370 to 228; still need to get past plateau
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I don't wanna fall fall fall asleep no i don't wanna fall unless i'm falling for you
So I'm going to spend my friday night (well, the last 30 minutes of it) writing this nice little short essay that will say something that everyone knows about but you have to experience to really understand...
Okay, so there is a thing in personality development of childhood (that I don't really remember the name of oops) where children are basically participants that develop based on how others react to them -- that is, pretty babies get more smiles (which will eventually affect the way they develop) from strangers, their parents, and receive more care and attention because of it than ugly babies.
Anyways, those types of reactions carry on into adulthood (Pretty girls, for example, get more smiles than not so pretty girls, etc.). Well, for a lot of people, being fat means you are not pretty -- which, of course, means less smiles! And much like a child, it's two fold! You get less smiles, you are less smiley!
So for everyone losing weight reading this, here are some of the things that change for you when dealing with people:
1) People are less rude. Yup. Since losing weight, people have been friendlier and more polite to me -- they move out of the way more, they say excuse me more, they offer to help me more, etc.
2) People smile more. I know I said this up there, but this one is BIG. People smile a lot more! Maybe it's cause I'm so cute (kidding), but people just smile more when you're their size. Which makes you smile more. Which makes everything a fun time!
3) People interact with you more than for a fat joke. Yup! In the past week I've had girls (omg what are those things and why are they talking to me!) just start randomly talking to me as I walked by them and then roll down their car windows to talk to me. WEIRD! And those 7 digits they give out -- what do I do with those?
4) People don't stare when you eat. This one is weird! Okay, the imaginary audience may be playing a role here (psychology term used to describe the 'Why is everyone staring at me' thing that teenagers experience), but I swear people used to stare at me when I used to eat -- and in my head it was always them thinking "oh my god why is he eating he should be walking." Nope. Nobody stares now -- psychology my butt
5) People are just more friendly, dangit! Okay, this may encompass all of the above, but -- MAN people are so friendly! They joke around, they talk, and they're just friendlier! This could be two fold (I could be friendlier etc) but I swear, things are more fun!
6) THINGS ARE MORE FUN. Now, the past is always there dragging you down. BUT MAN, life is just more fun. Everything feels better -- you can look at yourself in a glass as you walk by a store and not be like 'whyyy.' UGH. FUN FUN FUN. More enjoyable. More breathable. More air. Just more fun.
7) You can exercise and not have that darn Imaginary Audience thing bring you down. I know I'm not alone, because my little brother is trying to lose weight (again) and is saying this is why he doesn't wanna exercise. When you are fat, you feel like everyone is laughing at you when you exercise -- thinking, "why didn't he do that before?" It's TOTALLY a giant conundrum that I know stops a lot of people from working out. I felt it before, my brother feels it now. You feel like everyone is better than you and everyone is looking at you. Well? Lose some weight, and that goes away. And you're like "Look what I can do now, biashes"!
8) I have too much room in this seat. Yup. My driver seat had to be readjusted and pushed up. I pull the table closer to me rather than farther away at the restaurant, I fit in the desks at school with room to spare, and ... I can ride rollercoasters on the last 'safety click.' I love rollercoasters! I love fitting in them even more.
9) Did I mention girls flirt with me? Yup. I'm not even good looking, and they flirt with me. ALL THE FRIGGEN TIME.
10) You just love you. Okay, I know this one is self-explanatory, but when you lose weight, everything becomes better because you like yourself more. You were always you and will always be you, but when the you you see in the mirror is closer to what you've always wanted to see there, you definitely like that person a lot better. I still have a hard time with this, mostly because I wonder why I let myself get the way I was, but when when I look at that glass when I'm walking down the street and smile... well, I never used to smile looking at that piece of glass.
Of course, there are some hazards too of losing weight!
9) People think you're conceited. They're wondering why you're smiling at yourself in the glass. Um, have you seen what I've accomplished?
8) People think you're not nice anymore. Nope. Just not afraid to say something mean anymore
7) People think you don't eat enough. Well, of course you don't look like you eat enough comparatively when you used to eat enough for two of you (literally).
