A new me! (hopefully, with some help)

katehunibun

katehunibun

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Hi. My name is Kate and i'm fat. Very fat and i hate it. I am forever waking up thinking diet starts today and by lunchtime i have talked myself out of it. I have lost weight in the past but am feeling really blobby and just can't get motivated to actually do something about it and it is making me feel really low and not want to do anything or go anywhere.
I supose sitting here writing this is a start. I think i just need some help and support.
 
WELCOME!!!If u have lsot weight before it is proof u can do it again!!!
First i think u have to SMILE!!!Dont think "im fat,unhappy so im gonna eat" NO NO NO!!!
Smile!think that u are gonna get in shape and do your health a favor , u gonna look good and feel even better!!!!
Here we caqn support you and u will read some graet advice from peoople that are fghting just as u are!

\how tall are u and how much do u weigh may i ask?
Are u gonna calorie count,do some special diet ,have u some kind of plan?
Monaday is too late.Start now!making little changes.
I hope u commite yourself to this!!!and we will be right here 4 u!
 
Jasper. i can't thank you enough! i read your reply this morning and i thought 'Ok, i'll start right now'. I went into the kitchen and sorted myself a whole pile of fruit to take to the allotment (where we grow our own fruit & veg). Normally i eat the choc bars or crisps that we keep in the shed but i wasn't tempted to have any, i just ate some fruit when i was hungry.
I have felt really low for a while now, not just about being fat but today i have felt really positive. Thank you.

I want to ask you a few things about this website, if that's ok? I don't know how to get to what i have posted easily, it takes me ages to find it. Is there an easier way? Also, How do you do the weight bar thing at the bottom of your post?

Ok, back to me. I am 5 foot 5 inches tall and i weigh 219lb!!!
I think i am going to count calories, I go to the gym (not so much lately, i find any excuse not to go) about twice a week.
 
Kate's Journal.

Day 1
Sunday 3rd July 2011 @ 11am
I had already had toast with butter and marmalade for breakfast so couldn't do much about that but after breakfast i read a reply to my post on here and was totally motivated to actually do something!! So i'm starting half way thru a sunday (never started on a sunday before.....It's always a monday lol)
Had a banana, plum and some pineapple for lunch. Not sure what i'm gonna have for dinner, can't decide.
I want to do this, i really do!! I'm fed up with hateing myself.
 
Glad to see you take the first step. I am the happiest I've been in a very very long time just knowing I've commited to the journey. I personally started roughly 2 weeks ago and am having a ball with my online diary. I have even made myself up a little cheesey set of badges to use as goals, so I can earn myself higher levels. I started at 290 and am only 5'3", so have a longer way to go. Gave myself a round 100 pounds as a goal to lose, then will reassess. Earned my 1st 5 pound sticker today and am all kinds of proud of myself, stupidly so for such an early time and little loss so far, but I'm doing it.

Good luck to you and I look forward to hearing about your successes! :hurray:

eta: Oh, the ticker at the bottom is from tickerfactory.com and you can have a signature after I think 10 posts. The option will appear in your User CP a little while after you hit 10 posts.

To find your post easily, look under your subscriptions. Just either click your name, statistics, list threads or you can hit your UserCP and if it isn't right there on the first page you can click on subscriptions to find it.
 
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Hi FMK
Thank you so much for your support and congrats for your progress so far!!! I think your badges are a great idea, i'm gonna have to think of something like that to try and keep me going. Thanks too for the help with the ticker thing etc i think i have figured it now.
I think this is really gonna help me, it is good to have support from other people going thru the same thing as you.
Thanks again.
 
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Hey Kate, welcome to the board. You are a little under where I started and just slightly shorter than me, so I KNOW how tough it is at that weight to get started. However, the good news is, the first 20lbs or so will fall off - you just have to get started and commit to it. Pretty soon you'll see some changes and then that will help you gather momentum to keep going.

Getting a ticker is a good start - Tickerfactory will show graphs and stuff of your weight loss over time which I found very motivating.

Whilst eating fruit is great if it keeps you away from the crisps and chocolate, I would have a read around nutrition and see if you can plan out a healthy sustainable long term food plan - one that gives you a decent breakfast and lunch rather than skipping or skimping on these to keep your calories low. I found a big bowl of soup and some fruit a great way to fill up at lunch time but keep my cals down to 250 or so for that meal. The trick is...that this is the long haul...there are no quick fixes and its got to be something that you can keep up, fall off the wagon occasionally, not beat yourself up about it and keep on going.

