You know, i never really let any of this get to me bc to me i wasnt fat.. i was chubby,, i did gain alot of weight recently but it just started getting to me... I feel so bad because now i get comments like " You mad fat", or "You have no neck" or stupid s*!@# like that and it makes me feel bad, because i look in the mirror,, and i just see what they are talking about,,, im not that overweight im 5'4 and im around 148 or something i dont know maybe more but my face is chubby and my legs are chubby.. i feel so bad about myself, i feel Jiggly.. i feel so ugly at times, and i feel that i look ugly in everything i wear.. My boyfriend makes me feel bad 2 sometimes even if he doesnt mean it.. He be like " oh you are fat" or something like that.. I tried to loose weight befor and go on a diet but it doesnt work for me.. Im about to graduate in june and i want to feel good about myself in graduation Not feel like everyone is looking at my body.. I hate it...Its tearing me up inside..
Being Overweight sucks..
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First of all, I think you need to talk to your boyfriend about his negative comments... and if he doesn't listen, break-up with him. There is no excuse for a boyfriend to talk to you like that and you shouldn't put up with it.
If you really, truly feel badly about your body, start making small changes: add fresh fruits and veggies (apples, clementines, grapes, bananas, strawberries, baby carrots, sliced cucumbers, etc.) to your diet - they will fill you up better than snack foods and they are super-nutritious. If you're not eating it already, switch to 100% whole wheat bread (check the ingredient list to be sure it says 100% stone ground whole wheat, NOT enriched wheat) - it has a lot of fibre and, like the produce, it's filling and nutritious. Tell your parents what you are doing and ask that they prepare healthy suppers for you - less fried foods, more veggies and salads, chicken instead of beef, etc. Start packing your own lunch - make turkey sandwiches the night before, bring a hard-boiled egg for protein, and lots of fruit. Don't think of it as a diet - don't count calories or anything - just make these little changes and you will be able to see the difference in a few weeks.
Do you do any exercise? If you don't have access to a gym or the YMCA, start walking. A 30-minute brisk walk daily will be super-beneficial to you. After I exercise, I feel soooooo good about myself - it's amazing the confidence you get from a little sweat! Not to mention the weightloss!
Just try to re-evaluate everything - your boyfriend and your friends, your eating habits, and your reasons for wanting to lose weight - it has to be because YOU want it, not your jerk-of-a-boyfriend.
Keep us posted with how things go... Good luck!
If you really, truly feel badly about your body, start making small changes: add fresh fruits and veggies (apples, clementines, grapes, bananas, strawberries, baby carrots, sliced cucumbers, etc.) to your diet - they will fill you up better than snack foods and they are super-nutritious. If you're not eating it already, switch to 100% whole wheat bread (check the ingredient list to be sure it says 100% stone ground whole wheat, NOT enriched wheat) - it has a lot of fibre and, like the produce, it's filling and nutritious. Tell your parents what you are doing and ask that they prepare healthy suppers for you - less fried foods, more veggies and salads, chicken instead of beef, etc. Start packing your own lunch - make turkey sandwiches the night before, bring a hard-boiled egg for protein, and lots of fruit. Don't think of it as a diet - don't count calories or anything - just make these little changes and you will be able to see the difference in a few weeks.
Do you do any exercise? If you don't have access to a gym or the YMCA, start walking. A 30-minute brisk walk daily will be super-beneficial to you. After I exercise, I feel soooooo good about myself - it's amazing the confidence you get from a little sweat! Not to mention the weightloss!
Just try to re-evaluate everything - your boyfriend and your friends, your eating habits, and your reasons for wanting to lose weight - it has to be because YOU want it, not your jerk-of-a-boyfriend.
Keep us posted with how things go... Good luck!
With a handle like "Strawberry" I take it you're a female, also the fact that you mentioned your boyfriend.
I completely agree 100% with "spockafina's" weight-loss advice. It must be YOUR choice to lose weight, not that jerk of a boyfriend. If he is trying to impress his friends with a trophy, let him know you're a person with feelings - not a trophy to show off.
Moving on... I really don't see you as overweight with your brief description, women are supposed to be a little heavier than their male counterparts. I am 5'4", 125lbs., and yet I still think I need to loosen a few pounds. And yes I sometimes, too, feel overweight and fat, but that is only because I'm such a "perfectionist" that I must achieve "cut status" for my body - anyway, without getting sidetracked, I really don't think that your height and weight make you fat at all, I think that desciptions sounds about right for someone of your stature.
Does anyone disagree?
I completely agree 100% with "spockafina's" weight-loss advice. It must be YOUR choice to lose weight, not that jerk of a boyfriend. If he is trying to impress his friends with a trophy, let him know you're a person with feelings - not a trophy to show off.
