Am I getting annoying as I lose weight?

sirant

sirant

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Let me explain....

I have been a little concerned lately about something that has come up that has never really been an issue before. And that is, now that I am dedicated to myself and to making myself into the man I always dreamed of, I am a little concerned because I find myself talking about it.... A lot!

Now in here it is fine I am sure, I am pretty certain I am not picking anyones nerves about always talking about losing weight, but what about in real life? I know my wife doesn't care, she is happy to support me in any way, even if it means listening to me ramble on and on about this weight loss technique and that new exercise program. And my daughter gets an earfull too about how much fun exercising is and some subtle encouragment for her to learn to lead a healthier and more activity lifestyle than daddy did at her age. (Though really she has no choice in the matter since I am bigger than her and I am the boss!!) :D

But aside from them, I am beginning to think maybe someday someone will tell me to shut up already about losing weight, especially the many friends here who are dangerously overweight as well. I sometimes think I am subconsciously talking about it more with them in the hopes they will also try to make changes in their lives like I am.... A little presumptious perhaps...

But I hate the thought of picking on peoples nerves...

Anyone else here have similar feelings? Now that you are started on this journey you just can't shut up about it....

For myself, this is easily the biggest and most exciting period of my entire life and I find myself posting here in the forum often and on my simply because, as I said, I can't shut up about it.

But is it possible to talk to much? Or is that normal ya think?

Just curious if anyone else has felt this way.....

sirant
 
I know how you feel. I have been concerned about how I'm coming off talking about weight loss, especially to friends that are self conscious about their weight.

But at the same time I'm really excited and those who care about me don't mind hearing me talk about things I'm excited about.

I've tried to keep it in balance by waiting for friends to bring the topic up if they want to talk about it. This meant that I spent a number of months pretty much only getting to talk on here and to my mother. More recently two of my friends started on the journey and we can talk about it now.

I think the key is to just follow the social cues our friends give us, and keeping in mind that we can't encourage anybody to be healthier if they don't want to be.
 
YES! I totally understand how you feel!

every day at work i have 2 teachers that i immediately run to tell about my newest accomplishments. even just small things like wearing a shirt i haven't worn in years. i often wonder if they secretly wish i would shut up, but they are always very encouraging and supportive of me!

i think those that truly care for you will be nothing but excited and happy for you!
 
as long as it's talking and not preaching then it's all good...

this is the only place I talk about it - it's my lifestyle change and other people really aren't interested... to help get donations though I did tell the story of the 3 day walk i'm going to do and what prompted me to do it.. and it really suprised a lot of people - but no one has asked how or for detauils and it's not my place to tell...

Born again dieters can be really irritating... just pay attention to people you are talking to - and if their eyes glaze over or they nod and mmm hmmm - it's time totalk about sports.. :) or sex... or even religion... something...
 
I know exactly how you feel, and you're right to be concerned. That's why it's so important to have a place like this, where you're talking to similarly obsessed people.
 
I can't wait till I am gorgeous...

Because as I mentioned in another post, I wanns get teeshirts made with my biggest and fattest pictures possible. Then I wont need to talk about the journey all the time, because people will be coming up to me to find out why the heck I have some fat guy on my teeshirt. Once I tell them who it is, I am sure I will get enough people interested in knowing on their own.....:)

Now, on the the gorgeous-ifying!!!

sirant
 
sirant said:
Because as I mentioned in another post, I wanns get teeshirts made with my biggest and fattest pictures possible. Then I wont need to talk about the journey all the time, because people will be coming up to me to find out why the heck I have some fat guy on my teeshirt. Once I tell them who it is, I am sure I will get enough people interested in knowing on their own.....:)

Now, on the the gorgeous-ifying!!!

sirant
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LOL. I love that idea!
 
