Why would this frustrate me soooooo much???

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bep

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A wee might of a rant ahead...

Someone I know has lost a little weight...not a ton, but some. She wasn't big to begin with, but she is a little slimmer now. She told me she started working on it about 1 1/2 yrs ago. Whatever. Anyway...we were chatting about weightloss and I happened to mention that my weight loss has slowed some lately. I only lost a total of 4 lbs last month and only about 3 or 4 so far this month. So...she starts going all on and on about portion control and am I taking my vitamins and what not. Now...she had this 'know-it-all' tone to her voice that instantly got my dander up, but I just shrugged it off and replied that I am counting calories and that is technically more important that just watching my portions (hey...if you stay in your calories, it would be pretty stinkin' difficult to go over in portion sizes). She instantly got all 'preachy' at me saying that calories have NOTHING to do with weight-loss and that it only has to do with portion control. Uh....hallow???? I tried to inform her about calories in vs cals out, but she refused to listen. Grrrrr....I did actually maintain a calm exterior, but inside I was boiling and still start to boiling every time I think about it. Ok...so tell me...why in the STINK would I care if she's confused about some stuff? Maybe because she is far slimmer than I am so therefore she feels she can tell me how to lose weight? I dunno...all I know is that it has TOTALLY irked me and I don't let things like this bother me. If someone doesn't know what they are talking about and they won't listen to reason, I just give up and let it go...it's not worth it. This time I just let it go, but my blood still curdles when I think about it.

I don't like talking about others on this forum, but this is soooo weight related so I decided to vent about it on here. If I am dead wrong on this, then just tell me and show me the proof of it...that is fine. I just have never heard of such a thing before. Seems to me that a quarter pounder with cheese is a smaller portion size than a grilled chicken salad...in her mind, I will lose more weight eating the burger than the salad.
 
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I think maybe the frustrating part for you is that she is far smaller than you... Bottom line, like you said, what could she possibly know about weight loss?
Okay so she lost a bit of weight... I think it's a lot easier to do for those people that are not huge to begin with. They can move and be active a lot easier!
I would like to see if she is able to keep the weight off in the long run?

Also, you have to think of it this way, you are on a far different weight loss plan than her. You are looking at long term lifestyle change, not a diet to lose a few pounds. Lifestyle change does not equal a diet, as we all know!!!
Next time someone like that gives us their "know it all attitude" just kindly say, "thanks anyway but I am trying to do this in a healthy, long term way!"

Anyway, take care!
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Who gives a rats behind what she thinks....I've long since given up on people who think that 'they know better' when they obviously don't. You know you're right and that's all that matters.

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Bep, she is wrong if she says calories have nothing to do with it....you should have asked her why smaller portions? She would have had to say LESS calories surley. Maybe she wants you to eat more junk food so that you will put weight back on.....now I'm starting to sound bitchy.:D
 
i hate those people too.

next time you see her, say hello, give her an excuse that you need to be somewhere else, and say bye.

i have to deal with tons of stupidity on a daily basis, everyone likes to be heard and everyone likes to feel like their helping.

her idea of helping just happened to piss you off and now you know she doesnt have her facts straight so you dont need to fill her in on your progress and your methods anymore.

you dont need to tell her shes wrong, even if she is.

just dont lose the truth to yourself and forget about it.
 
You know what's right! I think she has probably been reading online too much and not getting the big picture. You do have to portion your food to eat more frequently, fewer calories, and wha-la! you have yourself a weight loss strategy. I think she only has half a brain, as she only knows half the plan!
You are funny. Keep venting. We all know people like that.
 
Well you've lost almost 50 lbs so obviously you know what you're talking about! Like people said, you've got this under control, you know what you're doing and you're looking at long term life changes!
If she thinks that portion control is the only important thing than she's definately not seeing the big picture!
In the end, you'll have lost more weight and will maintain a healthier lifestyle, so try not to let her bother you. I mean, I'd let it bother me so I know it's easier said than done. Hopefully you wont feel so bad, soon :)
 
Why don't you ask her to eat a 1/2 cup of lard instead of a cup of carrots and then have her tell you that portion control is everything.
 
Bep...i know EXACTLY how you feel. My mom always trys to give me advice but she's 6 foot and a size 4. She knows nothing about loosing weight. Obviously your friend dosen't either. Let it roll :)
 
when the atkins diet was all the rage... people would profess about how much they lost by eating all the meat they wanted blah blah blah. and got really evangelical about it.. downright annoying in fact.. there was a comedian who said (and I can't recall who said it) was that people didn't lose weight on atkins by eating meat.... they lost weight by continually flapping their gums about how effective atkins was and it didn't give them time to eat.

I think it has been medically proven the only way to lose weight is to burn off more caloris than you consume... to find out how many calories you consume it's either counting calories or by using the 'points' system by weight watchers which is really counting calories based on the formula they use to get to the points per item.

What nutritionists will tell you, is any diet that cuts out entire food groups isn't healthy and that portion control is important but portion control is what gets you to the right amount of calories... you could eat 12 pounds of tomatoes a day and come in under your calorie count, or 4 hamburgers and come in under your calorie count, but youd get bored witht hat in a hurry.. a little bit of everything and counting is the way to go.

I think everyone who loses weight fancies themself as an expert (I know I get like that sometimes) based on what works for them... but what it comes down to is calories... tell her to eat ac ookie and hush :D
 
Ahh those are just one of those "thinner" people who think they got it all because they're smaller. I know how you feel, i got those people comming at me with ideas EVERYDAY telling me how i should lose weight yet i was already losing weight just fine, this was two years ago, now that i've gained a whole bunch back i didn't even tell anyone im trying to lose weight and excercising everday, that way all of them can leave me the heck alone and let me do this the way it suits me best, and you should do the same simply smile and say "well good for you, get out of my way!!!"
 
You've taken the time to educate yourself on healthy eating, you've worked hard to lose the weight you've lost and for someone who hasn't had the same challenges and issues you have, and hasn't done the research you have, and hasn't worked it like you have to come in all authoritive and tell you how wrong you are - yeah, I can see why that would frustrate you. It's just one of those things you've got to file in the "yeah whatever" category.
 
I've got news for you. Losing weight is so easy!! I know because I've done it many times. Keeping weight off is very very tough. There are so many ridiculous ways to lose weight, but to me the only thing that will keep it off is to actually successfully change your lifestyle. Doing it by counting calories is a lot easier than avoiding whole groups of food. People love getting preachy about things they think they know something about, but they rarely do.
 
Why don't you ask her to eat a 1/2 cup of lard instead of a cup of carrots and then have her tell you that portion control is everything.
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That killed me! This is why she got your dander up. She's not the brighest bulb in chandelier.
 
ha ha ha this is cracking me up, so can i eat 1/2 cup of frosting in stead of my 1/2 cup of cottage cheese and 1/4 cup of pinapple for a snack tonight? what a dork, just blow her off if you have lost 50 pounds you have it figured out man go with it.
 
I know that I'm the kind of person that seeths on things...goes over conversations in my head about what I should have said or what I'm going to say next time kind of thing....I've actually kept myself up at night going through all these stupid scenarios and you know what...it's a waste of time. What's done is done and you can't change it so...just blow 'er off and keep on doin' what you're doin'.

Now, I should really remember to take my own advice. :)
 
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