what do your partners think

bexxx

bexxx

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bit of a weird question but what does everyones partners think about them loosing weight. i starting to feel like mine doesnt fancy me anymore. hes supportive and that but he does try to sabbotage me but i know hes doing it so i just take no notice now. xx
 
If he's trying to sabotage you then that's a problem. You need to talk to him about it and find out why- he shouldn't try to deceive you into doing things (like eating food not on your diet) against your will. In fact, if you think he finds you less attractive you should talk to him, period.

Actually, I'll emphasise this. If he's trying to sabotage you then he's not supportive, in fact the very opposite.

My boyfriend's very good about it. He says he'd love me at any size (he admits that if I got too big I'd be less attractive, but he says I've never been that big that he's known of; and that if I got too thin and I didn't listen to him he'd drag me to the kebab shop and force me to eat- I agree with him on this) and my happiness is more important than his preferences. We're very open about it and I've asked him to tell me if he thinks my habits are unhealthy or my goals are unrealistic (so far, the only thing he's unhappy about is that I refuse to eat out because I can't calorie count it).

Actually, my only real problem with my boyfriend and weight loss is that he's not putting enough effort into his own weight loss- his is a health concern.
 
amy1985 said:
If he's trying to sabotage you then that's a problem. You need to talk to him about it and find out why- he shouldn't try to deceive you into doing things (like eating food not on your diet) against your will. In fact, if you think he finds you less attractive you should talk to him, period.

Actually, I'll emphasise this. If he's trying to sabotage you then he's not supportive, in fact the very opposite.

My boyfriend's very good about it. He says he'd love me at any size (he admits that if I got too big I'd be less attractive, but he says I've never been that big that he's known of; and that if I got too thin and I didn't listen to him he'd drag me to the kebab shop and force me to eat- I agree with him on this) and my happiness is more important than his preferences. We're very open about it and I've asked him to tell me if he thinks my habits are unhealthy or my goals are unrealistic (so far, the only thing he's unhappy about is that I refuse to eat out because I can't calorie count it).

Actually, my only real problem with my boyfriend and weight loss is that he's not putting enough effort into his own weight loss- his is a health concern.
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aww he sounds lovely!
i wish mine was suppportive like that thing that annoys me is that he is bigger than me and eats so unhealthy and dontseem to care guess its upto him though =D
 
Don't worry about what he does in terms of your own weight loss goals, unless he's trying to make you eat fatty food or is a bad influence (then you need to talk to him- my boyfriend, for example, now doesn't eat fatty food around me, and when he's at my place eats pretty much what I'm eating, which is good for him and supports me. That's probably more than average when it comes to support though). What he puts into his body is ultimately his business. You can make suggestions to try to help him but at the end of the day you can't make him eat like you (and he probably has different needs so that would be a bad idea anyway). It frustrates me because in my case my boyfriend does want to lose weight, but won't make the changes. Can't make him, as you say. I think I've already done what I can and have to leave it at that.
 
My boyfriend is an athlet. He's a football player. He's incredibly fit (and beautiful, i have to say:coolgleamA:).

He never complained about my weight but, inside me, i knew that he wasn't happy about this.

Now that i'm thinner, he always says to me that i'm beautiful, sexy, incredible and blablabla. :Angel_anim:
Now we workout togheter and it's one of the thing i love the most
 
My husband is supportive as well. Sometimes he worries about me not eating enough too (I told him I was going to start calorie counting again). He has voiced his opinion that he doesn't want me to get "too skinny" or I'd be unattractive to him. I have a realistic goal, so that won't happen.
 
Like Amy said, you definitely need to speak with him. Key to a happy relationship is communication, honesty and support!
xx
 
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