Hi and welcome.
Just for future reference 1kg = 2.2lbs so 20kg is around 44lb. I find myself doing a lot of mental conversions when I talk to people here!
Honestly for me, the biggest challenge is socializing. Both of my jobs and my life put me in situations where I don't have a whole lot of healthy choices. At least once a week I have to do something with my clients, my co-workers, my team, whatever. And usually it includes margaritas and eating out.
So for me figuring out a way to balance eating healthily and low-calorie with not being the party-pooper/food snob/spoilsport of the group has really been difficult. My weight loss has been slower at times than I would have liked because of trying to find that balance.
As far as motivation, this is something that's posted in my diary as well, but I'll share it with you here. After the first few months, here's what I realized about motivation:
A lot of people have problems staying motivated, especially when they don't see results immediately (or when they hit a stall or a dip). And a lot of people think that if they're not "motivated" all the time and always excited and "up" about weight loss and being healthy, then they're not doing it right. I used to be this way, which is why I dieted and failed for so many years.
So now my philosophy has changed. It's more of a life-plan type of philosophy instead of a rah-rah one.
Some mornings when you get up, you feel great and you're excited to go to work or get on with your daily routine and you're energized and motivated, right? And some mornings you get up and you didn't sleep well and you feel bad or you're upset about something or you've got cramps and feel bloated ... and you really just want to go back to bed and hide under the covers. But .. you don't. And it has nothing to do with being motivated. You get up and go to work or care for the kids or go to school or whatever because that's what we do. That's what a responsible, mature adult does.
And that's how I look at the whole process of eating well, losing weight, and exercising. Some days I feel really good about it. Some days I have great ideas for what to fix for dinner and I enjoy the challenge and the gym is fun and .. it all is just GREAT. And some days I look at the yogurt in my bowl in the morning and think "Bleah." Some days I get in my car after work and think "I just want to go home" and then I drive to the gym and do my workout.
It's not always fun. It's not always what you WANT to do. But if you are honest with yourself and if you are responsible and sensible ... you do it. Just like everything in life.
I'll be honest - today is one of my not-motivated days. I just got home after spending nearly 2 hours in traffic in a car w/out air conditioning (in Atlanta). I feel horrible, nearly sick from the heat, tired, and crabby. When I walked into the house my housemate said "look, you feel bad so let's just order pizza". You have NO idea how badly I wanted to say yes, but I didn't. Not because I'm motivated right now - right now I could give a flip about motivation. But because this is what I do - I make healthy choices, even when I'm tired and crabby and feel icky. It's not motivation it's just ... life.
So in another 10 mins I'm going to get up and start rolling turkey meatballs. As much as I don't want to.
