Before pictures. First post. I'm being brave. And I need help with my face.

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renbrowninc

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Hello everyone! I'm new here. I registered at this site with hopes that y'all can give me some suggestions. I want to change my appearance from gross to beautiful...so I have alot of work ahead of me and only one year to get it all done.

I currently weigh 205 pounds and am 5'5''. I know, obese obese obese. I am going to get down to 125. My weight isn't my only issue, it's also my face that I need to make changes to.

I need honest suggestions on what plastic serguries or changes you would make to my appearance in order for me to be more attractive.

Here is my before pictures:










Sorry I couldnt make them any smaller.


Please understand that this is my last hope and so if you're going to outright call me ugly; as most of society has...don't bother. I've already hit rock bottom.

Please do not suggest that I change my hair color. Im a natural blonde and my hair only looks like *($&*$*&$(**$)_# in the pictures because it's not straightened today or even tamed.lol. I will also be toning it down [it's pretty dang yellow looking due to a Manic Panic disaster!]

I will be starting my diet tomorrow and posting pictures weekly. In May, when I get whatever surgeries done...I will post pictures of those changes too. So far the only things I thought of was jaw reconstruction [I was stabbed at age 7 several times and my jaw was punched broken and never grew back correctly. Thats why it sort of slants to my left.] and rhinoplasty.

WHOOPS. Okay so I just noticed I sort of was making funny faces in one or two of those..I think you'll still get the basic picture though. :]

Thank you for your time. I'm sorry if this post is annoying or misplaced.
 
Wow! First off......maybe you uploaded the wrong pics because the way you were speaking I was almost expecting some hideous monster to appear on my screen. Instead I clicked on my link and appeared this very pretty blonde girl.

Personally, I do not think your face needs ANY surgery. Leave your face alone. It's fine as it is. Your face is nice and slim for being at 205 pounds!

I'm 5'3 and was 200 pounds when I decided to lose weight and become a healthier person. I'm now at 167 pounds. If I can do it, so can you.

We have the same goal (125). I have set myself a short term goal of 150 pounds and a long term of 125, I think it helps to break it down like that.

Good luck! Hang in there because there probably will be times you feel like giving up. It will all be worth it in the end! :D
 
You're really pretty, and you carry your weight well. From the pictures, I'd have guessed you a good 50 pounds lighter than you say you are. Plus you have amazingly great eyes. :)

In the pics, you can't (well, I can't) see anything wrong with your jaw, but if it wasn't ever set straight, there might be a functional reason to straighten it. (In which case, it would probably be covered by your health insurance, woohoo!) IMHO, you don't need a nose job at all.
 
I am genuinely puzzled and wonder what has given you the idea that you are ugly. I suspect this is the area you need to address, rather than modifying your face. Possibly the original injury you mention, has been corrected physically, but still affects your self image?

You are quite beautiful. I can't imagine which part of your face you think needs attention.

Also, from your face pictures I wouldn't have guessed that you weigh 205 lb. Actually I wouldn't even have guessed that from your other pics, though it's hard to tell from the angle I suppose.

If you are planning to lose weight, you should complete that task before considering surgery, because it has the potential to change facial appearance quite a lot anyway. Also, because plastic surgery can be adversely affected by large changes in weight afterwards.
 
OMG I just reread you post and see that you haven't even had the jaw surgery or rhinoplasty yet. Far out! You look soooo much better than you think you do!!

Maybe you need the jaw surgery for some other reason. That's a matter for discussion with your doctor I think, and in that case, my comment about waiting till after you lose weight becomes irrelevant.
 
All I have to say is WOW, thank you for the positive encouragement. I love this forum already and Ive only been here for about an hour. :]

I was litterally scared out of my mind about the comments I would get. People have called me ugly all of my life; I figured you all would do the same. What happened when i was seven doesnt even bother me. Its the torment ive gone through in the last five years by others just because of the way I look.

You all are very very sweet.