:) good luck and keep posting!
 
i am so glad you were happy from my reply to your message!!!:grouphug:

I have in the past , hated myself so much aswell.I just stoped eating and was crying and i was sooooo jealous of other girls.....It made my life hell,
plus i didnt loose weight starving myself.
There is no need to HATE yourself.Its YOU.your body and soul and you have made mistakes , as all of us, but the important thing is that you UNDERSTAND its time to change your body and so important too YOUR MIND!
SO what if you are overweight now?you are doing something about it.so what if you slip and have something to eat that you shouldnt of had?you will continue your journey!
If you diet hating yourself you will be punishing yourself.but if u see it as a HEALTHY WAY OF LIFE you will not feel bad , the opposite i say

Im glad you decided to do this.In my opinion this forum helps me so much, cause all you guys are going through the same stuff.Im not alone.And ive been on this new way of eating for 2 months now,i have lost 9 kg nearlly.
ive got 22 kilos to go!but i know im gonna get there cause i dont hate myself anymore as before.I can say tht i love me!!!!yes i do even though i know im still fat, i love me cause i am caring for myself!

Try to post daily and look around.It will happen cause you are gonna do it!!!!!
 
katehunibun said:
Hi. My name is Kate and i'm fat. Very fat and i hate it. I am forever waking up thinking diet starts today and by lunchtime i have talked myself out of it. I have lost weight in the past but am feeling really blobby and just can't get motivated to actually do something about it and it is making me feel really low and not want to do anything or go anywhere.
I supose sitting here writing this is a start. I think i just need some help and support.
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If you don't do something DRAMATICALLY different to put yourself out of your pattern, it is going to be hard to change. Don't forget to have fun and put rewards :)
 
DAY 2

Breakfast: 2 wheatabix with ss milk and sweetner.
Lunch: ham salad (lettuce, tomato, cucumber, pepper and raddish) with a little light salad cream.
Dinner: small bowl of spagetti bolognese.
Snacks: banana, pineapple, 67 cals of choc (i had the shakes when i got home from work)

Woke up feeling very motivated this morning and actually looking forward to the day ahead which i haven't done for a long time. I had my meals all planned out so didn't spend the day thinking about what i could or couldn't eat. I did think about rewards for goals i want to achieve but haven't come up with anything yet......there is time lol.
I was going to do a 30 in aerobic workout after work today but work was totally mannic and i finished really late, also my legs and butt ache from working on our allotment yesterday, i am definatly going to do it tomorrow as i will get home from work earlier and then wednesday and thursday are gym nights.

Thank you all so much for your encouragement and support. I am actually looking forward to my 'new me' journey and i am not looking at it as a quick fix, i am in this for the long haul and I WILL SUCCEED!!!! (well i keep telling myself that anyway!)
 
Looks like you had a great day Kate!! And am really glad to hear that you are feeling motivated - the trick is to keep it going long enough to start seeing some results - that's when it starts to get a whole lot easier to keep it up!
 
Glad you fell good!!!!So tommorow and the next 2 days are workout days!!good that is so imortant!
I do like the fact that you had such little chocolate!its still a problem for me so i avoid it all together!
Waiting for your workout comments!
 
DAY 3

Breakfast: 2 wheatbix with ss milk and sweetner.
Lunch: Granary sandwich with ham and lettuce (no butter just a little bit of mayo), 2 plums and 2 kiwi's.
Dinner: Small bowl of spagetti bolognese (leftovers).
Snacks: Banana, pineapple.

Exercise: 30 min aerobics.

Another positive day for me today. Work was less stressful today too so wasn't so shattered when i got home and i did my workout!! Yay me! Worked up a proper sweat, felt very good. My legs are still sulking about the work they did on sunday but they wern't too bad.
Instead of thinking about what i can eat today i thought about what to write on here but, as usual for me, i can't remember what i was going to say (maybe i should write it down lol).
One thing i did want to say was that i read your posts this morning while i had breakfast (instead of facebook!) and that gave me an extra boost. I went off to work with a definate spring in my step! Really can't thank you guys enough, you don't know what a difference you have made.
I'm still taking it one day at a time but all going good on day 3!
Ooooh, Just remembered something!! I went and bought some chocolate for one of the girls at work (she has her period and was feeling really shaky etc) and not only did i NOT get one for me, i actually talked to her while she was eating it and i didn't drawl lol i was really suprised that i didn't want any!!!

