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momma4alex said:
anyways hit me up on either fb or text or whatever when you can or want. i'm always here.
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I know you are, we are very good for eachother and keep eachother in line.

Im sorry I was really busy on Sunday...

Plus with Corey in my life it is taking of time i didnt have before lol.
 
So the Corey front, lol

Ive been having some issues, me personally, lol.

We had a semi bad communicating week last week. End result is me pushing him away and shutting down, not a very productive way to be working on a new relationship.

He told me i was succeeding in pushing him away and I told him I really didnt think he and any idea how hard this is for me.

I have been single for 5 yrs now. Well roughly 5.

I havent even looked at another man in 7 yrs, let alone touch one or kiss one or have sex with one...

I have only been with my ex in the past 7 yrs.

Plus I wasnt ready to date yet, Corey just appeared I wasnt ready for him but I want him.

On friday I was melting emotionally, I told him I was ready to walk away that I was determinded I couldnt do this that im just not ready and my ex fucked me up more than I realized.

He told me he didnt want me to walk away. He just wanted things to slow down, he told me we were goign to fast it was going to fast and that i was going to fast. this didnt help any.

We have both been going just as fast as eachother. Ive been following his suit. Every convo we have had he has been right there with me in it. He flirts with me talks abt sex with me and so on. But Im going to fast, LOL.

Anyway we took a break from communication from early Fri afternoon till Sun afternoon.

When we talked yesturday he told me that he realized I was right and he was in the wrong that he wanted to call me Friday as soon as he realized that but decided not to cuz we agreed on Sunday to talk.

He told me he wanted to call me and text me all weekend but decided to stick to hs guns and follow through on what he said. I wanted to call him and text him too , well Sat night I did. But I didnt either. We were also online at the same time nad he told me he saw me there and wanted to talk to me but couldnt lol.

Anyway...

We texted lots from yesturday afternoon and on and we talked on the phone for like over 2 hrs.

We are back on track and good.

He sent me a text telling me that he has lost his trust in others but his trust in me is there.

:beating:How sweet:beating:

:(LOL:(I told him I was working on mine

I think what my prob has been is that so far it has all been talk and no action I need the words to be out into action, i need more than just a text relationship.

He was talking abt how if he was gonna hang around his place he would make some more major changes and he said that he prob wont be hanging around and I asked him why, LOL

His responce

:blush5::blush5:

After lots of dramatized throat clearling, LOL

:blush5::blush5:

You see I met this girl, who I really like and she has two kids and she wants to get married and I want to remarry one day and have a baby and I need more space:)

I thought it was sweet not exactly as he said it but ya know.

We are fianlly seeing eachother on Tuesday excited for Starbucks and a walk:)

Im back to feelign good and confident with him agian...I had a really bad week at work and so on...lol
 
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So im gonna try to get back on board with postign again and such:)

I think i need to start repostign my food as I havent been eating well or enough...

So

Sunday:

Exercise 30 mins Tennis,

the day was long it was my grannies bday i threw her a party and did everythign for her and my parents where here for the day. I started my day early ended it late adn by the time we got to the courts the kids wouldnt stop fighting!

Monday

today im going to play tennis, prob an hour and then do my p90x work out an hr and I joined a sparks ppl challenge with Heather so I gotta do that vid:)

I will post my food also
 
awe relly...relationships are hard sometimes arent they. One thing that helps me in ALL aspects of my life is that I tell myself I cant control others actions only my reaction to them, and also most things people say or do is more about THEM than me.

It sounds like you two really like each other and I can understand the going slow part....SLOW IS GOOD...and being able to talk/communicate and be understanding to each others needs is very important...

so keep talking and dont shut down or shut him out if he needs to express himself...

everythign works out the way it should...God doesnt make mistakes ;-)

hugz and flowery crap
Me
 
Karebare said:
everythign works out the way it should...God doesnt make mistakes ;-)

hugz and flowery crap
Me
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:Dthanx:DHun:D

He told me last night one day at a time one convo at a time and etc...Ive been through alot in my past and I havent dated or anythign since my ex...so slow for me...

