Weight loss: The unwritten rules...

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The more I lose, the more "unwritten" fat loss rules I encounter....like, if you are heavier than your 'heavy' co-worker, the day you're smaller than that co-worker, that co-worker receives a liscense from the 'fat fairy' to sabotage your diet, and criticize your exercise efforts. Who knew such rules existed.

Or the 'permission' rule...where people ask you if they can eat in front of you cause you might be tempted, like if they're having a slice of pizza, they're paranoid that you might suck down a whole pie because god forbid they ate it in front of you, afterall, you're losing weight so you must have no control, right? (LOL)

I'm sure there are several more of these funny "rules" out there.

What "unwritten" rules have you experienced and what did you do to counteract them?
 
LOL I agree with you on the sabotage, though not in the same way. My brother in laws.. and even my husband sometimes, offer me crap that they know I will not touch anymore. And tease me about having real Pepsi, god it's been over a year since I've had the real stuff.

I will have to think about this one. ;)
 
i work in customer service unfortunately :cuss: after weight loss, ive noticed that people of the same gender (females) are a lot more snobbier and rude towards me. i guess when i was bigger i was easier to identify with, or maybe they were nicer to me because they felt bad for me? could be something totally subconcious though too. anyone else experienced this?
 
It's pure, pure jealousy. They felt they were above you or better than you before because of your physical differences, and now they are threatened by you...

I used to get it often that I will more likely go up to a fat person to make friends than a thin one, as fat people seemed more approachable and friendly (sort of like, you can SEE they have issues on the outside, so then they seem normal and just like you...)

I find it difficult to shake the preconception that skinny people are obnoxious and spoilt... whoah, this belongs in the "Fera of thin" thread now... maybe I don't want to become obnoxious...

Hmmm, interesting.
 
amagheti said:
i work in customer service unfortunately :cuss: after weight loss, ive noticed that people of the same gender (females) are a lot more snobbier and rude towards me. i guess when i was bigger i was easier to identify with, or maybe they were nicer to me because they felt bad for me? could be something totally subconcious though too. anyone else experienced this?
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It's because previously they did not see you as a threat and now they do. It's their hangup and if they're willing to treat you differently because of your weight, you don't need them.
 
txsqlchick said:
It's because previously they did not see you as a threat and now they do. It's their hangup and if they're willing to treat you differently because of your weight, you don't need them.
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yeah i know i dont need them but unfortunately my job requires me to deal with these people on a regular basis so i guess i'll tough it out. i just never expected this to happen as a by-product of the weight loss thats all. otherwise it doesnt bother me too much and i dont let it get to me.
 
I have a patient that comes to clinic and everytime she checks in she asks me "how much weight have you lost now" really loudly so all the other patients can hear her. I never answer her because the only reason she says it is because she knew me when I was at my heaviest and she just wants to let all the other patients in the waiting room to know I used to be really fat, instead of just chubby. Her way of humiliating me. I'm tempted to say really loudly "Oh, I'm fine, are you here for your refill on your herpes meds?" LMAO!
 
Iwan naloseit said:
I have a patient that comes to clinic and everytime she checks in she asks me "how much weight have you lost now" really loudly so all the other patients can hear her. I never answer her because the only reason she says it is because she knew me when I was at my heaviest and she just wants to let all the other patients in the waiting room to know I used to be really fat, instead of just chubby. Her way of humiliating me. I'm tempted to say really loudly "Oh, I'm fine, are you here for your refill on your herpes meds?" LMAO!
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LOL, I wish you could say that; that would be hilarious.

I can't stand people who are so bitchy like that. Ugh!
 
the rules are none, only the rules you make for yourself, regardless of what others do, no one should have to ask, or be rude to eat in front of you, you can go out an walk around the building or something, It depends also on what you want to do for yourself, no one can do this but your, you want to be healthy and feel better, No one needs a whole pie, that isn't a rule thats a will of ways.
You decide what is right for you an that is your rule. The rules are not necessarily fair, but the rules you make for yourself are for sure the ones that count. we are all different or have different ideas. Pizza is bread and like the bread turns to sugar, hum, and the pie is already made of sugar, so the more you eat of it the more body weight you will maintain, it makes you tired, and sluggish. Your rule do what you think is best and yield not to temptation of high carb foods, Its okay, to say hey that looks good and take a piece, and control ones on self. You don't have to eat it. but if you want to make your own rules you have to do what you think is best for yourself, that being your own rules, everyone needs their own rules, and cohesive rules when you have co workers who go by other or different rules of their own. It looks good but Do I need it really!??
 
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