Wondering if any ladies have experienced this before...

darkangel2

darkangel2

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... Because I certainly have and it's not something I've normally talked openly with people about... but I think it's true. Ladies, have you ever felt like other females (so-called friends, coworkers, etc.) attempt to 'sabotage' your weightloss? I have found other girls to be so jealous by nature and have experienced things such as: purposely ordering fatty foods and trying to taunt you with them, saying 'oh you don't need to lose weight' when you and everyone else know that you NEED to, trying to talk you into blowing off your diet for the weekend, and my all time favorite -- say I'm talking about a girl that's about average size, and I'm getting close to my goal, and closer to a comparable size to this girl. All of a sudden the girl will take up some aggressive carb free diet and start working out like crazy... Makes me feel sometimes like it's this huge competition and jesus who ever wins... Kind of reminds me of those friends that will tell you an outfit looks good on you when it doesn't -- to insure that she will look better than you when you guys go out. Hope I don't sound crazy and maybe this has happened to someone else. This is why for the most part, I prefer to surround myself with men. Less drama. :D
 
I mos def know what you mean. There was a woman who worked here in the office (she was fired recently thank god) that would go out and buy everyone fatty breakfast sandwiches in the morning and then order cobbler in the afternoon. We would all be eating and notice she wasn't partaking so we asked and she just said she didn't want any. Granted she didn't put a gun to our heads and I personally wouldn't make her feel bad for not having any but she was the only one ordering this crap (with no one asking her to) and would not eat a bite of it while encouraging us to eat it. She would do this at least 3 times a week too. She ended up getting fired for misusing the company credit card to the tune of 50K which included said fatty foods for the office. Personally I think she was having herself a good ole laugh about getting the whole office fat. I think everyone's lost at least 10 lbs since she's been fired. :rotflmao:

From what i have experienced misery certainly does love company.
 
I don't think this is just a female issue.

People try and bring me down wrt to my lifestyle often.

I laugh and point.
 
Sorry.. can't say I have

Ummm nope.... then again it's because I'm a bitch and let them know from the get-go not to "be an ass." HA!

-Sheryl
 
It's kind of one of those things were you can't be sure if they are actually doing it to make you fat or if you're being overly sensitive and they just feel like eating desserts. The thing is, it doesn't matter. It's all about free will. Just pretend they are the Devil. lol
 
Most of the people I hang out with are secure in their own skin and are really happy and excited for my boyfriend and me because we're making positive changes in our lives. However, we have these two friends (couple friends) with whom we regularly hang out. They are both overweight and have both probably gained 50 or more pounds each in the last five years. The woman half of the couple used to be thin and "cute" and now, well, now in addition to being overweight she is also really inactive and really unhealthy looking, more so than your average overweight person. Anyway, we eat out with them on the regular. So finally, after over a month of seeing them every other weekend, finally the guy half of the couple says, "Well, you guys are looking pretty good." (We've lost over 50 pounds combined.) Anyway, his girlfriend said nothing. She made no mention, no compliment. Then my boyfriend got up to go to the bathroom and the three of us started to walk out of the restaurant. Once we were out, I pulled out some whole wheat/fiber Wasa crackers (I wanted to eat them with my dinner because I didn't want the bread that came with my dinner.) Upon seeing this, the girl half of the couple made a shitty remark about my food choices and then she laughed. I turned to her and just said, "Man, laugh all you want. This and exercise is working for me." It totally pissed me off. I told my boyfriend that I don't think I want to eat with them for a while because I can't deal with stupid people who can't be happy for other people when those other people have successes.

My point is, try to avoid those people if you can.
 
I haven't had any active saboteurs I don't think - though I've only been at it a fortnight - though I am encouraged to binge drink. Kinda the main thing this group does for kicks.
 
I'd like to think that my friends and coworkers aren't sabotaging my weight loss. I'm 26 and worked with 3 women who were old enough to be my mother...I don't think petty jealousy was an issue. It's more like they just aren't considerate of my strict diet. The famous line "One won't hurt" is used too often. When I was still in the workplace (I'm a stay at home mom now) the people I worked with were all pretty health conscious, so over eating or eating ALL the wrong foods was never an issue....the problem was that we all loved chocolate and always had some on hand. If it was there, it was eaten...usually by me. It took a lot of effort not to go near the candy basket. I would have rather the candy basket not be there in the first place.
 
I have those friends who say "you look fine you dont need to lose weight" because I know that when I do lose the weight im gonna be a hot bitch! lol
and ther jelous!! I cant wait to rub it in their faces!! ANd prove to everyone that I CAN DO IT!!! haha this thread is awesome! :beating:
 
I have so many people in the past that have said oh no you don't need to lose weight or whatever but I'm like yes i do and i'm just going to prove to them that I can do it cause most think that i don't have the determination to lose the amount of weight that I want to achieve.
 
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