Am I wrong?

[ChelsterBelster]

My mother, whom I do love, can be so insensitive about my weight.
I mean, it's been these last two weeks that I've been really, really trying. My house doesn't contain all the best foods for someone watching their weight, but I went out and bought nutrition books so I have a better idea of what to eat and what not to eat. Then, I've been going to the gym every other day, for at least two hours.
I've always been told that it's not what you eat, it's how much you eat. Well, my mother made cookies one day. Now, I swear to you, all I did was cut a tiny piece (that was literally this big |-------| ) out of one of the cookies. She comes around the corner and sighs all loudly, then says, "You're going to ruin all your hard work!" ...For having a nibble? I tried to explain that it wasn't a lot, considering how I used to eat, and that it would be easy to work off at the gym. Plus, I always thought that by trying to avoid your cravings all together, it could be a potential downfall.
I dunno, maybe she's right. Maybe I should just give up sweets all together. Go at this cold turkey.
Seriously though, was it that bad?

 

[amagheti]

Yeah I agree she may have been overreacting. However, I would also like to add that cutting out all junk most likely will not result in a long-term diet. I lost almost 30 pounds and have not skipped the french fries, chips, chocolate, candy, fast food, or anything i used to eat before. and you are absolutely right in saying that its not WHAT you eat that will make a difference but HOW MUCH you eat. as long as i am still within my calorie limit, i can still eat anything i like. now mind you, if i eat a whopper and fries one day that about 1000 cals, which only gives me 500 cals to work with for the rest of the day and i might get super hungry later on and regret it! so for me, eating more healthy foods (which usually have less calories) means i can eat more! and not be hungry later on in the day. hope that helped

 

[Shep031]

My mother is like that in some aspect. I'll make it known that I'm on a diet and she'll bake a cake, ask me if I want a piece, then get mad when I say no because I'm on a diet. Later, I might decide I want a small piece, and go to have one and she'll go "I thought you were on a diet." I am, but if I want a small piece of cake after I worked out, I'm gonna have one damnit. Then a couple days later, after dinner, she'll ask me if I want to go out for ice cream...if I say yes, she brings up the diet, if I say no, she is mad because I don't want to go with her. What the hell? Then she tells me she is on a diet...so I make grilled chicken salads for dinner for when she gets home from work because I'm obviously on a diet too--this day she happened to have bought a cake because it was someones birthday at her work and there was some left over, so she brought it home. She eats two pieces of cake, instead of the salad I made her. I give up. Ha!

 

[Guest]

That can be tricky. Sounds like a control/power issue.

I can't cut out junk. I guess you need to do what works best for you. You could try out lil experiments with fully cutting out any sweets, or eating something sweet every few days for a couple of weeks or whatever.

and just take what your mother(s) say in stride...
they just care about you, and maybe they've seen it happen b4 either with themselves or someone else where the diet plan was so restrictive that they swung back and forth or just quit and felt worse.

I have heard of it being a complete down fall if someone is used to eating alot of junk alot of the time and than completely knocking it out of their diet. It's not applied to everyone. Maybe an addictive personality..?

I have also heard of people cutting out just their junk food, and not yet changing a whole lot of their diet or exercise and just dropping pounds.

There are tofu, low fat, and sugarless cookies and cakes out there, maybe you could see if your stores carry em' and point em' out to your parents next time. So that you can indulge with them too. Or go for a walk to that ice cream store. You get to spend more quality time together and it's exercise b4 that treat! Yum.

I don't tell my parents that I am "dieting", because than they get that snappy I told you so tone if I eat that piece of whatever. And sometimes others might say those things because they don't feel good about themselves and it's hard for them to see someone else trying to change themselves for the better. (there my tangent) Just some things that you are probably already well aware of.

 

[jeffisbig]

You could have eaten 2 cookies and been fine. It isn't about "ruining your hard work" its about living your life. People eat cookies now and then. If you are trying to lose fat though, you just shouldn't do it all that often at all.

Don't let your mother have too much effect on you. try to brush it off best you can. Making those cookies then lecturing you on it seems calculated to me.

 

[Shep031]

Yeah, eat the cookies, I do, despite my mothers ridicule. One or two isn't going to make a big deal, unless it turns into all the cookies.

 

[Lraebennett]

My mother is like that in some aspect. I'll make it known that I'm on a diet and she'll bake a cake, ask me if I want a piece, then get mad when I say no because I'm on a diet. Later, I might decide I want a small piece, and go to have one and she'll go "I thought you were on a diet." I am, but if I want a small piece of cake after I worked out, I'm gonna have one damnit. Then a couple days later, after dinner, she'll ask me if I want to go out for ice cream...if I say yes, she brings up the diet, if I say no, she is mad because I don't want to go with her. What the hell? Then she tells me she is on a diet...so I make grilled chicken salads for dinner for when she gets home from work because I'm obviously on a diet too--this day she happened to have bought a cake because it was someones birthday at her work and there was some left over, so she brought it home. She eats two pieces of cake, instead of the salad I made her. I give up. Ha!

Is your mother overweight? Maybe shes just..not jealous..but envious? and wants you to succeed, but at the same time wants to indulge and see you do that. I dont know.
hahah

 

[Lraebennett]

You could have eaten 2 cookies and been fine. It isn't about "ruining your hard work" its about living your life. People eat cookies now and then. If you are trying to lose fat though, you just shouldn't do it all that often at all.

Don't let your mother have too much effect on you. try to brush it off best you can. Making those cookies then lecturing you on it seems calculated to me.

And I agree.
You should try to not avoid but limit to a definate number and set a goal as how much you're going to dedicate to sweets and follow it avidly for the first 6 months. But do not cut them out cold turkey. I feel that's a recipe for disaster (no pun intended) haha.

I have been at the same weight for about 9 months now, (after losing all the weight I needed to), and I eat sweets. not A TON. But I always find a way to fit them in, but I definately limit them.

Whenever she says stuff though, make sure you get a big smile on your face and just agree.
Becasue maybe shes looking for you to get upset in a way. I don't know why, but just see how that works for you, and know to yourself that you're doing a good job!

Keep it up!!

 

[Shep031]

Is your mother overweight? Maybe shes just..not jealous..but envious? and wants you to succeed, but at the same time wants to indulge and see you do that. I dont know.
hahah

she's put on a few pounds, but i wouldn't even say overweight. she just likes to drive me nuts!!

 

[stancel]

Stuff like that is fine occasionally. Although personally I wouldn't do it unless I'm down to a much lower weight - I've given up all such foods completely. I think I'd be more comfortable eating something like that later when I've lost more weight....I'm actually gaining weight, and so I really don't want to mess up everything more than I already have. Though I'm positive the weight gain is muscle and it will get lower soon somehow. I exercised a lot yesterday, didn't eat anything bad, somehow I had gained a few pounds. It didn't make any sense to me of course....