2 steps forward, 1 step back

[Rowe1]

So about this time last year i started posted on the forums. Since october of 2008 i've lost 75 lbs, I went from 425lbs to 345 lbs and in May my father passed away from obesity. Since may everything slowed down, my will power, my drive, my love for changing died off. I'm not sure exactly whats changed, but i've lost hope.

I've since gone back up to 380 lbs, and i can't stand it.

I found a work out partner, and we have been steady hitting the gym 3 days a week, but our works outs are in consistant, and our eating habbits are just as bad as they have allways been.

I need some advice, some love, some inspiration.

Help me get my spark back.

 

[nfarnham2001]

I'm sorry for your loss, I can sympathize, I lost my mother in 2001, not anything to do with me working out but still, loss is terrible.

The only thing and advice I can offer, is to look for the positive, try not to dwell, but you can't just expect this not to have an effect on you, it willl, as in all depression does, but you can get past this.

Continue what you were doing before, put positive people around you, good friends, family, whatever it may be.

Watch your intake of food, if you are eating bad again, and know it, then you can change it, no matter how hard it may seem.

I wish you the best of luck.

 

[jeffisbig]

Its a rough situation. You have some things you need to work out and eating isn't going to do it for you.

You were doing amazing, and you can still do amazing. Take tomorrow and make it a fresh start. It doesn't need to be straight back into your diet. Try out a smaller deficit.

What got you to the 345lb mark is still in you. I'm an emotional eater too (I hate saying it, cause it sounds so un-manly but its true). I think being active and getting out (not even talking about the gym, just being around friends) could do a lot to help.

Make 345lbs your current goal. See if you can get back to that point. Don't worry about after it, just focus on 345. Its a good number because its sequential so it looks pretty.

You are in mourning, so its not like you can shake yourself out of it. Its going to take time, and a good therapist might not be a bad idea if you can afford it.

Good luck! You've already done it once, you can do it again.