a bit of a rant

slimby43

slimby43

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im sure theres been a similar thread somewhere on here before, but i need to sound off a bit.
i keep hearing on the grapevine that so called friends and acquaintences, ???who, are talking about me behind my back. "shes gone to far", "she looking ill cos shes lost too much weight" etc etc.
now its starting to p*** me off. i have lost quite a large amount of weight relatively quickly but
i am about 143 lbs at the moment. for my height at a rough guide i should be between about 105 and 133 lbs. therefore im still classed as overweight. i have lots of fat still that im carrying, im not underweight and i dont intend to be. in my 20`s i was about 105 - 120lbs and i looked fine. since then we`ve moved, so no one remembers me slim.
im not ill, i feel so much better. ok ive probably got gallstones as a result of losing weight, but i possibly would have got them anyway being fair, fat and 40 (something). plus i know ive lowered my risk from other health problems.
ive been so stressed at the mo anyway cos of a temporary lack of ££, so my eating is not the best. however my resolve strengthened today when i went into a shop and tried on a pair of size uk 12 trousers that fit comfy :) :) :) .
i wish people would say things to my face so i could tell them what i think (unprintable).
ok rant over. slim
 
Hey slimby43...

I am new to the forum, and I know it was just a rant, but all I wanted to say was that who cares if someone/people are talking about you behind your back or whatever? I mean seriously...You are here for you. Right? So why get upset over stuff like that. People say things...sometimes for a reason ... jealousy, etc.

You should be very proud of what you have accomplished and the hell with whoever has negative comments.

I hear all the time, "You look just fine", "you really don't need to lose weight"...blahblahblah. I'm 5'1" and 140! YES I DO NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT! I should be 100-120 Max! Sometimes people just don't get it you know. Screw em!
 
cheers LeoFireSun,i am and im not bothered if you know what i mean.it just annoys me that people are so 2 faced. one minute your being told your overweight, you do something about it, then your overdoing it.
certainly wont make me stop . love to know who`s talking about me, probably jeolous as you said. slim
 
At first, I would say to think reasonably about the rumors of what people are saying. Sometimes people's perceptions are more accurate than we realize. Try an honest evaluation of you and your lifestyle. If after that you still come to the conclusion that you are not going overboard and are doing things healthy and proper, well... then fug 'em.

If the rumors aren't true (and I suspect they aren't), and you're honestly good and healthy, then it is probably their response to something they are envious of. Kind of like how lots of people are envious of celebrities and others who have good physiques and jump immediately to conclusions that they are either on steroids (male) or anorexic (female). In this case, I would feel that I had two options: ignore them and be self-confident that you are a better person (probably ideal, lol), or find little subtle ways to show how good and healthy you are. Of course, option number two might only fuel their envy more once they realize how wrong they are, and see that you are a better person out of sheer will and determination (two things most people don't have, lol).

Anyways, grats on the weight loss, and keep it up
 
If these people are "talking behind your back" who is telling you what they are saying?? What sort of "friend" would tell you that other people are saying unkind things about you?
And at the height and weight that you listed I don't think there is any way that you could look "too skinny" keep up the good work.
 
All girls in this thread look and sound hot...

Back on topic, I think you hit the nail on the head. They don't remember (or never saw you) at your weight in your 20s, so now it may look "odd" to them. Could also be some jealousy. At any rate, gratz on your weight loss and keep up the good work.

pics please hehe
 
Sorry people treat you that way. I get the same thing - "OH GOD WHY ARE YOU ON A DIET" from everyone except my parents. Some people really don't like change, some are envious, some feel that if you think you're overweight then that must make them obese. Don't let them talk you down.

I think if they were really concerned they'd try to get you to see a doctor, but they know that no doctor is going to call you underweight.

Congrats on your success!
 
thanks to all for your replies and support. i am doing this with my gp and nurses support, they think its great. in fact when i went to my gp the other week over my concerns i might have gallstones i was encouraged to keep losing as "it will be easier for them to do keyhole surgery the slimmer/less tummy fat you have" or words to that effect.
i do feel so much better, i do get tired but i do shifts which i believe is the main culprit. people might see me losing weight quite quickly, which i know is not always the best, but im not starving myself. the weight has never come off so easily(so far) and i am putting it down to determination. i have bad days, even weeks, but i am so determined this time that i have managed to jump back on each time instead of giving up as i normally do.
my only concern and i guess other people see it too is my face.it was very fat and i have lost an awful lot of podge from there and i think my face has suffered a little for the weightloss. i know i cant spot reduce but i wish i could stop losing on my hips, chest and face as most of my remaining fat seems to be on my tummy.
i think i will definitely re evaluate my goal weight. as what suited me in my 20`s, does not seem to suit in my 40`s. perhaps ill go for half a stone heavier and see how i feel. slim
ps i wish i had some before photos and a digi camera so i could put some before and afters. dont know if its just me but does anyone still have this mental image of themselves as really big, go into a clothes shop. reach for the big sizes, stop, go for a small one then think "no it will never fit" and then nearly collapse with excitement (ok slight over exaggeration, im tired, just worked all night) when it does fit
 
I went from 265 to 220 in four months and someone said I was unhealthy and that I had an eating disorder. They had the nerve to say that after I sat down with my second plate of lasagna. Some people are just morons.
 
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