"you're on a diet? you've got to be kidding me!"

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hey everyone,
i couldn't think of a good title for this, so here goes...
i've been eating quite healthy for a few months now though i don't consider it a diet, more like a life change since i don't plan on going back to my abysmal habits. But I'm getting pretty frustrated with all the pressure to cave in/weird looks and reactions i get from people when i say something like "naw i don't want any dessert, thanks". (i eat plenty of food, so i'm not anorexic, but it's all very healthy food, as far as i know...) I'm not trying to lose weight, simply maintain my slender physique while maybe getting toned up a bit with some exercise.

my question is this: what do you do to ward of the "oh c'mon, you know you want some" or constant nagging? I don't want to make it a big deal but somehow people seem to find it terribly interesting that i no longer eat certain foods. I had to tell my friend like 4 or 5 times the other day when he insisted he wanted to treat me to something at haagen daaz (sp?). I mean, i'm not irritated with anyone in particular, especially since most of these people mean well, but how do you just make it quick and to the point without having to be like "no thank you" a million times? :confused:

i consider myself a pretty decisive person so i'm not having trouble with willpower when it comes to this new approach to eating. i simply don't appreciate having my habits scrutinized/ridiculed by others. any suggestions for how to end a conversation about this if it comes up?

What do you all do? :p
 
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Use your new, finely tuned physique to kick their butt! ;) Just kidding...

If you explain something enough times to one person, they'll get it. Just inform them honestly that you're trying to eat better, and that it's not a one-time thing, but a life-changing event.

If you continuously prove this to them, they will get the point.

(...sooner or later...)
 
I say lie to them for a while, make up an excuse that your doctor told you to stop eating fine sugar and processes foods because your blood sugar levels were giving you headachces or something lol
 
Hmm, I'm trying to weigh (pun! ha!) the value of lying vs. telling the truth... Which is easier to maintain in the long run? If you're serious about doing this life change with your diet, sooner or later, you're gonna have to come clean.

(Besides, "Come on, just ONE piece of cake isn't gonna kill ya!" is a strong argument against a Doctor's ruling...)
 
Haha, it's funny that you should mention that b/c my suitemate this past year apparently had some condition that basically fits that description that you just made up. She said she'd get migraines if she ate any sugar so basically everything she ate was low-carb/sugar-free.

Is it bad that I'm wondering about the truth of it now, hehe ;)?
 
LOL it might be a good idea thou because friends can sometimes really try to hit you off the bandwagon and make it very hard for you to say no. It could just be tempoary before they got use to it. Then one night under a good atomsphere (preferly drinking) tell them you have a white lie to admit to them LOL
 
i've been doing this long enough for those that know me to know how i choose to eat. in the beginning, i got good support from others. those who didnt care for how i lived my life didnt stick around and i dont miss them one bit.

i told them i'm doing this to better myself, both inside and out. if that causes problems for them, so be it. funny, me not drinking all the time and not eating this and that put a hamper on them. :(
 
I tell them, "I'm not going to comment on your Coneys if you don't comment on my black bean salad." People hate to see others exhibiting more will power and control than themselves. I used to hide my lunch to avoid ridicule. Now I make a joke of it, and we all laugh me. It's better than feeling weird. Good for you for being healthy!
 
Ya i think they're jealous ... just stick to it and be like look man FOR REAL give me the respect i deserve for trying to better myself!! Really they're jsut seeing the problem in themselves and taking it out on u ... at least thats my opinion b/c i used to do that to skinny people and be like oh come on u dont need to diet u have my dredam body already!
 
heheh, thanks for the input! it never occurred to me that that might be the reason. Now when someone nags me about what i eat/don't eat, i'll just use it to make myself feel even better about what i'm doing. Might as well use it in a good way rather than get annoyed (although every now and then, getting somewhat irked cannot be helped, i suppose :p )

I'm the world's worst liar, so I'm not going to try that, but I will proudly tote my healthy meals wherever I go!
 
I have been going through the same thing, I am glad you posted. I've been contemplating posting about this. I mean "Why is everyone so concerned with what we do or do not eat?". Does it make their food tast different if we don't eat it too. It's very frustrating and sometimes makes me dread getting together with anyone in a meal type setting. Someone in an earlier post mentioned jealosy...I think thats true, sometimes I think it makes other people feel they don't have any will power and they would feel better about eating garbage if everyone in the room did the same thing....safety in numbers. I personally don't lie, I say "I don't eat ______ "(fill in the blank) and leave it at that. Then it is usually followed by a comment which I usually don't acknowlege.
 
its not only the eating part but the workout part too. when i'm out in my yard jumping rope or doing sled pulls or farmers walks, some ppl pass by and look at me as if i'm doing some ritual and trying to contact life on another planet or something.

these are the same ppl we never really see all that much. working in the yard, sitting in the yard, walking in the neighborhood, no dont see them. heaven forbid they might miss one second of a stupid popular reality tv show to actually experience having a real life.
 
Well, in some cases it might be jealousy, but I think there is also an element of justification. I mean, it's like, "Okay, this person looks fit/good/healthy/whatever, so if they eat ice cream/soda/junk, then it's fine for me to eat it too."
 
i have to agree about dreading meal socializing, but i've found that our close friends dont question it and are fine with whatever we eat. we just try and avoid the people that say things like "you dont need to watch what you eat" or make philosophical comments about there being no proof that people that eat right and exercise will live longer. sees like most people base everything on life length, when quality of life is what's most important, IMO. going thru life as a slob limits you in every way you can think of, but it's hard to explain that to your average person.
 
I don't have a big problem w/this, mostly b/c I stay at home w/the kiddos. But I think I'd prob ask them, "um, do you KNOW what you're eating" and go into a big diatribe of the nastiness of most processed foods lol.
 
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