Why the heck am I posting all this stuff? Because this is a motivation page. And honestly? This stuff motivates me still to work forward.
So I'm going to spend my friday night (well, the last 30 minutes of it) writing this nice little short essay that will say something that everyone knows about but you have to experience to really understand...
Okay, so there is a thing in personality development of childhood (that I don't really remember the name of oops) where children are basically participants that develop based on how others react to them -- that is, pretty babies get more smiles (which will eventually affect the way they develop) from strangers, their parents, and receive more care and attention because of it than ugly babies.
Anyways, those types of reactions carry on into adulthood (Pretty girls, for example, get more smiles than not so pretty girls, etc.). Well, for a lot of people, being fat means you are not pretty -- which, of course, means less smiles! And much like a child, it's two fold! You get less smiles, you are less smiley!
So for everyone losing weight reading this, here are some of the things that change for you when dealing with people:
1) People are less rude. Yup. Since losing weight, people have been friendlier and more polite to me -- they move out of the way more, they say excuse me more, they offer to help me more, etc.
2) People smile more. I know I said this up there, but this one is BIG. People smile a lot more! Maybe it's cause I'm so cute (kidding), but people just smile more when you're their size. Which makes you smile more. Which makes everything a fun time!
3) People interact with you more than for a fat joke. Yup! In the past week I've had girls (omg what are those things and why are they talking to me!) just start randomly talking to me as I walked by them and then roll down their car windows to talk to me. WEIRD! And those 7 digits they give out -- what do I do with those?
4) People don't stare when you eat. This one is weird! Okay, the imaginary audience may be playing a role here (psychology term used to describe the 'Why is everyone staring at me' thing that teenagers experience), but I swear people used to stare at me when I used to eat -- and in my head it was always them thinking "oh my god why is he eating he should be walking." Nope. Nobody stares now -- psychology my butt
5) People are just more friendly, dangit! Okay, this may encompass all of the above, but -- MAN people are so friendly! They joke around, they talk, and they're just friendlier! This could be two fold (I could be friendlier etc) but I swear, things are more fun!
6) THINGS ARE MORE FUN. Now, the past is always there dragging you down. BUT MAN, life is just more fun. Everything feels better -- you can look at yourself in a glass as you walk by a store and not be like 'whyyy.' UGH. FUN FUN FUN. More enjoyable. More breathable. More air. Just more fun.
7) You can exercise and not have that darn Imaginary Audience thing bring you down. I know I'm not alone, because my little brother is trying to lose weight (again) and is saying this is why he doesn't wanna exercise. When you are fat, you feel like everyone is laughing at you when you exercise -- thinking, "why didn't he do that before?" It's TOTALLY a giant conundrum that I know stops a lot of people from working out. I felt it before, my brother feels it now. You feel like everyone is better than you and everyone is looking at you. Well? Lose some weight, and that goes away. And you're like "Look what I can do now, biashes"!
8) I have too much room in this seat. Yup. My driver seat had to be readjusted and pushed up. I pull the table closer to me rather than farther away at the restaurant, I fit in the desks at school with room to spare, and ... I can ride rollercoasters on the last 'safety click.' I love rollercoasters! I love fitting in them even more
.9) Did I mention girls flirt with me? Yup. I'm not even good looking, and they flirt with me. ALL THE FRIGGEN TIME.
10) You just love you. Okay, I know this one is self-explanatory, but when you lose weight, everything becomes better because you like yourself more. You were always you and will always be you, but when the you you see in the mirror is closer to what you've always wanted to see there, you definitely like that person a lot better. I still have a hard time with this, mostly because I wonder why I let myself get the way I was, but when when I look at that glass when I'm walking down the street and smile... well, I never used to smile looking at that piece of glass.
Of course, there are some hazards too of losing weight!
9) People think you're conceited. They're wondering why you're smiling at yourself in the glass. Um, have you seen what I've accomplished?
8) People think you're not nice anymore. Nope. Just not afraid to say something mean anymore
7) People think you don't eat enough. Well, of course you don't look like you eat enough comparatively when you used to eat enough for two of you (literally).
