being skinny obbsession
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still you haen't figured out why so that is the first thing you need to do. what is the underlying stuff that pushes you to your thought process. you can't change it if you don't know why you are doing it. you get what i am saying or do i only make sense to my self , cause if i do i'll put it another way??
the rreason i want to lose weight is cause i want to be thinner, it also gives me control of something in my life. my parents r overprotective and i feel that my weight is the only thing i cant control, also iv been skinny when i was little i was the skinnist in my class and then i matured i wasnt skinniest, i have never beens the prettest but at least i ca be the skinnest.
help
Hi,
I think at this point it is important that you talk to your parents what you've expressed to us here regarding your obsession with loosing weight. I think at this time you need to consult with a certified nutritionist that can look at your individual situation and guide you.
Also don't take this the wrong way, but you might want to talk to a therapist that deals with eating disorders. You may not have a full blown out eating disorder, but if you say that this is what you're always thinking about and that you feel you're obsessed with it, then you are on your way to a serious eating disorder. Loosing weight does not have to be something that's all consuming in your life. If it is, then there is a problem that needs professional help.
Get help! Stay well
Hi,
I think at this point it is important that you talk to your parents what you've expressed to us here regarding your obsession with loosing weight. I think at this time you need to consult with a certified nutritionist that can look at your individual situation and guide you.
Also don't take this the wrong way, but you might want to talk to a therapist that deals with eating disorders. You may not have a full blown out eating disorder, but if you say that this is what you're always thinking about and that you feel you're obsessed with it, then you are on your way to a serious eating disorder. Loosing weight does not have to be something that's all consuming in your life. If it is, then there is a problem that needs professional help.
Get help! Stay well
zah_zah said:
I urge you to talk to your parents, tell them they're holding you so close you can't breathe. You're growing up and they have a hard time letting you go. If they grant you control over that part of your life, then maybe you can let the dieting go.
I know you feel you don't want to now, but ask yourself: if you indeed become the skinniest, will that also make you the happiest? The answer, in the long run, wil be: No. You will feel very crappy and unstable, like I did. So talk to your parents and tell them honestly what you are feeling, before it's too late.
The fact that you've realised you're going the wrong way is already a step foreward. I know it's difficult, but start thinking of food as your ally, not your enemy. Eating too little of it will result in muscle loss (trust me, I know) and fat will remain. That isn't what you want. Maybe you're not the prettiest, but with the right info (you already have plenty determination) you can get a great, defined body that all the pretty faces in school will envy. Doesn't that sound a lot better than being the 'skinniest'?
Ppl here have good knowledge. For example, starting my own thread has already gotten me a lot of useful info
I wish you good luck, Zah Zah
And if you need someone to talk to, you're free to pm me
i agree talk to your parents. heck i've never been the prettiest either but with what i've done to shape my body even the prettiest and skinnest girls i know are envious, and the compliments i get on my strength and definition are quite enough to tell me i went the right way. don't aim for skinny aim for healthy and hard, thats a much better goal, but to achieve a hard body you need to eat.
i agree i do need self estem but i dont have any and i dont want to be obsessed with my weight but i am when i look at food the first thing i think of is dont eat it or how many calories in it. i want to exerice all the time and i havnt been meantime cause my parents wont let me use the treadmill i get guilty for eating. i havnt lost weight in like 2 weeks and i feel disgusited with myself, my parents also want me to go to the doctor again but i dont want her to tell me to gain weight or that i might or have an eating disorder. i just want to know what is a healthy calorie limit for me which i can still lose 5 pounds but i still can keep my energy up
and i dont want to be obsessed with my weight but i am when i look at food the first thing i think of is dont eat it or how many calories in it. i want to exerice all the time and i havnt been meantime cause my parents wont let me use the treadmill i get guilty for eating. i havnt lost weight in like 2 weeks and i feel disgusited with myself, my parents also want me to go to the doctor again but i dont want her to tell me to gain weight or that i might or have an eating disorder. i just want to know what is a healthy calorie limit for me which i can still lose 5 pounds but i still can keep my energy upZah zah, please read this, coming from a former near-anorexic girl:
you've hit a plateau girl. Ur not losing any weight, nor are you going to if you keep on starving urself. Your body is now in self preservation mode and your metabolism has most probably slowed down a great deal. Also this way of dieting causes you to lose muscle, which isn't helping, to say the least.
I hope you now realise that this isn't the right way to lose weight. I've been there, and it wasn't nice. I got thin, but not in a pretty way. I probably had the length and weight of Adriana Lima, but my body didn't look like hers. I looked like a rice noodle, she looks toned and tight.
I understand the problems you have with your parents. My own gave me a pretty hard time about my eating habits as well. My dad insisted I was anorexic and my mom wanted me to see a doctor. I was cold and tired all the time, but in denial.
My dieting started because of my low self esteem. I thought, if I lost a lot of weight, I would look better and be liked more. This was the oposite of the truth:
When my weight plunged below what was healthy for my length, a guy I secretly fancied came up and talked to me during break at school. U can understand I was excited and surprised.
