it SO DIFFICULT sometimes to have the willpower to resist a wide array of food. I find myself crushing my water bottle in an attempt to allieviate my temptations.
Good luck on getting preggers. I'm rooting for you and the H to be with child here soon. I know how much you're looking forward to it!
Good luck on getting preggers. I'm rooting for you and the H to be with child here soon. I know how much you're looking forward to it!
bikinibound
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Good luck with the test, Kim!
I like the fact that you are going to be mom at your mid 30s. I am almost 29 and still have no desire for children while the whole society thinks that I must have them now, immediately...
If you do want children, I wouldn't wait too long. I wanted to start when I was about your age, or my early 30s. Once you get to my age (36), fertility decreases rapidly, and the risk of birth defects increases rapidly. I'm scared to death of having a baby with problems.
bikinibound
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Yeah, we just started trying to get preggers.
I speak some Korean, too--although I'm sure yours is waaaaaaay better than mine.
I am good at swearing and conversing with Korean taxi drivers. 
Have you been to Korea? H and I really miss Korean food, so we ate 3 times last week when we were in Ann Arbor. There just aren't many Korean restaurants around here.
bikinibound
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The funny thing is that I didn't really resist temptation that much, because I ate all the food--I just managed not to gorge on it...lol
You know, I'm kinda scared of motherhood--it's a pretty hefty responsibility.
ali2
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It is, but look at it like this...there is no one right way to do it and the baby is going to think that your way is the right way...it is a learning process, that's all
carrie3101
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Wow, where have I been? That's great that you're trying! Would you rather a girl or a boy? How many kids do you want? Don't mind me, I'm nosy. LOL. I'm with the other poster that mentioned not getting preggers until in your 30s. You mentioned you speak a bit of Korean?? REALLY? That's awesome...have you ever been?
AmyRB
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It is, but look at it like this...there is no one right way to do it and the baby is going to think that your way is the right way...it is a learning process, that's all
At least until they're adults and can blame you for everything that is wrong in their lives. Lol!!!
You DO learn as you go. As long as you have the absolute best interests of your child as your number one priority, then you'll be a great mom.
Trying for a kiddo, huh? That's some exciting, yet scary stuff!
I watched my little nephew yesterday. Actually both my wife and I did. It was amazing how draining he was. He's at that age where he demands attention and is active as all hell. I set out to get so much done yesterday and got none of it done.
It made me realize that, though I do want kids, right now is definitely NOT the right time. Before I'm 30, I hope though.
Best of luck!
I watched my little nephew yesterday. Actually both my wife and I did. It was amazing how draining he was. He's at that age where he demands attention and is active as all hell. I set out to get so much done yesterday and got none of it done.
It made me realize that, though I do want kids, right now is definitely NOT the right time. Before I'm 30, I hope though.
Best of luck!
bikinibound
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It is, but look at it like this...there is no one right way to do it and the baby is going to think that your way is the right way...it is a learning process, that's all
That part isn't what scares me..lol. I know I'll be a good mom. I'm just so used to doing whatever I want whenever I want--pretty much. I have tons of "alone time" that's pretty important to me. I know that is all going to go out the window.
However, I have been told that the joys of motherhood make up for my lack of sleep/free time. 
I hope they're right!!! 
bikinibound
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I prefer a boy--but at my age I'll just be thrilled with a baby that is healthy. I know that sounds cliche--but as scared to death as I am of something being wrong with the baby--it's true. I want at least 2 kids, but I doubt I'll have more than that biologically b/c of my age. I would like to talk my H into adopting 1 or 2 out of foster care at some point.
If you wait until your 30s, I recommend not waiting until your mid-30s.
Yes, I learned Korean from living there for 5yrs..lol It's fairly rusty from lack of use atm though.
bikinibound
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bikinibound
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That's right--they blame their parents for everything once they're adults..lmao
As I said to Ali, I'm not worried that I'll be a bad mom, I'm worried I'll be miserable...lmao
bikinibound
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Yes, scary stuff indeed! I know what you mean about your nephew. When we were at my friends' house last week, her 2 and 4 yr old boys kept their mother and us (mainly my H) very busy. It's non-stop energy from sunrise to sunset. I know my sleeping is going to be greatly affected by children. That's why I'm trying to sleep as much as possible now...
AmyRB
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You have no free time but it is soooo worth it. I wish I could spend every second with Bella. I too used to love my personal time but with kids, your priorities completely change.
I want to adopt 2 more but Sean still isn't on board to that idea. He wants me to have another but the doc has already told us we were lucky to have one and that my body did not do too well with the pregnancy. I'm DONE and I hope he changes his mind as well.
I want to adopt 2 more but Sean still isn't on board to that idea. He wants me to have another but the doc has already told us we were lucky to have one and that my body did not do too well with the pregnancy. I'm DONE and I hope he changes his mind as well.
hi there, just popping in, glad to see you doing so great!
Yes, the free time..........ahh I remember the saturdays DH and I trying to decide which tv show we wanted to watch and when we wanted to roll out of bed, every time we thought we wanted a kid we would say ahhh but we'd have been up for hours by now and we would change our minds to wait another month LOL, then eventually we go to the wanting a child anyway.
Now we cant imagine our lives without her, we wonder WHAT did we do before? Hmm, its hard to say. There will be times you will miss your freedom or activities but they will be tiny patches in a field of glory called motherhood---it is so so so so wonderful. Having waited until your 30's can make it all the better because you are mature and appreciative of what you have (not meant to put down others choices to have them early). PS just dont make a common mom mistake and forget about your first priority hubby and dont 'loose' yoruself in motherhood, you have to still make time for you!
Anyway best of luck to you!
Yes, the free time..........ahh I remember the saturdays DH and I trying to decide which tv show we wanted to watch and when we wanted to roll out of bed, every time we thought we wanted a kid we would say ahhh but we'd have been up for hours by now and we would change our minds to wait another month LOL, then eventually we go to the wanting a child anyway.
Now we cant imagine our lives without her, we wonder WHAT did we do before? Hmm, its hard to say. There will be times you will miss your freedom or activities but they will be tiny patches in a field of glory called motherhood---it is so so so so wonderful. Having waited until your 30's can make it all the better because you are mature and appreciative of what you have (not meant to put down others choices to have them early). PS just dont make a common mom mistake and forget about your first priority hubby and dont 'loose' yoruself in motherhood, you have to still make time for you!
Anyway best of luck to you!
bikinibound
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bikinibound
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I hope I feel that way, too.
If not, I'm gonna have a hard time of it...lolYeah, hopefully Sean and my H will see the light..lol
Nicole--thanks for stopping by! I totally get you and your H's former mentality. One of the reasons we waited so long was b/c my H didn't want to give up all his free time. And don't worry--I'm far too selfish to ever not make time for me. And my H would insist on me making time for him--and I would want to. I think it's sad when people with kids have let all the romance out of their lives. My cousin and her H are like that. For their last anniversary, they went out to dinner--with their kids...lol. I asked why she didn't leave the kids with her MIL as it wasn't very romantic. She said that once you have kids the romance is gone. I disagree. It's only that way b/c you let it be.