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im2b4u69

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Well from reading several posts on here, people seem to be utterly supportive so i figured i should give it a try as well!
To tell you a little about myself, i am 31 years old 5'3 and also have been batteling with my weight for several years. At my largest i was 209lbs many years ago and was able to some how bring it sown to 160, over the past few years ive bounced from 180 to 160 constantly. I am constantly aware of my weight and i have a tendance of going into spring and fall weight kicks but can never seem to maintain <-- its a motivational thing really! (I lose it quickly)
And now for a little GRRRRRR venting!!!!
I had a close friend whom made a comment to me recently ("we're both the same size so it doesn't really matter") i was about 178 at the time and this comment very much bothered me cause i looked at her in a different way.
I thought to my self " am i really that big, o no if we are both the same size i don't want to look like this"! So shortly after i hopped on my treadmill (spring kick)
She come in one day and caught me on it and laughed at me and said "what are you doing"? And for the second time i was furious with her comment, thinking " as if, what does it look like im doing?"
Now i say (HAD) a friend cause i realized shes not much of a friend at all for not being supportive in my decission to get into shape so i took it upon myself to DUMP A FRIEND, its not a nice thing to do but i did it anyway.
Now she recenty qiute smoking which i think is awsome, i however still smoke (thumbs down) she looks like she has gained at least 10-15 lbs over the course of the summer and i however have been on my (fall kick) back at trying to lose weight. I started on August 28th of this year and to date have lost 24 lbs, i feel great and my clothes are fitting quite nicely!
We were recently at an event together and i had a sence of being gocked at with eyes on me from head to toe, not a nice feeling but at the same time it was an awsome feeling cause i worked so had to get where i am!
So i guess i am here for the support, stories, and the motivation to keep on going, idealy i would like to be at 135 -140 and it is becoming a struggle at this point in time.
And basically get some insight on how to deal with other peoples negativity, its a work in progress for me to eliminate the negative people in my life and focus of positive.
Maybe it all comes down to jealousy, but i don't know
Thank you to all who have taken the time to read my blurb, and i cant wait to start meeting all of you!
You all seem like such a supportive group.
 
I have a friend like that, too. She always wants me to pig out with her, and when I tell her I'm trying to watch my weight, her response is "we're grown women, we're not supposed to be thin." About 6 months ago, I was in that phase where I wasn't exercising and was basically eating everything in sight (I'm like you, I get into my spring and fall kicks), and I made the comment "do you see how fat I'm getting??", even though I had only gained about 5 lbs... she said "wellll, I wasn't going to say anything, but..." At one point, I had worked really hard and was proud of my semi-fit body, and she was the same weight she had always been, and we met some guys. One of the first things out of her mouth was "aren't we the hottest fat chicks ever?" Ummm, dude, seriously?? First of all, why would you even say that? Secondly, speak for yourself! She was about 40 lbs heavier than me... she is still my best friend, but I know I can't count on her support. Those kinds of people aren't willing to put in the work, and they just can't stand it when someone else IS. Jealousy, I think...

Anyway, our stories are quite similar. I tend to hover between 160 and 175, with my highest ever at 205 and smallest at 155. I too would like to be around 135-145. How tall are you? And that's a lot of weight to lose in less than 2 months... congrats!
 
Thank you

well your right aour stories are very much alike, i am 5'3 was 178 and as of this morning i am 152 woo hoo for me lol (135-145 would be awsome for me too)
it most certainly isnt a good feeling when your supposed best friend cant support you in a healthier lifestyle, whether she wants to try and get healthy or not thats up to her and your doing this for you! Stick with it hun i know you can do it. And with my BFF, well like i said earlier i just dumped her cause there is nothing worse for me in my life right now than negativity and that is what will make me crash and bang from what i am trying to accomplish.
I still somewhat talk to her, but i must say it is very cold and short, i can feel here eyes scanning over me and it is a little uncomfortable but at the same time i hold my head that much higher cause i worked too damn hard to get where i am at and im not going to let her bring me down again. I see it now as complete and utter jealousy = eat your heart out <-- those are my thoughts and its not nice to say but it is so true at this point.
As for your friend well i get that shes your BFF but if she was that good of a friend whould she really say those nasty things? Maybe you too need to analize the negativity in your life and eliminate some of it and see how things go, im certainly not saying do what i did and dump her, im just saying that maybe you need to not be around her as much in certain situations where she can make comments like that. Im pretty certain that she is saying those things through jealousy and no one needs jealous friends but everyone need supportive friends. LOL im here for you hun i can totally relate to how you are feeling right now! O and by the way when you do get into those smokin hot pants that you were working you ass off to fit into, go out and buy yourself a drop dead georgous outfit, youll feel like a million bucks trust me!
I hope to talk to you again, so keep in touch and let me know how things are goin between you and your friend.
 
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