T2 Trucker
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Damn this state and it's no 'package' store laws. Our state store is closed now - 9:00 pm.
I have beer.
I have beer.
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T2 Trucker
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Crown works 
I never doubted your classiness
I never doubted your classiness 
Patty1
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All right, let's set a date to have one tonight at the same time. Then we're drinking together and not alone. haha. Perhaps some others will join us. I'll shoot for 8pm or 9pm CST. Pick your poison.
At least there will be no drinking and driving, unless you count drive-by postings....
At least there will be no drinking and driving, unless you count drive-by postings....
T2 Trucker
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It's a date
Come as you are.
I'm parlaying the not-needed taxi fare for a good beverage
Come as you are.
I'm parlaying the not-needed taxi fare for a good beverage
cinderelly
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Oh boy - thanx for droppin by it has been along time since Ive seen you - I can relate to beign sad - my battle with the x just gets worse and worse it seems I cant get him outta my life...
*GREAT BIG HUGS*
Isnt it awful to fight with someone and to so upset by someone you loved.still love when it comes down to somethign so precious liek your girls and your family...
I really do feel for you - I know exactly what you are going through we are just in different situations...
At elast yoru girls are a bit older...my oldest it still takes a big toll on and my youngest gets stuck in the cross fire alot...
I wish you all teh best Patty for the outcome in a way that suites you or what you want - Im gonna start fighting dirty it is the only way I can fight a manipulating abuser...
Im here for you if you need anyhting please remeber that...
In the meantime - chin up buttercup - I know it is hard
Oh i got that sayign off of house I loved it! Thought it was perfect for this place...
M2M
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What's up Patty?
Patty1
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Nov 1996 - My husb and I start dating. Neither of us can believe we "caught" the other, so we fall in love quickly, and move into together immediately.
Aug 1997 - I buy a house
Nov 1997 - We get engaged. He says one thing that later factors into the reason our marriage fails.
Mar 1998 - We get married with all our friends and family in Breckenridge. He says and does something that day as well that will later impact US.
Feb 1999 - Our daughter is born. Dad is out of town first 3 out of 4 weeks of her life.
1991-1999 - I work, I stop work after the baby is born.
1997-2001 - He starts his own business with a friend without discussing it with me. The business loses money and his partner eventually steals from us.
Jan to Dec 2000 - I go back to work to support the family, after first liquidating my 401k to try to support the business and family.
Oct 2000 - He starts a new business with two partners without discussing it with me. The one partner turns out to be the one stealing and we actually pay him to exit. The other partner doesn't want to help, just provide money, but actually cuts off the money after we're too deep in personally to get out.
Jul 2001 - Second daughter is born while we are trying to save first company.
2001-2007 - Paying off debts from losses of first company. Most people adviced bankruptcy but I think it's wrong.
2001-2007 - Losing money with second company
I work from home helping him with his company. I do the books, market the company, even obtain jobs for him. We fight constantly over the company. He is passive aggressive, and is afraid of criticism, so he can't complete the tasks or is self-defeating. He is not strong in business, but doesn't listen to me. His ego suffers for his failing businesses, and he is depressed. Personally he says and does things in a passive aggressive way to get what he wants.
May 2005 I stop working with him on the company because it is destroying our marriage. You can't work together, argue, be rude, and then at the end of the night have a loving relationship. The time I helped him was a profitable time. It didn't improve the relationship. I repeatedly asked for kindness and affection and didn't get it.
Jul 2005 - I'm not happy with the high weight I've achieved, and start trying to lose it in a haphazard way. Lost 5-6 lbs by year-end.
Dec 31, 2005 - At a New Year's Eve Party, my husb decided to pick a fight. I'm out back, sipping a cocktail, sitting next to a firepit, enjoying the stars and night air. It's quiet back there and a few people come and go. He has been out front, where people are slamming drinks and lighting firecrackers, have the music turned up and are just partying hard. He tells me I'm no fun or something to that effect because I'm not out front getting tanked. He drinks too much, that's what he does. I'm quiet, more reserved. I was doing what i enjoyed. I don't drink much, but especially all these years I've had to be the responsible driver.
