Anyone else have this experience when starting out?

[the big kx]

I honestly think the hardest part is knowing if my work will pay off. I've been "big" my whole life and I honestly can't picture myself slimmer. I honestly sometimes think that may be I am just destined to be "big". I am hoping to be slim by the summer, but when I picture myself with friends, its always me and my gut and i can't seem to picture it any other way. Does anyone else feel this way sometimes?

 

[Marathon Man]

I feel what you're saying. Sometimes I think weight loss has a lot to do with the mental side and the self-image we all have. Trying to change that "place" we have within our family and friends can be hard. If you're always that fat friend or fat brother, that becomes your role and it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy in a way. With my friends we were all big and we'd go out to eat to socialize ... so it was HARD to change that dynamic.

I think that with some success though comes a new attitude and new possibilities. I'm a big fan of hitting small and simple goals so that they snowball into more confidence and more goals. If you think only of the big goals (I need to lose 60 pounds, or I need to be skinny in 3 months), it can be real defeating. So I'd just focus on making small changes and proving to yourself that it can work.