Lol, nope I haven't had the surgeries yet. I am going to wait until im done with my weightloss. I've been wanting to get rhinoplasty done since age nine. My nose is big and wide, besides from that it has a bump. :/ I was trying my best in the photos to make my jaw look completely normal. Its not horribly disfigured, I'm aware, but i would look alot better if i got it fixed. Not only that, but theres painful popping whenever i opened my mouth.

Im also considering getting something done to my eyelids & brows. Ive noticed ever since the age of 12 that they are droopy.

Some days I wake up, look in the mirror, and don't feel like going on with life. Its not the weight thats my biggest problem, its my face. Weight is something you can lose, but ugliness? Thats much easier said than done.

Can losing weight make a persons face more attractive??

Im desperately hoping that when this is all said and done I will love the way I look.

Anyways, god bless and thank you for replying and the encouragement.


If you have any suggestions feel free to share.


Love you all!
 
Are you kidding us? Surgery? No. Just... do not do that. I do not suggest you even change your hair! Seriously, do not change anything.

renbrowninc said:
People have called me ugly all of my life...
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Who are these people? They either need glasses or are just overall jealous. It is hard to believe anyone would say that.

I really do not know what to say other than to counter everything you said in your first post there.

--Jason
 
Wow

OMG your freaking beautiful!! dont you let anything near your face expect for food! and your boyfriend if you have one haha :D your perfect please dont do anything to that cute face of yours!!! :( If i was your boyfriend i'll tackle you if you were to do anything like surgery :p ;)
 
First of all I think you look just fine. All you need to do is loose weight and get fit. You must be crazy to think about facial plastic surgery. I personally do not think you need it. I dont know what kind of community you thought this was but, we are big on encouragement here not dis-couragement. NONE of us are perfect here and we are all here to better ourselves in one way or another.

Chin up. I think you look great and I think you came to the right place. Best of luck to you in your weight loss target. Just try and remember you are beautiful inside and out and if someone can't see that, well thats there problem now isint it.

go get em' sweetie.
 
I don't even know where to begin. I think you look fabulous, amazing, beautiful, gorgous, wonderful, spectacular and down right sexy. I don't know what makes you think you need surgery. I hope you can see your true beauty because I am sure most people here can see it. I don't think surgery is the right thing to do. Just excersice and eat healthy. Do the right thing. :)
 
I don't know where to begin..

Fisrt of all, I think you have an extremely pretty face. There are two reasons why I don't think you should ever have plastic surgery:

1. Unless you have a disfigurement, which you absolutely do not, no doctor can rival what God has done in making you the beauty that you are. We all have a few glitches here and there, and they actually ENHANCE all the other things, more often than not. They are what stand you out in the crowd. Plastic surgery can only make you look fake and the chances of them screwing up cannot be completely avoided. Stick with the original equipment, maybe get your jaw fixed if it's a practical issue, but dont let them cut up your skin.

2. It sounds like you are determined to be harder on yourself than anyone else could possibly be. I know sometimes people do that so nothing anyone says can hurt them because they have already endured it from themselves. Whoever says you are ugly is a jerk. They obviously care nothing about character, and are either jealous (I've seen this in some women), or so shallow they do not deserve your regard. Plastic surgery can only make you look weak to them. If you can take a good, honest look at yourself, not beat yourself up over every single flaw, you turn that weakness to strength and you will see what they say for the petty minded bullshit it really is. :chillpill:

In any case, maybe you need to replace some friends.

:chillpill:
 
Hi !
Like everybody else, I think you look great.
My neighbor is approx the same age as you (well, you look in your 20's so I think you are) and weights the same weight as you, except that she's 5'7". Let me tell you, she looks a hundred times bigger than you. And for your "face problem". Well, you have the typical face of a girl, if she loses the weight, can be considered as beautiful as Cameron Diaz!
Even now, your face looks lovely. You shouldn't change anything surgically. Just drop a few pounds, because I'm sure that's what makes you miserable (the same for me...) then , reevaluate the situation. The real problem isn't the way we're built, it's only the way we treat ourselves. Treat your body right, and the rest will follow.
And, I'm not sure guys will be attracted to someone who had a nose job, eyebrows lift, etc. I'd say they rather have us natural, even with little flaws (which are called like that only by ourselves!).
 