The only thing I remember about that conversation was him saying at one point: "You used to look so pretty, but I'm worried about you. You've gotten too thin these days. Have you been ill?"
That was my turning point. I really hope you'll find yours soon.
Talk to your parents, girl. Tell them how unhappy you feel about them being so overprotective even tho they just wanna be good parents. If you're afraid of telling them, or afraid of it not coming out properly, write it down and give it to them. That way you can tell it the way you wanna say it without interuptions. They have no choice but to read it.
And ask yourself why you want to lose weight so badly. Why you want to be skinny so badly. And remember: getting better isn't suddenly stuffing yourself and gaining a lot. Getting better is healthy eating and feeling better.
Good luck!
you've hit a plateau girl. Ur not losing any weight, nor are you going to if you keep on starving urself. Your body is now in self preservation mode and your metabolism has most probably slowed down a great deal. Also this way of dieting causes you to lose muscle, which isn't helping, to say the least.
I hope you now realise that this isn't the right way to lose weight. I've been there, and it wasn't nice. I got thin, but not in a pretty way. I probably had the length and weight of Adriana Lima, but my body didn't look like hers. I looked like a rice noodle, she looks toned and tight.
I understand the problems you have with your parents. My own gave me a pretty hard time about my eating habits as well. My dad insisted I was anorexic and my mom wanted me to see a doctor. I was cold and tired all the time, but in denial.
My dieting started because of my low self esteem. I thought, if I lost a lot of weight, I would look better and be liked more. This was the oposite of the truth:
When my weight plunged below what was healthy for my length, a guy I secretly fancied came up and talked to me during break at school. U can understand I was excited and surprised.
The only thing I remember about that conversation was him saying at one point: "You used to look so pretty, but I'm worried about you. You've gotten too thin these days. Have you been ill?"
That was my turning point. I really hope you'll find yours soon.
Talk to your parents, girl. Tell them how unhappy you feel about them being so overprotective even tho they just wanna be good parents. If you're afraid of telling them, or afraid of it not coming out properly, write it down and give it to them. That way you can tell it the way you wanna say it without interuptions. They have no choice but to read it.
And ask yourself why you want to lose weight so badly. Why you want to be skinny so badly. And remember: getting better isn't suddenly stuffing yourself and gaining a lot. Getting better is healthy eating and feeling better.
Good luck!
Bmr
Hi zah-zah,
If you're 5'9 and currently weighing about 120lbs, your Basal Metabolic Rate(BMR) indicates you should be eating around 1200 calories per day. If you're exercising on a regular basis that amount could be more.
Also remember that muscle burns fat, so if you're starving yourself (or not eating enough) you're going to reach that plateau and stay there until you start eating right. Also keep in mind that you're not only loosing muscle but could start loosing bone density, and trust me that will bring you more problems than you'd want to deal with.
I agree 100% with Maverick, talk to parents, and get help now.
Hi zah-zah,
If you're 5'9 and currently weighing about 120lbs, your Basal Metabolic Rate(BMR) indicates you should be eating around 1200 calories per day. If you're exercising on a regular basis that amount could be more.
Also remember that muscle burns fat, so if you're starving yourself (or not eating enough) you're going to reach that plateau and stay there until you start eating right. Also keep in mind that you're not only loosing muscle but could start loosing bone density, and trust me that will bring you more problems than you'd want to deal with.
I agree 100% with Maverick, talk to parents, and get help now.
Sorry Zah Zah but 1000 calories a day is pretty dangerous and has probablly sent ur metabolism plumeting down!'
It wasnt that long ago that i ate 1100 a day and that was even to little. I now try and stuff myself with 2000 a day and already i have seen and felt increases in my metabolism.
Take the advice from me, at LEAST eat 1500 a day, ur not doing urself any good, ur doing urself bad! sorry.
It wasnt that long ago that i ate 1100 a day and that was even to little. I now try and stuff myself with 2000 a day and already i have seen and felt increases in my metabolism.
Take the advice from me, at LEAST eat 1500 a day, ur not doing urself any good, ur doing urself bad! sorry.
None taken.
I am well awear that i am underweight but that is because i did the same thing as you did, i ate very little!
It really messed up my metabolism and now i am just starting to get it going again. I am also trying to gain muscle.
But please, at the very least eat 1500 calories a day plus, not 1000, thats just silly.
Sorry if this is a little harsh its just that i have a friend who is similar to you and i am very concerned for you both. Its not healthy and its not going to do you any good.
I am well awear that i am underweight but that is because i did the same thing as you did, i ate very little!
It really messed up my metabolism and now i am just starting to get it going again. I am also trying to gain muscle.
But please, at the very least eat 1500 calories a day plus, not 1000, thats just silly.
Sorry if this is a little harsh its just that i have a friend who is similar to you and i am very concerned for you both. Its not healthy and its not going to do you any good.