I recently typed this in a member's diary.... someone who has been struggling with consistency in exercise and weight loss. I thought it would be worth sharing. Or maybe it would strike up some interesting convo.
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The way I look at it is very simple.
You either want it or you don't.
I see people all day long say they want it. They think they want it. But they don't really. Or they'd do what it takes to have it. Sure, they might want it a little. But the desire isn't strong enough to create enough action. Action comes from strong desire.
If you REALLY want a cookie, you are going to eat it.
Strong desire = definite action.
So instead of letting your desires control you, and therefore your actions..... start controlling your desires to create the desired actions you're looking for.
I know life isn't so cut and dry always. But when it comes to weight loss, it really is.
A vast majority of people who are fat, don't like being fat. But the thought of doing what it takes to not be fat is scary. And that's a stupid statement on my part actually.
Rather the reality of what it takes to not be fat isn't worth the fat loss. If it were, they'd act consistently.
I admit that's not really a fair way of looking at things. It isolates one faction of life. Start throwing in other factions, which we all undoubtedly have, and the waters get muddy and things are not as cut and dry as I make them out to be.
But when you take away all the minutia, we all have the choice to act in line with losing weight or not.
It's up to you to pick one side or the other.
If you really want this bad enough, you'll pick the right side and you'll do this quite often.
Sometimes it takes some time, effort, and thought to strip away the consuming stuff in our life for a moment in order to see clearly, what it is that will make us happy and why it will make us happy. If you can find a way to see this vividly though, it kind of scars you. In a good way though. Do this often enough and eventually being able to link your mind and actions into one concise 'machine' of success will become permanent.
For instance, this past month or so, I've been really slacking with my fitness. Every single F-ing excuse you can think of, I've used. The main one being my schedule. I'm studying for a gnarly test, I'm working some crazy hours, I'm trying to get a second business off the ground, I'm buying another business, I put time into my marriage, I'm very active socially, although I don't have to I do feel I have a responsibility to help people on forums such as this, and the list goes on and on.
There are so many things that can and do get in the way.
If I let them.
It's all back to that same simple choice.
And I think we all lose sight of our personal orders of priority. How can health, happiness, and physique not be high up on this list? The fact of the matter is, they are. For all of us. But if you lose sight of this fact, it's easy to let things take precedent which ordinarily shouldn't or wouldn't.
For me, it's simple. I am very keenly aware of many, many reasons why I want what I want in terms of fitness, health, and physique. I've thought about it through and through. I've visualized myself reaching my ultimate goals. I've seen in my mind, me in the future, doing all the things I do in my life, except in a better body; the body I have as my ultimate goal. I've thought dozens of times daily about what it would feel like to reach my goals, what exactly it would mean to me. I've thought about the impact it would have on me and those around me. The list goes on and on, how in depth I've thought about this.
And when you put that amount of mental work into something, your thoughts become realities.
And because I've put that effort in, this short break in consistency for me will end very abruptly and I'll be back in the swing of things full force instantly. Without crying, whining, or second guessing myself.
I have a saying that I was going to use in a business I start someday. I'm sure someone has already coined the phrase by now. But I've been saying it to the people in my life for a long while:
Dream It, Want It, Live It.
It's that simple.
Life is very short in the grand scheme of things. Being indecisive about what you want is absolutely devastating in my mind.
So my advice to you can be summed up in a single sentence:
Decide what you want and why you want it and attack it full steam ahead.
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The way I look at it is very simple.
You either want it or you don't.
I see people all day long say they want it. They think they want it. But they don't really. Or they'd do what it takes to have it. Sure, they might want it a little. But the desire isn't strong enough to create enough action. Action comes from strong desire.
If you REALLY want a cookie, you are going to eat it.
Strong desire = definite action.
So instead of letting your desires control you, and therefore your actions..... start controlling your desires to create the desired actions you're looking for.
I know life isn't so cut and dry always. But when it comes to weight loss, it really is.
A vast majority of people who are fat, don't like being fat. But the thought of doing what it takes to not be fat is scary. And that's a stupid statement on my part actually.
Rather the reality of what it takes to not be fat isn't worth the fat loss. If it were, they'd act consistently.
I admit that's not really a fair way of looking at things. It isolates one faction of life. Start throwing in other factions, which we all undoubtedly have, and the waters get muddy and things are not as cut and dry as I make them out to be.
But when you take away all the minutia, we all have the choice to act in line with losing weight or not.
It's up to you to pick one side or the other.
If you really want this bad enough, you'll pick the right side and you'll do this quite often.
Sometimes it takes some time, effort, and thought to strip away the consuming stuff in our life for a moment in order to see clearly, what it is that will make us happy and why it will make us happy. If you can find a way to see this vividly though, it kind of scars you. In a good way though. Do this often enough and eventually being able to link your mind and actions into one concise 'machine' of success will become permanent.
For instance, this past month or so, I've been really slacking with my fitness. Every single F-ing excuse you can think of, I've used. The main one being my schedule. I'm studying for a gnarly test, I'm working some crazy hours, I'm trying to get a second business off the ground, I'm buying another business, I put time into my marriage, I'm very active socially, although I don't have to I do feel I have a responsibility to help people on forums such as this, and the list goes on and on.
There are so many things that can and do get in the way.
If I let them.
It's all back to that same simple choice.
And I think we all lose sight of our personal orders of priority. How can health, happiness, and physique not be high up on this list? The fact of the matter is, they are. For all of us. But if you lose sight of this fact, it's easy to let things take precedent which ordinarily shouldn't or wouldn't.
For me, it's simple. I am very keenly aware of many, many reasons why I want what I want in terms of fitness, health, and physique. I've thought about it through and through. I've visualized myself reaching my ultimate goals. I've seen in my mind, me in the future, doing all the things I do in my life, except in a better body; the body I have as my ultimate goal. I've thought dozens of times daily about what it would feel like to reach my goals, what exactly it would mean to me. I've thought about the impact it would have on me and those around me. The list goes on and on, how in depth I've thought about this.
And when you put that amount of mental work into something, your thoughts become realities.
And because I've put that effort in, this short break in consistency for me will end very abruptly and I'll be back in the swing of things full force instantly. Without crying, whining, or second guessing myself.
I have a saying that I was going to use in a business I start someday. I'm sure someone has already coined the phrase by now. But I've been saying it to the people in my life for a long while:
Dream It, Want It, Live It.
It's that simple.
Life is very short in the grand scheme of things. Being indecisive about what you want is absolutely devastating in my mind.
So my advice to you can be summed up in a single sentence:
Decide what you want and why you want it and attack it full steam ahead.
