Weight loss and socialising

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Lilith1

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Does anyone have a problem mixing the two? I practically have to become a hermit in order to lose weight, this primarily is because my friends seem to drink and party a lot so I make up lots of excuses why I can't go. It is a bit boring sitting at home on my own but I have made friends with some ladies who are slightly older than me and we see a lot of movies. There's always the internet hohum :toetap05:
 
Sounds like you need to make some new friends that share similar healthy interests! I prefer to workout on my own but I have recently made some IRL friends who are also interested in living a healthy life. It's nice to have a balance of the crazy friends and the down to earth friends.
I don't think there is anything wrong with internet friends as long as you are not totally consumed by them.
 
Lilith said:
Does anyone have a problem mixing the two? I practically have to become a hermit in order to lose weight, this primarily is because my friends seem to drink and party a lot so I make up lots of excuses why I can't go. It is a bit boring sitting at home on my own but I have made friends with some ladies who are slightly older than me and we see a lot of movies. There's always the internet hohum :toetap05:
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I used to have this problem until I realized no one is forcing beers down my throat. If I want to go out and enjoy a drink or 2, I can do with with a clean conscious. I bet your friends really wont mind/notice if you stay sober while they get drunk.

So go out and enjoy! This is a lifestyle change - make it how you want to live it!
 
I totally agree with Andy. But also it doens't hurt to widen your social horizons and do activities that don't revolve around drinking and eating so much. Try a new sport - bush walking, swimming club or something.

The internet is only for those of us who don't care about not having a social life or for people who use it to relax.
 
I haven't tried this specifically in the context of losing weight, but I have something like this problem with alcohol because I can't handle very much of it. No one I've socialised with has seriously noticed (or if they have, particularly cared) that I've been nursing that drink for an hour (they do rib me when I follow up with water, but that's what it takes to stop me getting seriously plastered, and when they're sober they care more about my safety- so I can put up with them ribbing me when they're a bit out of it). The other thing you could do (to a point) is save some of your intake for the night out (for me it's calories- so have a slightly less calorific breakfast and lunch, cut down a bit on the snacks, and then I have a 300-400 extra calories to play with for going out). Or plan your meals out (if you're going to a place with nutrition posted, choose a less damaging option from what's there), or eat before you go so you don't have to have a kebab or who knows what else that's 2000 calories a hit.
 
I have the same issue, drink wise I can either be driver or just have two all night so it's ok. When the socialising is meals out that's when it really gets bad!!!!!

So frustrating!!

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Lilith said:
Does anyone have a problem mixing the two? I practically have to become a hermit in order to lose weight, this primarily is because my friends seem to drink and party a lot so I make up lots of excuses why I can't go. It is a bit boring sitting at home on my own but I have made friends with some ladies who are slightly older than me and we see a lot of movies. There's always the internet hohum :toetap05:
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Just because you go out with your friends, it doesn't mean you have to drink or party.

And, why make excuses? Just tell them you're trying to lose some weight to get healthy and tell them you don't feel like going out and drinking that night. If they're your friends, they'll understand. Or, like I said before, just go out with them but don't throw your day away by drinking a lot.
 
I agree with Chef--You should just be honest about your weight loss. I find it hard when my friends want to grab dinner/drinks as I just sit and watch them eat and get drunk some of the time which sucks. I just try to fit it into my normal calories, even if that means having very small meals for breakfast and lunch and being very good the next day!!
 
There have already been a lot of great suggestions here including getting your friends out to a different setting than the bar/club where the focus is not on drinking and eating, expanding your social circle to include more people with similar interests, and plain old will power.

My preferred method is to talk about your situation with your friends. Make them aware of what changes you are making to your diet and what your goals are then tell them you would like them to help hold you accountable. You will likely still get a little pressure here and there, it just seems natural for some friends and family to do so, but if they are people you should even have in your life they will be supportive for the most part. It has worked really well for me and drinking. I talked about my problem with all my close friends and family, the changes I was making in my drinking habits including my goals, and asked them to help hold me accountable when we go out. This meant I was no longer relying on my own will power, I had people around me who would be constant reminders to my goals even if only passively by asking how my progress was coming along.
 
I ran into this a lot while I was losing my weight too. I ended up being unhappy, feeling like I was missing out when I didn't go out with my friends. The fact is, what if you DO go out with your friends and drink once in a while? What will it do? If you are eating healthy the other 6 days of the week, the most it will do is slow down your weight loss. You can't tell your body how fast to lose weight anyway. So what if it takes another 2 months, or even 6 months to hit your goal? I would rather lose weight slower, and be happy, then lose weight quickly, and be miserable!
 
There is no reason to put your life on hold just because you are trying to lose weight. You need to work towards a lifetime solution.

When I go out, it is usually for drinks so it is relatively easy to avoid food. In addition, I may compensate a bit the next day. When I go out for dinner, I avoid carbs and rich sauces.
 
Abel...you say the same thing on every post. Find somewhere else to peddle your spam.

"Plaudite, amici, comedia finita est."
 
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