Jasper, I normally cant just eat a 'little' bit of choc and try and stay away from it but i really had the shakes, my son asked for his choc that was in the fridge as dinner wasn't going to be for an hour or so, so i pinched a few squares off him. Alot of the time i don't feel hungry, i go straight to feeling shaky and sick and knew i wouldn't last an hour.
 
Morning all.
I seem to have little red squares below my 'rep power' and -105 points or something. Have i offended people with my posts? this has upset me, i really hope i haven't and if i have i am truely sorry ;( what have i said that is wrong?
 
awww Kate, I dunno. I haven't bad repped you!! Sometimes people click on the wrong rep box by mistake. You haven't even posted anything vaguely controversial or on anyone else's thread. However, you can check by going to your usercp (top left hand corner of the page) and there it lists all posts that you have been positively or negatively repped for.

Glad to hear that your day went really well - the chocolate thing is a real achievement - its the little temptations that are the hardest to say no to! You seem to be really good at not snacking though (unlike me - I have the urge to put something in my mouth most minutes)....
 
maybe someone did it by mistake
I gave a good rep right now, thought it would take the red box away but i see its still there.DOnt worry im sure its a mistake.Check out what jjjay said above!i checked it out too,had no idea that this feature even existed!!!
 
DAY 4

Breakfast: Wheatabix.
Lunch: Same as yesterday too! Ham and lettuce granary sandwich, 97cal bag of low fat crisps.
Dinner: Again, leftover spag! (i suppose eating less means more leftovers huh, the is still some left too!)
Snacks: Apple, pineapple.

Exercise: 50 mins at the gym (worked like an idiot, had a face like beetroot when finished lol)

I've had a bit of a mixed day. I am the sort of person that takes everything really personally so my 'neg reps' got me down a bit. they had written 'geez' in the comment bit so i think it was ment. I spent far to much time worrying about it today.
Work was good and i didn't really think about food at all today, which is so strange......i usually think about food all the time! what i can eat, what i can't eat, oh i can start the diet again tomorrow. That kind of thing and i really haven't since sunday. This is a really big deal for me.
The gym was really good tonight, usually if my friend isn't going i use that as an excuse not to go either but i went on my own tonight and really pushed myself hard! i have been going to the gym, usually twice a week, since last september and i have lost no weight whatsoever. I haven't gained either thankfully, and i know i would have if i hadn't been going, eating all the crap i have been!
All in all another good day.

Thanks Jasper and Jjjay for your kind words. It really helped. Xx
 
Hey Kate, glad you had a good gym day. Its all a balancing equation so if you aren't losing weight by going to the gym twice a week you either got to reduce the amount of junky eating or increase teh amount of exercise effort! I'm glad to hear you are breaking the normal rhythm of "if she's not going, I won't go either!" - the only person that can lose weight for you is yourself. Its lovely to have a gym partner to spur you on, but you got to find the motivation to persevere yourself. Every now and then I reach a "oh sod it. I've got to do this" point and then get really focused on the next phase of weight loss.

As for the neg rep - one thing I've learnt about forums is that there are always nobs. You can judge a forum on the ratio of nobs:newbies:lovelies and you can't avoid any of the types..they'll always crop up! So, put it in a box and move on!

Be zen!
Be zeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen!
I am the zen master.
I am a duck.
I am the zen duck
This is water off of a duck's back.

(this is my mantra at work when someone pisses me off big time!!! hahaha people think I am mad muttering to myself!!!)
 
I dont know why people do that...a girl on here that had lost weight and had before after pics and looked great got a comment that the difference is not noticible....she was really sad.So dont even bother!Really,you are doing such good to yourself and are fighting your own little battle,that silly comments are really nothing at all

What jjjay said is right.If you havent lost weight from september going to the gym its because you are eating more.Imagine if you DIDNT go to the gym you WOULD have put weight on.So if you eat less and better and continue the gym everything will be fine!
 
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