Weight loss buddies- Best to stay with the same gender

[Aphrodite1]

I notice females tend to be more drawn to emotional eating, I myself being one of them. The guys around me, it isn't 'emotional eating' perse, but they have their own set of reasons.
I started out trying to lose weight with my boyfriend, I was exercising, eating right, did everything strict militant style when we first started out. I educated myself to no end. I did lose weight and it started out swell. Keeping it off with no problem. HOWEVER, lol, my boyfriend was losing it FASTER.. MUCH faster. It was very discouraging as I was waiting to see results and everything was happening gradually, while his was falling right off while not doing nearly as much as me.
This is why I feel females should stick with females as weight loss buddies, and males should stick with males as the makeup is a bit different and progress can be drastic : ) I always preach never comparing yourself to others but it should never get to the point where in your mind whether it be subconscious, or conscious, that it turns into a competition xx

 

[toolips]

i'm doing my weightloss with my sister and mom. i've lost 3 lbs in 2 weeks, my sister lost 3lbs but gained it back after one day (?) she went for blood tests to see if its a thyroid problem. unfortunately shes so discouraged she's been eating junk for 3 days straight. i keep trying to motivate her but no dice on that.

my mom hasnt lost a single pound so i feel bad for her aswell. but they are still a really great support system for me. hahaha same with my dad. i got lazy and said "i dont know if i wanna goto the gym today" and a "dont start losing motivation already" from him made me get in my car and drive to the gym.

but other than all these problems, i agree. girls are great to workout/lose weight with. im gonna get them motivated next week and we'll see how its going.

 

[amy1985]

I'm actually not too sure about that. I've heard stories of women competing with each other in terms of weight loss and it getting catty. I'm trying to lose weight with my boyfriend, and yes, he loses weight much faster than me with much less effort (or fails to gain weight despite cheating on the diet, bastard), but I know that men tend to lose weight faster than women (and people with more to lose lose faster than those with less to lose). So I don't try to compete with him, as it's just not practical. We complement each other and are able to help each other with our very different attitudes to food (it's actually him that emotionally eats out of the two of us).

 

[fortyfour]

I never had a weight loss buddy. I don't feel the need. Although a friend of mine is doing it at the same time. And occasionally we discuss it. WE are going about it in such different ways we are bound to have different results. But hte idea of competition with weight loss - even if you are not trying to compete - is a real danger zone i think.

You can't help but compare who's losing more. And its a shame to do that becuase there are reasons why one person will lose weight faster than another even if you were all eating exactly the same.

People have different metabolisms and how much activity you do in a day will affect these things. Men lose weight faster because they have faster metabolisms than us because they tend to carry more muscle naturally than women.

I think its a shame your sister and mother have given up already. Perhaps just encourage them and don't do it together. But in the end, its going to be have to be something they want to do themselves.

The thing is, they've both given up much too early. That's the problem with hopeing for big results really quickly. I know its normal to expect it but it can take a while for people to find the right amount of food they should be eating and also get their exercise thing happening.

People need to be kinder to themselves and have a little bit more patience with the weight loss process. Expecting a certain result is dooming you to failure.

A lot of success in weight loss comes from how we think.