I am really perplexed by your post sweetie. Who are these people calling you ugly? Are they blind or just liars? Or are you pulling our chain? Something is off about this, unless the jaw injury has caused you to see yourself in some deformed way that no one else sees, or you spend time around abusive people who make things up to make you feel bad. I mean really, who even calls an ugly person ugly? It is just rude and shows some sort of ulterior motive, such as trying to make you feel bad or less than them. Dont believe it for a second, you're gorgeous! I would agree that your jaw surgery sounds like a good plan since you are having the popping, but no implant or anything, just fixing the broken spot only! The nose is just fine, wait til your older and then see if you change your mind. I believe you will have regrets if you mess with that nose. Ever see a nose job nose? You can tell its been worked on and it looks tacky. Just my two cents :).

Oh and P.S., you will lose tons of weight when you do the jaw as I believe it usually entails breaking your jaw and wiring it shut. Perhaps that's the old school method, but I doubt you'll be eating normally for several weeks after that surgery.
 
if you're ugly -I am so never ever posting pictures again of myself... There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with your face... you are beautiful..
 
Trust me, you're not ugly. And even if you were, who cares? I say that if you drop some weight and get more fit you'll start to realize how great you can look and the swanky clothes you'll be able to fit in to. ;)

Remember... getting fit isn't an IF. You ARE going to do it. :)
 
We all have flaws, things about our bodies or faces that we don't like. And, they are amplified in our own perception, much more noticeable to us than they are to others.

You have beautiful eyes, and your nose and jawline look perfectly fine. I don't see these flaws that, to you, are pronounced. No doubt if you have some lasting damage from an earlier injury to your jaw, you should have that repaired since it causes you pain, and there may be some misalignment or scarring that just isn't evident in the photos. But I have to agree with the other posters and say that you really look quite lovely. From your post, and your feeling that others see you as ugly, I'm guessing that you have some body image issues and self-esteem issues that may skew the way you see yourself. I'm not a psychologist, but that is just the way it seems. Along with pursuing weight loss, you may want to get some counseling, to help you develop a more positive self-image.

Good luck!
 
I'm genuinely confused as to how anyone could have said you're ugly, you're just not, in fact you're rather pretty:beating:

You remind me of renee zellweger.

Good luck on the weight loss, this place is a bountiful resource of knowledge and help so i'm sure you'l find all you need.

Please don't go ahead with any surgery, you don't need it at all.
 
You are beautiful! please, please, read and take in what everyone has said. I know being a girl = rough, and people are mean - but whatever has made you feel this way about yourself you need to put it aside. You truly are pretty :)... Good luck with your weight loss. Get positive and know you can do it :) we are all here to help you!
 
WOW.

I litterally cried when I read yall's responses. You all are very very very kind, good people. Thank you. Ive never 'met' such nice people.

I couldn't even finish high school at a public school. I ended up having to homeschool myself for the last year. People would throw stuff at me, yell things to me in the hallways, harass me constantly. It was a nightmare. I couldnt even eat in the cafeteria. I was treated like some sort of monster with a contagious disease.

I know, it's stupid to have let any of that get to me. But it did. And even now, a year later, out in the real world, people stare at me and I have a feeling about what they're thinking. I keep wondering when being an adult will kick in and I wont care so much about the way that I look. 18 years old and I'm still unbelievably self conscious.

Maybe, just maybe, losing all of the weight will help.


Once again, thank you all for the kind words. Today, for the first time in a long time, I can truly say that I feel like I have hope.

I'll be sure to post progress pictures.

Love you all.
 
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