Why the heck am I posting all this stuff? Because this is a motivation page. And honestly? This stuff motivates me still to work forward.
heyoou
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Kiramon, don't worry about plateaus as they happen to everybody.
I weighed 258lbs at my heaviest and lost 24lbs in 3 months while eating healthy and sometimes going under my needed caloric intake. This while doing over 1 hour of cardio(interval training) and 30 minutes free weights.4x a week. Then I hit a plateau for 2 months and decided to eat more and even cheated with some bad carbs almost every day and believe it or not, was losing more weight. Lost 14lbs more in 1 1/2 months. Couldn't believe it.
What i'm trying to say is plateaus happen to everybody and don't always rely on what says on the scale.
Just keep exercising and eating well and don't worry about what says on the scale as before you know without warning the weight loss will come off and show on the scale.
I weighed 258lbs at my heaviest and lost 24lbs in 3 months while eating healthy and sometimes going under my needed caloric intake. This while doing over 1 hour of cardio(interval training) and 30 minutes free weights.4x a week. Then I hit a plateau for 2 months and decided to eat more and even cheated with some bad carbs almost every day and believe it or not, was losing more weight. Lost 14lbs more in 1 1/2 months. Couldn't believe it.
What i'm trying to say is plateaus happen to everybody and don't always rely on what says on the scale.
Just keep exercising and eating well and don't worry about what says on the scale as before you know without warning the weight loss will come off and show on the scale.
Thankss
Ive been at 200 for a while now after getting past that plateau... I'm about to ramp it up for the summer (although Ive been saying that since the start of summer where I lost 24 pounds after gaining some back over the winter, lol).
I dunno exactly what i want to do to lose weight though yet.
Cant decide on a diet (or just calorie restriction) and what type of activity
Ive been at 200 for a while now after getting past that plateau... I'm about to ramp it up for the summer (although Ive been saying that since the start of summer where I lost 24 pounds after gaining some back over the winter, lol).
I dunno exactly what i want to do to lose weight though yet.
Cant decide on a diet (or just calorie restriction) and what type of activity
This is me being depressed =)
Pretty much life goes like this: Look in mirror; feel good about self. Go outside. See other dudes that look normal. Look at mirror; see dude who lost weight. Not normal looking.
Sad because I can see under the skin what's there but no monetary way to get there.
Makes me wonder why I even bother sometimes. Least I could be enjoying chocolate and look horrible instead of just looking horrible.
Pretty much life goes like this: Look in mirror; feel good about self. Go outside. See other dudes that look normal. Look at mirror; see dude who lost weight. Not normal looking.
Sad because I can see under the skin what's there but no monetary way to get there.
Makes me wonder why I even bother sometimes. Least I could be enjoying chocolate and look horrible instead of just looking horrible.
Don't let it get you down!! "Normal" is subjective anyway. There are plenty of people out there that see you and say "man, i wish i could loose weight like kiramon."
Besides, those "normal" guys have flaws. Don't let the exterior fool you. Give your best everyday and remember that you are on a mission...to be a healthier version
of your former self. Life IS better when you are healthy!!
Besides, those "normal" guys have flaws. Don't let the exterior fool you. Give your best everyday and remember that you are on a mission...to be a healthier version
of your former self. Life IS better when you are healthy!!
I guess it's just depressing to see the way they look -- even people who are bigger but a lower weight than me I get jealous of because I know they can look normal "" but I can't.
Like, I dont even have it that bad skin-wise, but I can still see where it's obviously hanging...
Like, I dont even have it that bad skin-wise, but I can still see where it's obviously hanging...
so I'm trying to build up the energy to start again (I'm so exhausted of gaining weight losing weight gaining weight even though I've been around the same set point for a while now).. and I kinda started tonight by cleaning my house of all the junk food (cookies and the like).
Unfortunately, I cleaned it by eating it all.
Pretty sure I ate like 8gabillion calories of cookies today. And I'm not exaggerating.
Ergh.
Unfortunately, I cleaned it by eating it all.
Pretty sure I ate like 8gabillion calories of cookies today. And I'm not exaggerating.