Also one thing tha treally impressed me:)

I told him I have a cpl really over protective friends that wanna meet him asap, lol. Cuz they saw John hurt me so much that they dont think Im capable of making a good decision on my own.

He said no problem anytime, whenever they want.wow hey.

We do really like eachother...we went from beign single and happy to not really awntign anyhtign to plannin our future a little scary, LOL!!!

But i think when it is right it is right and when it is there it is there...and when you know you know...
 
Monday:

Exercise

70 mins tennis
60 mins mins P90X (arms/shoulders)
10 mins sparks ppl leg exercises with band

Food

a pece of toast (whole grain bread) Jam

an apple

6 inch tuna sub on white bread (subway)

a blueberry protein smoothy

3 pieces (small) of pep pizza

40 oz of green tea

48 oz of water.


 
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Be careful about those phone/text relationships. Much of it can be fantasy since you're not actually spending time with the person, which is of course what a real relationship is about, the day in and day out hanging together. I would try harder to not feel fear about seeing someone new, and definitely to try not to mention the ex anymore to Corey -- for a while anyway, I dont think a new guy really wants to hear much about exes. IMO this will work out better if you guys go less deep and just have fun together in person at first, try to take it light girl and leave the fears for your girls for now. That's just my blunt impression, I so hope it doesn't offend you as I'm just giving my honest 2 cents to my buddie. I really want this to work out, he sounds like a great guy and you deserve someone nice and true..
 
Blancita said:
Be careful about those phone/text relationships. Much of it can be fantasy since you're not actually spending time with the person, which is of course what a real relationship is about, the day in and day out hanging together. I would try harder to not feel fear about seeing someone new, and definitely to try not to mention the ex anymore to Corey -- for a while anyway, I dont think a new guy really wants to hear much about exes. IMO this will work out better if you guys go less deep and just have fun together in person at first, try to take it light girl and leave the fears for your girls for now. That's just my blunt impression, I so hope it doesn't offend you as I'm just giving my honest 2 cents to my buddie. I really want this to work out, he sounds like a great guy and you deserve someone nice and true..
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We have coevered this before Claud we are both very blunt straight tlaking ppl:)

As for Corey, well, it has been a little rough because we have both been so busy and havent had time to see eachother. it isnt going to be a text relationship it is just all we have had due to our busy schedules

I have alot of confidence that it will all work out im not worried.We have loads in common, we both really want eachother and we want it to work, just gotta start spending the time together and see how it all goes physically in person.

I speak to him openly and he has been really good thus far about everyhting.

I talk to him abt my ex but not much...there isnt much to say i just more so use my crappy past relationship as an example here and there as to why i have fears and why i have still have triggers...

He gets it and he is patient and sweet and feels he is a lucky man to have found me:)LOL

I think im lucky to have found someone who is patient in the aspect of my fears but Corey is totally opposite of John and it makes it hard for me.

Corey is a thoughtful guy, he is a sweetheart and follows through on what he says.

The only time John was nice was when he wanted something.

I realized on SUnday that Corey isnt John and isnt my past...Now i just gotta work on believing it ha haha.

I am all good where corey is concerned. We are gonna work on seeing eachother and going from there.



 
Blancita said:
Be careful about those phone/text relationships. Much of it can be fantasy since you're not actually spending time with the person, which is of course what a real relationship is about, the day in and day out hanging together. I would try harder to not feel fear about seeing someone new, and definitely to try not to mention the ex anymore to Corey -- for a while anyway, I dont think a new guy really wants to hear much about exes. IMO this will work out better if you guys go less deep and just have fun together in person at first, try to take it light girl and leave the fears for your girls for now. That's just my blunt impression, I so hope it doesn't offend you as I'm just giving my honest 2 cents to my buddie. I really want this to work out, he sounds like a great guy and you deserve someone nice and true..
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I agree with B, keep it light. If you keep bringing up the ex and the insecurities he contributed to, then Corey may eventually feel like he's being punished for all of your ex's shortcomings, especially if you push him away again. You need to go into this with an open mind. This guy is not your ex so stop waiting for the ball to drop.