My family are totally into it and tell everyone too - its great :)

My co-workers have a list of everyone in the office from lowest to highest weight, we cross off a name when ive lost them in weight :)
Ive crossed off the bosses wife, and a couple of the asian dudes who are smaller. I aim to loos my boss though *G*
 
yeah this can be sticky........I have a friend who is a real OA nut (over eaters anonymous) and while it is great for her and she has lost like 130lbs...............man i get sick of hearing obout it!!!! It is imprrtant to remember to talk about other stuff too!!!! I keep my diet junk to myself unless some one inquires........then i watch for cues that show they have had enuff!!!!:rolleyes:
 
Im new here, i weigh 223, i want to be fit. im tired of being over weight always feeling wore out physicaly, i want a 6 pack me and my soon to be wife are over weight, we have alot going on in our lives from work stress bills exced , but im sure wed feel alot better if we where fit, once your fit things dont weight you down so much and thery dont get to you so much.

she weights a little under me. she wanta to get fit , but if i show here that its easy and she sees me achiving results then i know it will motivate here.

i eat **it food like hamburgers, fast food, its not a crime to eat the food we love "with in reason" but the only time i was fit in my life was when i was 5-7-8 years old i wana see my di** with out haften to suck in my gut or lean over my stomach im telling it how it is and im sure other over weight men will agree with me. im seriouse about loosing weight. thats why i made a accoutn on this forums can some one give me some advice on starting, iv said my my weight, i got to work at 1:30 pm i get up at 11 am
"shift work" i eat what ever when ever"i try to eat some what healthy" i drink soda some juice asome water i do drink beer "with in reason now" i will admit i had a case of alcoholisem.
 
I try not to talk too much about my weight to my friends or family. My friends I worry will think im bragging and I dont want to worry my family with it. My poor boyfriend gets his ear talked off about it though!

That said I just cant help letting slip, probably more often then I realise!

If you are trying to set a good example to your friends your actions are probably speaking as load as your words, they see you looking and feeling better and im sure they know why. You're probably inspiring them without even trying!
 
sirant said:
Because as I mentioned in another post, I wanns get teeshirts made with my biggest and fattest pictures possible. Then I wont need to talk about the journey all the time, because people will be coming up to me to find out why the heck I have some fat guy on my teeshirt. Once I tell them who it is, I am sure I will get enough people interested in knowing on their own.....:)

Now, on the the gorgeous-ifying!!!

sirant
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so that's the sirant version of the Herbalife distributer button - Lose weight now - ask me how :)

do you ask yourself why you need to talk about it to others? Validation:?

My own mind -what i'm doing is no big deal - i'm just doing what needs to be done. Maybe I'll feel differently when i get to my goal - but right now - what i've lost is just embarassing and needs no discussion.

Reformed anything are annoying - reformed smokers are among the worst - I was one for about 2 weeks -then I had a reality check - People will quit smoking - quit drinking -quit whatever -in their own time - and having someone else throw int heir face how successful they've been - can sometimes do more harm than good.
 
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I think it's perfectly natural to talk about things we are interested in and excited about with people close to us - sometimes whether they are equally interested or not.

I have a co-worker who's been in the process of buying her first house for about six months (lots of complications) and I now know more than I ever wanted or needed to know about the process. I spend countless hours of my life listening to the details of a friends messy divorce-in-process and another friend recently returned to college after a 10 year gap and her experience of being a "grown-up" among teenagers is 99% of her conversation. None of these things affect me, or have any real relevance in my own life - but I listen, offer support, advice (when I can) and encouragement. The first six or so months, my weight loss process was my overwhelming area of interest and excitement - maybe at times deadly boring or annoying to some, but I figure if I can listen good naturedly and with enthusiasm to a blow by blow description of my best friend's kid's latest soccer game (I don't have kids and hate soccer), she could do the same when I was all excited about completing my first mile run or losing 1.2 pounds. It's somewhat touchy ground with co-workers, but with friends, true friends, as long as you aren't telling them what to do, I don't think there's anything wrong with sharing your dreams, goals and accomplishments - weight loss related or not.
 
Now aint that the truth.
Its not just about weight loss or diet, its about whatever goal your friends have set and made and done/doing really. You listen and comment not because you are interested, but because its a big part of their life.

My best friend rattles off about her housework every single time i see her, ive learnt to tune her out and nod and say yes asking inane questions when required. I really couldnt care less if she vacuumed the lounge today, but its not about that, its about having somebody to talk to. Bonus if you're interested, but no worries if you're not.