Ergh.
Frogged
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Heya Kira!
Nice to see you update!
Just wondering if you could go into more detail about the slight gain, if you don't mind that is.
Running and good diet will definitely do that. Maybe some of it is just retention weight? That'll come off fast!
Hang in there, bud. Keep on going, even when you hit these small bumps, and you'll be just fine
Nice to see you update!
Just wondering if you could go into more detail about the slight gain, if you don't mind that is.
Running and good diet will definitely do that. Maybe some of it is just retention weight? That'll come off fast!
Hang in there, bud. Keep on going, even when you hit these small bumps, and you'll be just fine
I've been fluctuating around 200 since I dropped twenty at the start of summer. Lately I have been without energy . My friend thinks it's depression from my moms death still. I have started working out again but after two days I am so drained that I just can't keep up. I have no will anymore either. Mind you I dropped to my lowest weight a few months ago because I was too tired to eat. There's nothing physically wrong with me.
So I'm considering a strict Tuna Fish diet -- probably with Eggs for breakfast, Tuna Fish for lunch, and Chicken for dinner (or more tuna fish).
I've done it before, and it worked well. Not hard to maintain either. Usually makes me lose weight fast.
I'm kinda desperate -- I'm at 220, and I think it's going up. It scares me. I need to regain control. So I think I will try it.
I'm only sad because I was 198 and even then I still wanted to lose 14 more pounds, and now I have to lose more than double that... which makes me sad lol.
I've done it before, and it worked well. Not hard to maintain either. Usually makes me lose weight fast.
I'm kinda desperate -- I'm at 220, and I think it's going up. It scares me. I need to regain control. So I think I will try it.
I'm only sad because I was 198 and even then I still wanted to lose 14 more pounds, and now I have to lose more than double that... which makes me sad lol.
Frogged
New member
Heya Kira
Listen, don't fret. You're gonna be just fine!
Depression is a nasty little passenger that can stay quiet for a period of time, then hit you when you least expect it. Like weight loss, it's just a constant battle for some of us (especially if you've had significant tragedy in your life).
There are methods and steps you can take to keep yourself focused and regain whatever control you think you may be losing. I don't think you've lost any control, but I do believe you've hit a slump and that's completely natural in this process. I've had a few myself just recently, and I'm in the midst of one again myself (bad week) :\
However, you're on the right path by disclosing your struggles and continuing to utilize this community for support and suggestions.
You are definitely not alone in any aspect of this journey!
I still believe the most important thing anyone can do to ensure their success is to keep on going, no matter how hard things feel..and it can feel crushing at times, I know.
I can tell you still have that iron resolve to reach your goals though, otherwise you wouldn't be posting
Chin up, bud. The eggs, chicken, and tuna ideas sound great and tasty! Just don't stress or freak out. The weight will come off and you'll be back to where you were before you know it!
Take some time, figure out what is and isn't working for you in terms of food choices and exercise, tweak/modify (gradually) as you go, and just keep on going strong!
Listen, don't fret. You're gonna be just fine!
Depression is a nasty little passenger that can stay quiet for a period of time, then hit you when you least expect it. Like weight loss, it's just a constant battle for some of us (especially if you've had significant tragedy in your life).
There are methods and steps you can take to keep yourself focused and regain whatever control you think you may be losing. I don't think you've lost any control, but I do believe you've hit a slump and that's completely natural in this process. I've had a few myself just recently, and I'm in the midst of one again myself (bad week) :\
However, you're on the right path by disclosing your struggles and continuing to utilize this community for support and suggestions.
You are definitely not alone in any aspect of this journey!
I still believe the most important thing anyone can do to ensure their success is to keep on going, no matter how hard things feel..and it can feel crushing at times, I know.
I can tell you still have that iron resolve to reach your goals though, otherwise you wouldn't be posting
Chin up, bud. The eggs, chicken, and tuna ideas sound great and tasty! Just don't stress or freak out. The weight will come off and you'll be back to where you were before you know it!
Take some time, figure out what is and isn't working for you in terms of food choices and exercise, tweak/modify (gradually) as you go, and just keep on going strong!