That night I decided I wasn't going to end the year the way I was beginning it. I was going to meet my weight and fitness goals, get my kids in school, go back to work in the fall, try to keep the business afloat, and either work on or give up on the marriage.
January 1 2006 I started a journal. I walked every day and recorded my weight every day. I recorded the lowest weight of the week at WLF every week. Began running some. Actually started recording on WLF sometime in Jul 2005 or 2006. This place was a great source or help for me. I lost 20 lbs in 2006, but put the marriage last on the list, until it was too late.
Oct 2006 - My husband and I separated. He is shocked and surprised and can't seem to accept responsibility for both our parts in the failure of this marriage. We go to a counselor, who seems to help, but that is only because Scott continues to hope for a reconciliation.
Nov 2006 - I went back to work. Love the company, I put lots of pressure on myself. There is a lot of flux at work due to a merger - you could get laid off or promoted. Scott leaves to get into an apartment but then later threatens to ruin us fighting over the kids, so I switch with him so he has the house and I have the apartment.
2007 - Flying by, isn't it? Well, we have daily battles, trying to decide who gets what. His ego gets in the way. We will see a mediator next week. Six months of this has just worn me down. I want to see my children more than I do. I'm tired of running them to ballet and soccer and scouts and not just getting to spend time with them. This is the first summer I won't be home with them. He has been trying to play super dad, doing everything (at his business' expense sicne he's not working at it enough) to take care of them and show he is the better parent. It comes from a place of ego and hurt. He can't see I'm the more responsible parent.
He and I have both dabbled a little with dating and have discovered we really need to get this settled first. I did open my heart to a new situation and got it crushed.
So I guess what makes me sad is a little of all of the above. I'm worn out from the years of financial strife and marital discord. I miss my kids like crazy. I don't know what's going to happen with my career. My social life disappeared with the separation (he is manipulating and playing the poor abandoned dad doing it all on his own card, which is nonsense as I used to do it all on my own). I got my heart broke.
So right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other.
Aug 1997 - I buy a house
Nov 1997 - We get engaged. He says one thing that later factors into the reason our marriage fails.
Mar 1998 - We get married with all our friends and family in Breckenridge. He says and does something that day as well that will later impact US.
Feb 1999 - Our daughter is born. Dad is out of town first 3 out of 4 weeks of her life.
1991-1999 - I work, I stop work after the baby is born.
1997-2001 - He starts his own business with a friend without discussing it with me. The business loses money and his partner eventually steals from us.
Jan to Dec 2000 - I go back to work to support the family, after first liquidating my 401k to try to support the business and family.
Oct 2000 - He starts a new business with two partners without discussing it with me. The one partner turns out to be the one stealing and we actually pay him to exit. The other partner doesn't want to help, just provide money, but actually cuts off the money after we're too deep in personally to get out.
Jul 2001 - Second daughter is born while we are trying to save first company.
2001-2007 - Paying off debts from losses of first company. Most people adviced bankruptcy but I think it's wrong.
2001-2007 - Losing money with second company
I work from home helping him with his company. I do the books, market the company, even obtain jobs for him. We fight constantly over the company. He is passive aggressive, and is afraid of criticism, so he can't complete the tasks or is self-defeating. He is not strong in business, but doesn't listen to me. His ego suffers for his failing businesses, and he is depressed. Personally he says and does things in a passive aggressive way to get what he wants.
May 2005 I stop working with him on the company because it is destroying our marriage. You can't work together, argue, be rude, and then at the end of the night have a loving relationship. The time I helped him was a profitable time. It didn't improve the relationship. I repeatedly asked for kindness and affection and didn't get it.
Jul 2005 - I'm not happy with the high weight I've achieved, and start trying to lose it in a haphazard way. Lost 5-6 lbs by year-end.