Patience and tolerance is a virtue :)
 
i dont mind hearing about anyone's weight loss success at all. i like to listen to what people do, how much they've lost, etc, to inspire me to lose weight. my best friend is very overweight, i try not to hurt her feelings by talking about losing weight, cuz she thinks i look fine. i am a lot smaller than her, but i am overweight for my height. what I do mind and find annoying is if a person picks at everything i eat - like oh you shouldn't eat that, its bad for you, you should do this, you should do that. my brother lost about 20 lbs, and now is at a healthy weight and he was doing that to EVERYONE. anything that went into their mouth that he thought was not good, he had to have a say. that is annoying in my book. going out to eat with him is a pain.
 
Yeah i have friends who are hidiously overweight - and i can see what i used to be there because its a life of denial that you're actually fat. I generally try to censor what i say a bit so i dont end up saying what i really want to say which is more along the lines of 'MY GOD YOU WONDER WHY YOU'RE FAT WHEN YOU EAT THAT!!!'
Id probably have no friends if i said that to often :)

The thing is, it wouldnt achieve anything at all, other than alienate my friends. They have to WANT to do it - and i cant force them to do it. So yeah i do hold back.
 
maleficent said:
so that's the sirant version of the Herbalife distributer button - Lose weight now - ask me how :)

do you ask yourself why you need to talk about it to others? Validation:? ....
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Well, really, I don't find I "need" to talk about it to others, but I simply do because it is the primary goal and motvation in my life at this point. So when someone asks me what I did today, I can either tell them 'nuthin" or tell the what I have been up to. Certainly I am with you 100% when it comes the the "reformed" ones out there who are out to change the world. Annoying doesnt begin to describe it. For me I think it is a mix of pride that I have done something positive and made myself feel more attractive. (Who ever goes out and gets their hair done in the hopes no one wil notice?) Plus it is my honest belief that our world is genuinley in trouble. Obesity is an epidemic now which has bigger ramifications than we cannot yet truly understand. I would never go around and tell people how to live or quoting calorie counters, but if I could offer some small encouragement or example I would like to think I am doing so. The teeshirt thing gives them an opportunity to ask me themselves or to show interest without me needing to offer it.

Take a look at Steve..... I don't believe he was ever out of shape fromthe day he was born..... And I would never think to ask him his advice on the matter if I just ran into him on the street. I would have just assumed he was one of those people it came naturally too. (and would secretly despise him for..) And what a shame that would be, considering how knowledgable he truly is. I wish he was my neighbor so he could preach at me every day to be honest.

But as for me, I dont mind being the center of attention (you may have guessed) nor do I mind telling people of my experiences if it can help. Its not about the validation, more about trying to help, when and if I can. The teeshirt just opens the door to a wider audience.

I will post a picture of me in the teeshirt when I get to that point, and if things go as I plan, one out of the teeshirt too! ;)

sirant
 
I think a lot of people ARE interested and WANT to know, but are to scared.
You're fat, you're ashamed of it. Nobody wants to talk about it.

I dunno how many times i ate an ice cream and felt like people were looking at me thinking "Oh look at the fat chick eating the ice cream, we know how she got so fat!". Didnt matter that i rarely if ever ate ice cream (not really my vice).

And really, if you end up saving one persons life, its worth helping out :)
 
TamTam024 said:
what I do mind and find annoying is if a person picks at everything i eat - like oh you shouldn't eat that, its bad for you, you should do this, you should do that. .
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Sooo true!!!! the self- appointed critics are the worst kind!!! I have a co- worker who makes it apoint to look at my plate evryday and comment" are you sure you should be eating that? aren't u on a diet?" Grrr!!!!:mad:
What I find even more annoying is the skinny ones saying stuff like " I just looooove salads, I can live off them forever" or " I was so busy that I forgot to eat today" How can one FORGET to eat? makes me want to commit murder!
 
Blogging myself thin

I thought about this when I started. I didn't want to bore people about losing weight and also I didn't want to have too much help or too many questions from people...I wanted to do this for me and by me. I found a good way is to blog about it. I started my own, just like you have, and I mentioned it once to friends and left it at that.

A few of them pop in and ask and a few ask when I meet up with them but generally I don't tend to talk about it too much.

It's a big part of my life though so I needed an outlet.
 
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