Cate's Diary

Hi Cate! I'm so happy that you are still posting. I'm glad R is doing better and a happy early birthday to him! I'm trying to stage a comeback.
 
Oh, Cate - that's such a full plate, emotionally and physically. Hugs, and best wishes for the week, for everyone's health and gentleness.
 
Thanks, Petal, LaMa, Q & Amy.
I'm glad I came home with G last night instead of staying down there. We need to support one another as well. The driving is tiring & Hobart is hectic, especially compared to where we live. I'm not worried about R so much now as I can see he is getting better. He is still a bit fragile, but he started eating much better yesterday. It helps to have me there as I scoot his visitors off when they stay too long. We'll go back again tomorrow & stay 2 nights as it's his birthday on Friday. Hopefully, he will continue to get a little better each day.
I have been getting in quite a bit of walking & have been eating a lot less & certainly a lot less meat & cheese & my body is thanking me. I still have a sore throat & am a bit mucky but that can be a reaction to all the dog hair in R's house. He has his hound dog who sheds & also minds a big Maremma during the day, who sheds like crazy. As soon as you sit down a dog appears on your lap or right next to you, so I spend most of my time on my feet. Good exercise. G & I will do some more housework when we get back down there (vacuuming etc) & G can do some batch cooking for him. K, his new GF is really something else. She has been an absolute brick. It would be nice to repay her somehow & maybe cooking stuff up for her for work lunches would be nice. She knits so I am going to check out some alpaca wool today to give to her.
I am going to the memorial service today for G's husband. It will mean encountering most of the golfing women, but I am not going to bother even trying to explain why I'm not going back. It doesn't matter what anyone says. It will be nice to see G again, even under these circumstances.
 
Cate said:
It helps to have me there as I scoot his visitors off when they stay too long.
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That made me chuckle - although I'm sure you're right! It's just such a mom thing to do.
Very glad to hear you're feeling better and good luck with the golf ladies :grouphug:
 
Cate said:
I am going to the memorial service today for G's husband.
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Is that your friend G. who's dealing with cancer? Your presence will be a great support to her - I'm very glad you can make it. (Of course not to bother one inch about those other women or golf club things. If they even hint, just shut them down with "I don't think this is a time to talk about that".)
It's making a very wearing week for you, though - absolutely yes, about you and your own G. supporting each other. So glad your family is so strong and mutually supportive. Lovely about K being a brick, too - even if she turns out not to be a girlfriend forever, still right now she's stepping up to the mark - yes, I bet she'd love some beautiful alpaca wool. hugs.
 
That’s a great update Cate I have been thinking of you .
Is R the son who broke up with his other girlfriend a little while ago ? Glad to hear he has found someone who sounds really caring and grounded . I’m glad his health is on the mend .
happy you are getting walking in and sounds like your diet is good so you must be feeling better in yourself that way . Once you recover from all the stress and upheaval of the last 2 weeks you won’t know yourself .
I hope the memorial went ok and that your friend got some comfort from it . It is certainly a very traumatic time for her . As Amy says it’s not a place to be discussing golfing politics amd you are well away from there .
look after yourself kind lady and big hugs .
 
Thanks, Rob. I "survived" the golfing ladies a bit too well. I really enjoyed seeing them. The 2 that I dislike were super friendly (I can see right through them though). With the exception of "the 2", I feel that these women are my tribe. It's very conflicting.
Hi, LaMa. I'm glad I made you chuckle. It is such a Mum thing to do. I think that's one of the reasons he wanted me there :)
Hi, Amy. I'll call them G1 & G2. G1 is the one who has cancer & G2 is probably one of her closest friends. I took along a piccolo of our favourite bubbly & after the service asked if she would like one. I got permission to bring it in & gave her a glass. She gave me such a big hug & told me she really loved me.
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So glad your family is so strong and mutually supportive. Lovely about K being a brick, too - even if she turns out not to be a girlfriend forever, still right now she's stepping up to the mark - yes, I bet she'd love some beautiful alpaca wool. hugs.
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He has such a great group of supportive friends. K sure is stepping up to the mark & you're right. If it's not a forever thing it sure is wonderful for right now. I bought enough wool for her to knit a beanie & a long scarf. Enough for a jumper would have been too much I think as a little thank you. I don't want to embarrass her.
Hi, Petal. Yes, R is the one who split up recently. He met K over a year ago when his ex had split with him again. She was only in Australia for a while I think but has now moved here. She was well aware of how much R loved C, but they maintained a friendship which is really good.
I am looking forward to getting back to "normal" but glad that we have been able to help R get through this time. We're heading back today for a couple of nights, but shouldn't be needed next week I hope.
The memorial service was really good. You could see how much it has taken from G2. She looked absolutely drained.