Dec 31, 2005 - At a New Year's Eve Party, my husb decided to pick a fight. I'm out back, sipping a cocktail, sitting next to a firepit, enjoying the stars and night air. It's quiet back there and a few people come and go. He has been out front, where people are slamming drinks and lighting firecrackers, have the music turned up and are just partying hard. He tells me I'm no fun or something to that effect because I'm not out front getting tanked. He drinks too much, that's what he does. I'm quiet, more reserved. I was doing what i enjoyed. I don't drink much, but especially all these years I've had to be the responsible driver.
That night I decided I wasn't going to end the year the way I was beginning it. I was going to meet my weight and fitness goals, get my kids in school, go back to work in the fall, try to keep the business afloat, and either work on or give up on the marriage.
January 1 2006 I started a journal. I walked every day and recorded my weight every day. I recorded the lowest weight of the week at WLF every week. Began running some. Actually started recording on WLF sometime in Jul 2005 or 2006. This place was a great source or help for me. I lost 20 lbs in 2006, but put the marriage last on the list, until it was too late.
Oct 2006 - My husband and I separated. He is shocked and surprised and can't seem to accept responsibility for both our parts in the failure of this marriage. We go to a counselor, who seems to help, but that is only because Scott continues to hope for a reconciliation.
Nov 2006 - I went back to work. Love the company, I put lots of pressure on myself. There is a lot of flux at work due to a merger - you could get laid off or promoted. Scott leaves to get into an apartment but then later threatens to ruin us fighting over the kids, so I switch with him so he has the house and I have the apartment.
2007 - Flying by, isn't it? Well, we have daily battles, trying to decide who gets what. His ego gets in the way. We will see a mediator next week. Six months of this has just worn me down. I want to see my children more than I do. I'm tired of running them to ballet and soccer and scouts and not just getting to spend time with them. This is the first summer I won't be home with them. He has been trying to play super dad, doing everything (at his business' expense sicne he's not working at it enough) to take care of them and show he is the better parent. It comes from a place of ego and hurt. He can't see I'm the more responsible parent.
He and I have both dabbled a little with dating and have discovered we really need to get this settled first. I did open my heart to a new situation and got it crushed.
So I guess what makes me sad is a little of all of the above. I'm worn out from the years of financial strife and marital discord. I miss my kids like crazy. I don't know what's going to happen with my career. My social life disappeared with the separation (he is manipulating and playing the poor abandoned dad doing it all on his own card, which is nonsense as I used to do it all on my own). I got my heart broke.
So right now I'm just putting one foot in front of the other.
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cinderelly
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It certaintly isnt easy Patty...*GREAT BIG HUGS* Fighting fairly with a manipulator is impossible...it breaks me down everytime...i get up a bit faster after each battle but I still get hurt and frustrated and I certaintly couldnt imagine not beign with my kids that woudl destroy me - they are the reason I can keep going on regardless of everyhitg he puts me through...
T2 Trucker
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Hey Spunky, welcome back to familiar terra firma I know you're down right now and understandably so. You're a fighter girl and you'll get this all behind you, you just can't see it right now - we never do when it's our very own cross to carry. They do get heavy for sure but the day will come where you'll throw it off your shoulder and everything will feel so much lighter There is a good side to divorce - eventually
I know you're down right now and understandably so. You're a fighter girl and you'll get this all behind you, you just can't see it right now - we never do when it's our very own cross to carry. They do get heavy for sure but the day will come where you'll throw it off your shoulder and everything will feel so much lighter There is a good side to divorce - eventually
Patty1
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It's hard to believe it's May 1. The year is flying by.
Thanks cinderelly and m2m. You are good people.
t2, some moments are better than others, some days are even better than others, so i guess that's a good sign. i've found a couple of supportive friends who sort of prop me up and keep me putting one foot in front of the other. sometimes that's as far ahead as i can think.
hugs.
Thanks cinderelly and m2m. You are good people.
t2, some moments are better than others, some days are even better than others, so i guess that's a good sign. i've found a couple of supportive friends who sort of prop me up and keep me putting one foot in front of the other. sometimes that's as far ahead as i can think.
hugs.
T2 Trucker
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I could be your Kleenex, chicken soup, orange juice boy for the day
(not sure how the vodka got in the OJ tho)
(not sure how the vodka got in the OJ tho)