Relationships are hard and suck a lot of the time. If I hadn't found my Sean, I have no doubt I'd still be single and living alone, and completely content with my choice to be single.

This guy is new territory for you, and you need to treat it as such. Be curious and explore. No guy is gonna be like the last, and the same goes for females. You need to let go of what your ex did and move on. Until you do, there will always be that dark cloud over your head and every future relationship.

Make some goals with Corey, such as not planning any future events past a couple weeks. Even if you both are thinking of something more serious, leave it on the back burner and focus on the current situation. Be honest with yourself, do you plan to get hitched right away? If not, then why bring it up already? You have all the time in the world to plan for the future, just enjoy yourself now.
 
Amy

We have established where we stand and are leaving it at that. We are gonna make time for eachother and have some fun and date:)
 
cinderelly said:
Amy

We have established where we stand and are leaving it at that. We are gonna make time for eachother and have some fun and date:)
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That's awesome. Above all, HAVE FUN! The most fun I've ever had was when Sean and I were dating. We still have a blast now, but it's so mush more exciting when you're just getting to know one another.

DOes he live far away or have kids? Why do you only get to see him occasionally?? Sean and I spent every single day together after we met. Actually, we were married for 6 months before we finally spent more than a day apart. LOL!!
 
AmyRB said:
That's awesome. Above all, HAVE FUN! The most fun I've ever had was when Sean and I were dating. We still have a blast now, but it's so mush more exciting when you're just getting to know one another.

DOes he live far away or have kids? Why do you only get to see him occasionally?? Sean and I spent every single day together after we met. Actually, we were married for 6 months before we finally spent more than a day apart. LOL!!

He lives 30 mins away and has a son yes who lives in chilliwack he goes to see every sunday.
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We are both very busy is all...and opposite schedules

He works a typical 8
9 - 5 job adn is building manager at his place so that takes up all his time through the week.

On the weekends he goes out to Chilliwack and I have a pretty tight schedule myself.

I think after all that has been said and done that we will def be making more time for eachother. Just gotta figure it out.

Cuz I work nights and sleep during the day my evenings are so cindenced cuz of the kids and the fact I ahvent spent anytime with them and then i need to do bed time...

We just need to work out, how and when and where and what.

But I think that has been a big part of my problem, we have no face time.
 
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cinderelly;601363 I have only been with my ex in the past 7 yrs. He told me he wanted to call me and text me all weekend but decided to stick to hs guns and follow through on what he said. I wanted to call him and text him too said:
aww, relly that is a sweet boy you have there! The fact that he respected your feelings enough to hold off on calling and texting you as you two had discussed is awesome! Thats good to hear! Hang in there... he seems like a good guy. And a good guy will wait for you... and although maybe a bit impatient... he will wait for you hehe.



How are things in your neck of the woods. I need to email you soon.... its just been crazy. I havent responded to emails in a few weeks... i suck at it!!! lol. I will soon though! Maybe tonight :)
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Just for the record... we dont feel that you are NOT capable of picking out a good guy...lol.. we just want to check him out a little. Maybe, a light interview with possibly a mild threat of physical harm should he hurt you... thats all.. :D Michelle
 
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Just for the record... we dont feel that you are NOT capable of picking out a good guy...lol.. we just want to check him out a little. Maybe, a light interview with possibly a mild threat of physical harm should he hurt you... thats all.. :D Michelle
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He said he would meet you:)Figure out what works, lisa wants to be in on it too. He must like me, he didnt even hesitate when I asked him.

brazenlysasse said:
I think you would like it in spaghetti sauce Cerella..has the texture of meat
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Sounds good:)I will have to try it out!!!JKaylea would prob appreciate tacos:)

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Ha, that post was supposed to be in my diary, makes no sense in yours...lol I was referring to veggie ground round ...Im a dork
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I didnt een hesitate to think twice abt it I knew what you were talking abt:)

If ya want details om my great date with Corey call the house phone:)

We met at 5 and i went running outta his pace like a bat outta hell at 930 and he lives in New West!

Thankfully helives right by the patallio and he is such a gentleman
 
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