I don't know where to start with my conflicting emotions about this group of women(always with the exception of the 2). I absolutely feel at home with them & I feel part of their tribe. I really love some of them. 10 of us are going out to lunch with G2 next Tuesday as we figured everyone will disappear in a few days & she will need company. She loved the idea.
The captain (B1 I'll call her) rang me before the memorial service & then texted me to say that as I won the first monthly medal that I am in the draw to play early next Wednesday. She came up to me a few times & mentioned it & I managed not to say anything really. The president (B2) came up quite a few times asking if I would be going to the xmas party & I avoided answering her too, without being rude. I think I said "I'll see" a couple of times.
I'll go to lunch on Tuesday & just see how I feel about it all.
 
I don't really know much about you, and nothing about your "tribe", but it seems to me that if you like ~8 of 10 its probably worth tolerating, maybe ignoring, the 2 outliers. Can you make that work? Isn't it kind of like family, you don't (or most people don't) like all the relatives, but somehow you find a way to live with those you don't. And fortunately you (or most of us) like most of them.

Good to see you happier again, more like the Cate I got to know.
 
Thanks, Rob. I think so. They never go to lunches which is good. I have sent a message to G1 & G2 saying that I am considering playing on Wednesday. It's a draw for the yearly medal & if I play it would be with 2 of my favourites, including G2.
We're back in Hobart again. My G & R are watching some free climbing thing on Netflix & I'm sitting in the backyard.
Time to ring my SIL for her birthday. She's G's brother's widow.
 
This time must have an after-the-storm feel to it, Cate! A time to catch your breath and take stock - and to look after yourself as well as others! You're very good, remembering birthdays in the midst of turmoil and exhaustion.
(That's B for Banana, I take it, in the golf group? :p )
 
Cate said:
I took along a piccolo of our favourite bubbly & after the service asked if she would like one. I got permission to bring it in & gave her a glass. She gave me such a big hug & told me she really loved me.
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What a wonderful thing to do!
I'm glad the Banana ladies couldn't ruin things but always remember that the thing about bad apples isn't that they're exceptions but that they can spoil the whole bunch. Great to hear they never come to lunches though.
 
Haha, Amy. Of course it was banana 1 & banana 2. Of course :smilielol5:
LaMa- G2 loved it. I got a message back from her today as I had said if we both played on Wednesday it would be together. We'll see. We'll talk about it on Tuesday.
 
Good to hear you are ok Cate and meeting your friends .
Rob I have found sometimes it’s just easier to avoid groups where you are uncomfortable.
 
Hi, Cate! Best wishes that R's birthday is a very happy one - which it can hardly help being, having such great family with him! (And K, but I don't want to presume. :) )
 
Thanks, Petal & Amy. We are both looking forward to getting back home again. I'm very tired. We stayed at K's house last night & will stay again tonight & head home tomorrow. I really like K.
We had Japanese food for lunch, which was really delicious & are going out a bit later just for a little bit while to listen to some cruisy live music.
 
Safe journey home again Cate . It's nice you had an opportunity to get to know K even though the circumstances were less than ideal. Isn't it amazing how life can change in a minute.
 
Delighted to hear K is such a nice person and that she is there to look after R when you go back. It must be an exhausting time for you Cate, please rest up this weekend and try to get the stress out of your body now that the worst is over.
 
Thanks, Em I will. She is lovely. It will be good to get back home again though.
 
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