well this kind of reminded me of my why. and i realized i have much more reasons now then when i started this 'journey' last year. but why did i get lost along the way? i guess it was more convenient. or we just get scared too much. i'm still scared like hell of losing weight. i guess tat feeling won't go away until i do lose weight, no matter how much i tackle the issues that bother me.
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in the fear of thin thread that's been here for a while - that's a good lesson to do to -why you don't want to lose weight - that gives as interesting an answer as why you do...
Remember, it's good to read you 'why' or 'whys' frequently. I shit you not that I do this daily. So much emotion is tied to my 'whys' that it's almost impossible to not be consistent.
The only time my training and diet slips is when I get lazy and stop doing things like reading my 'whys'.
The only time my training and diet slips is when I get lazy and stop doing things like reading my 'whys'.
and having those whys be the honest whys - the ones you really believe in...
not the ones you tell people because you think it's what you should be saying
is even more helpful...
not the ones you tell people because you think it's what you should be saying
is even more helpful...
ali2
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This got me thinking...I haven't done a list of my why's (which I think I will now) but one of mine, since we are being honest here, is to get more respect.
It is sad to say that people treat you differently when you are heavy, they are more dismissive and sometimes you are treated as invisible. The only reason I am commenting on it is that I am in a profession where your reputation is extremely important to your success and I don't want my weight dragging me down or holding me back.
It is sad to say that people treat you differently when you are heavy, they are more dismissive and sometimes you are treated as invisible. The only reason I am commenting on it is that I am in a profession where your reputation is extremely important to your success and I don't want my weight dragging me down or holding me back.
Respect is a funny thing. I normally don't like having something that's not in my control play such an important role such as establishing my drive. What I mean is, people (not necessarily you) can lose a ton of weight and still get no respect from others due to whatever reasons.
Then where does that leave you?
In most cases more depressed than you were before since you were banking so heavily on a change.
However, there are exceptions. Another of my foundational 'whys' is the desire to earn the respect of my clients in the trainer-client relationships I have. I want my peers, as well as my clients, to know that I not only talk the talk.... but also walk the walk.
So I do see your point. I guess my point is, you have to be careful in what you choose to be your 'whys'. But I'm certainly not one to tell you if it's right or wrong. After all, they are your 'whys'.
Then where does that leave you?
In most cases more depressed than you were before since you were banking so heavily on a change.
However, there are exceptions. Another of my foundational 'whys' is the desire to earn the respect of my clients in the trainer-client relationships I have. I want my peers, as well as my clients, to know that I not only talk the talk.... but also walk the walk.
So I do see your point. I guess my point is, you have to be careful in what you choose to be your 'whys'. But I'm certainly not one to tell you if it's right or wrong. After all, they are your 'whys'.
i completely agree... i have so many whys..i lost some on the way because i dealt with them or i have changed so much i don't know. my newest why is actually to lose weight so i that once i get pregnant in the future )one can hope ) i can have a more healthy pregnancy in the future and to be an active mom. i guess maternity faze has kicked in hehe.
there are many more and you're right. i need to read them more often. and i will.
) i can have a more healthy pregnancy in the future and to be an active mom. i guess maternity faze has kicked in hehe. there are many more and you're right. i need to read them more often. and i will.
ali2
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I completey understand about people not respecting me regardless of how I look, I think what I meant to say (and worded badly) was that I don't want people do disregard what I say on some level because of my appearance.
This is more where I am coming from. I'm an attorney so I deal with lots of people and reputation is crucial. I guess I would just feel comfortable knowing that my appearance is not a roadblock to taking me seriously. If someone doesn't like me for me, hey, that's fine, but for them to discount something I am saying because of how I look, that's another thing. I know I can't control it but since we were talking about whys I thought I would put one of my more shallow ones out there.
I have others that are much more reasonable
This is more where I am coming from. I'm an attorney so I deal with lots of people and reputation is crucial. I guess I would just feel comfortable knowing that my appearance is not a roadblock to taking me seriously. If someone doesn't like me for me, hey, that's fine, but for them to discount something I am saying because of how I look, that's another thing. I know I can't control it but since we were talking about whys I thought I would put one of my more shallow ones out there.
I have others that are much more reasonable