Moving on... I really don't see you as overweight with your brief description, women are supposed to be a little heavier than their male counterparts. I am 5'4", 125lbs., and yet I still think I need to loosen a few pounds. And yes I sometimes, too, feel overweight and fat, but that is only because I'm such a "perfectionist" that I must achieve "cut status" for my body - anyway, without getting sidetracked, I really don't think that your height and weight make you fat at all, I think that desciptions sounds about right for someone of your stature.
Does anyone disagree?
i think it's all prespective. and how you dress to best show off your good points.
when i weighted 138, (i'm five three & petite) more than 20% over my listed body weight, the dr said i was Obese. i wasn't of course, i looked thin to average. but copared to a reed thin model, i was beefy i guess.
according to the bmi scale, i could weight as little as 92 and not be too thin...or as much as 175 and not be overweight. naturally none of them are exactly true...
now i'm closer to 110 like i was after pregnancies (i'm 40 years old btw) and whereas some of my clothes hang on me, many fit me just fine, and i don't look all that different - why?
because i always dressed for my figure - whether i had more belly or more hips - i always wore dark on the bottom (navy skirt, black skirt etc) or a very very small print. there are many ways to disguise weight & that's why, even when i was some 25 lbs heavier, that many people did not realize that i wasn't thin anymore!
at some point you have to bond with yourself. do you want to spend all your free time eating carrots and jumping around a gym? or do you want to eat out, have energy, and lead a moderate lifestyle?
you have to come to terms with it. thin is unusual/special because most people aren't...you need moderation; see your dr and read self h elp books. they do help, a lot!
you can do it!
when i weighted 138, (i'm five three & petite) more than 20% over my listed body weight, the dr said i was Obese. i wasn't of course, i looked thin to average. but copared to a reed thin model, i was beefy i guess.
according to the bmi scale, i could weight as little as 92 and not be too thin...or as much as 175 and not be overweight. naturally none of them are exactly true...
now i'm closer to 110 like i was after pregnancies (i'm 40 years old btw) and whereas some of my clothes hang on me, many fit me just fine, and i don't look all that different - why?
because i always dressed for my figure - whether i had more belly or more hips - i always wore dark on the bottom (navy skirt, black skirt etc) or a very very small print. there are many ways to disguise weight & that's why, even when i was some 25 lbs heavier, that many people did not realize that i wasn't thin anymore!
at some point you have to bond with yourself. do you want to spend all your free time eating carrots and jumping around a gym? or do you want to eat out, have energy, and lead a moderate lifestyle?
you have to come to terms with it. thin is unusual/special because most people aren't...you need moderation; see your dr and read self h elp books. they do help, a lot!
you can do it!
Thanks for the support everyone i appreciate it, I went to the doctor today and i found out im 149lb.. Im going for 5 to more pounds to lose.. I started a diet to day but i dont know how really to do this, and in school i take Yoga and Fitness..Im a picky eater and i hardly like anyfoods lol the food i like just happen to be Junk food.. but im making the effort to eat vegetables and fruits even if i dont like them..
but im making the effort to eat vegetables and fruits even if i dont like them..
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Strawberry05 said:Thanks for the support everyone i appreciate it, I went to the doctor today and i found out im 149lb.. Im going for 5 to more pounds to lose.. I started a diet to day but i dont know how really to do this, and in school i take Yoga and Fitness..Im a picky eater and i hardly like anyfoods lol the food i like just happen to be Junk food..
I hate to break the news to you, but if you go on a diet, you may lose the weight you want but you wil gain it back when you go OFF the diet.
You need to change your diet (as in eating habits).
But don't worry it's not all bad!
It's actually better and easier than going on a diet, because you can occassionally eat junk, you just have to make sure that you are eating enough (keeps the metabolism up) and eating the right (as in healthy) foods.
I've heard that it takes 24 tries before your tastebuds become accustom to a new food. So if you don't like soy milk try drinking it for two weeks (and keep eating those fruits and veggies).
I used to looooooove Twinkies, fried food, and McDonald's but I stopped eating them for awhile, and now I loath them, instead going for salads and fish and broiled chicken.
Since you only like junk foods try adding the healthy foods to your diet (like those fruits and veggies), once your body is used to some good healthy stuff, you can start to cut some of the bad stuff out of your diet.
This is much easier than quitting all the yummy stuff cold turkey and eating only spinach and cottage cheese. That is why most people quit their diets, but why you will SUCCEED.
Good luck.
I think you need to think in terms of a lifestyle change. Because the real deal is this......if you've got more energy going in than going out, you are going to gain weight. It's very simple. I'm not saying starve yourself and go to the gym 7 days a week. Make small changes in the way you live and they will become habits. Limit yourself to one soda a day until you can give it up completely. Drink more water. Don't buy bad food, if it isn't there you can't eat it. Go for a walk everyday until you can walk for an hour. Everyone can do that. Eat better, make better choices. Quit whining and do something. Be proactive in your life. You are a strong woman, you deserve to be healthy. You are beautiful and worth taking care of. If the boyfriend says anything negative, get rid of him.