A Day In The Life of m2m :)

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Its hard when you dont talk to family much or see them. I havnt spoken to my father in 13-14 years.
Other than my oldest my children have never met him .

Take good care of yourself
 
Your father needs to posture up some sincerity (complete with apologies) over at least a minimal amount of time. Bob doesn't want to see you hurt again and I sense he doesn't sit well with the "Ta Da !!" approach and honesty I don't blame him.

Considering your re-entry was by happenstance in a non-specific encounter not intended for you directly, I would just observe and stay cheery in his presence and let it be known your happy to see him again and administer comfortableness and see if he extends an apologetic volley for breaking down the barrier and work off of that.

I always lean towards "Life is too short" and Thanksgiving is a perfect time to break bread and move on too. It could also be the emotionally instinctive time to accomplish good intentions and end up offering yourself into another painful episode, after all, whatever made him flee was still within him up until you saw each other recently.

I pray he seizes the moment like a man and takes the burden of decision away from you.
 
Heya's M2M,
So sorry about your uncle!(**HUGGS**)and T2
couldn't have said it better, I made piece when it was too late
with my dad on his death bed we weren't close for a while
then heavy drinking killed his liver and that lead to other probs
anyway life is too short maybe some talking over the holidays
can fix things.:) Have a gr8 Monday,Tammy:)
 
Hey M...I hope today is a bit better for you...remember to take care of yourself in all this...as far as the father and Bob and stuff, I think it is time to make peace, as Tammy said life is to short...I hated my grandfather, he was a mean wicked man but he didnt deserve to go out as he did but i was still there with him on his death bed in the time of need...I made my peace but it would have been nice to get along earlier...Take care M, you are in my thoughts!!!
 
Hi You Guys :)

Randy, I did get my walk in this morning - 5.11 miles. You are so right - it's the mental aspect of walking I need, it's so therapeutic!

My dad called again last night and when hanging up, he said he'd touch base again tomorrow (4 times in as many days)...

The problem is that my dad has done this before. He bailed from my life in '91 and didn't reappear until '97, he missed my wedding and the birth of Megan. When he came back, it was with the understanding that he can't just 'disappear' from our lives like that - it wouldn't be fair to Megan to get to know her Grandpa only to have him run off for five years at a time. That was the agreement. Bob feels he 'broke' the aggreement and doesn't want to 'trust' him.

I feel we need to accept people where they are, not where we'd wish they could be. I don't think my dad is capable of being different then he is.

It's all one day at a time I guess.

I'm not too worried about Thanksgiving - I'll be cooking, and there will only be 5 of us, so I plan on just cooking everything a little healthier then I would have last year. I won't wake up Friday morning after Turkey day weighing what I weighed in January, so it's all good.

I just have this *amazing* pumpkin bread recipe that is to die for. I'm trying to figure out how to make it healthier and still have the same taste. It might be impossible though.
 
Hi Everyone,
It's been so crazy around here - there was another death in the family, a long term, family friend (who was my "Uncle Jay" all growing up) died two days ago...

So here's to the memory of both my blood uncle, and family friend uncle, both of which are being laid to rest today - one in Georgia, one in Ohio.

That being said - I got in another 5.11 miles today - it's good to be back on my feet!

I'm heading out now, to buy a new computer and today's my 14th wedding anniversary. My original goal was to be at 185 today and I'm at 187 - I'm sure it's TOM bloat, since my calories have been good (well, a little sub range), but lots of catabolics.

I'm doing better - I found a picture of my mom this morning and I framed it and put it next to my computer - it makes me smile - she's on top of a mountain in Oregon, young, healthy and waving at me. I took the picture of her when I was nine years old.


I'm getting better :)
 
Happy Ann! 14 yrs is a lot with one man! My eyes kind of welled up with tears when I read your last post! Ihope things get better for you soon. That's a lot to handle all at once and my heart goes out to you. I'm not much with words but I feel for you!!:)
 
Good to hear keep it up and walking yes is very great for cleansing, I use to wlak so much way back when I needed too...Take care of yourself...and Happy Anniversary
 
Happy Anniversary...so sorry that you've suffered so much loss lately. I hope that you're able to enjoy your anniversary.

Awesome job of meeting your goal...I'm counting it down. It's water weight, I'm dismissing it! :D
 
Happy anniversary! I agree with be_gone_soon. 14 years is a lot! Sorry to hear about your losses, but we're all thinking of you. *hugs*

187! man, you've passed me! I guess i'll have to hurry and catch up! You are doing marvelous! Keep it up!
 
Happy Anniversary Debi :) I hope you had a good night with some bubbly and whatnot. Gawd knows you need a goot vun about right now.

May your marriage flourish 44 more years ;)
 
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