Wanting to Be Fatter

[ChefChiTown]

Earlier on someone posted asking if children should be removed from anorexic mothers (obviously she did not think so).

Every mother/parent/adult has issues which will (sadly) affect their children. Whether it is depression, anger, selfishness, etc., being human means we all have baggage. However, addictions and eating disorders (which I would put in the same category) seem different to me.

Severe eating disorders (anorexia and morbid obesity) lead ultimately to death. Kids in these homes are watching it happen, slowly, to their parents. Not to mention the twisted ideas they will also likely develop regarding nutrition. Any kid being raised by an "addict" is being neglected as the parent is consumed by his/her addiction.

I don't say that removing the child is the only option, but I certainly do think early intervention (possibly including removal) is the best option.

JM2C
ABBAgirl

Smoking kills millions of people and ultimately leads to death, so should we remove children from the houses that have parents who smoke?

How would you rather have her address the matter? You can't put icing and sprinkles on everything. The situation sucks and therefore some of the actions that may or may not follow suck. No one has to acknowledge that taking a child out of their family home is hard. It's fairly obviously.

You can't put icing and sprinkles on it because the mother would just eat it.

Wait, what?

I wasn't implying she put icing and sprinkles on it. I was implying that taking children out of the home is more serious than she made it sound.

I know what you were trying to say.

 

[PaperAirPlanes]

What about if there is a fully capable father figure around in the same household?

Do you remove the children when the father has done nothing wrong?
What if he falls to guilt towards his wife, do you remove the father too?

I think instead of removing children because of only one of the parents, they should stick the person with the serve disorder/problem/issue/etc into a rehab type place. Or to put them through intense home psychological therapy.

 

[Guest]

Wait, what?

I wasn't implying she put icing and sprinkles on it. I was implying that taking children out of the home is more serious than she made it sound.

This is what she said:
I don't say that removing the child is the only option, but I certainly do think early intervention (possibly including removal) is the best option.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~That was serious. She didn't state all in all, she said if it came down to it, that is the best outcome. The child is already suffering from on-going long term psychological effects.

Believe me, it is not fun to be the parent at age 6, when your mom is almost a child in herself. Only now have the roles slightly reversed.

 

[Guest]

What about if there is a fully capable father figure around in the same household?

Do you remove the children when the father has done nothing wrong?
What if he falls to guilt towards his wife, do you remove the father too?

I think instead of removing children because of only one of the parents, they should stick the person with the serve disorder/problem/issue/etc into a rehab type place. Or to put them through intense home psychological therapy.

I think all that would be looked into. AND that is not what was stated about removing a child because only one parent was incapable of handling their environment.

It is very difficult, the whole situation would have to be looked at. All the bits and pieces. I would think both parent's would have some sort of psychological testing done. You know even if the child HAD to be removed from both parent's ( or if there were only one parent ( in general)) they may look to see whom is next in kin. Maybe on a good side of things the child could stay within in the family. You never know, the list goes on. It would be splitting hairs.

It would most likely be ordered by law that the mother, would be sent to treatment or it would come to her. Whether she be morbidly obese, or have other "illnesses."

 

[wishes]

ok end of subject - everyone is entitled to their opinion thanks

Back onto subject, we all agree that its a really crappy life to lead wanting to be fatter, but im sure others think otherwise on that also

 

[ChefChiTown]

ok end of subject - everyone is entitled to their opinion thanks

NO THEY'RE NOT!!!

(See what I did there? Yeah...)

 

[Guest]

ok end of subject - everyone is entitled to their opinion thanks

No doubt, end of subject, erm....it is all related. It's all about learning.

 

[ok4444]

ha ha, that is really funny. u have people of all sorts these days!

 

[zephyr]

Oh I saw this episode. I couldn't believe it. Apparently she wanted to break the "heaviest person" record if I heard correctly. That's why she wants to be 1000 pounds. This is something I will never understand.

 

[maverick2]

Eating disorders are a contagious mental illness. Not contagious in the sense of genetics, but in the sense of environmental proximity. Every girl I know who has an eating disorder (I'm thinking of four) was raised by a mother with the exact same one. Coincidence? I seriously doubt it. Because all mothers and fathers pass their own psychological issues on to their children, either deliberately or not.

Raising a kid around an anorexic (or a person who is pro morbid obesity, or a bulimic, or a compulsive overeater) is like raising a kid around a methhead. How long do you think it will take before the kid picks up the pipe (or that extra Big Mac, 'cause Mommy says that fat is pretty?)

So yeah...I do support taking children away from people with mental illnesses, eating disorders included. Especially in cases where they refuse to help themselves (aka not take their medication, not go to therapy, not take care of themselves, not go to rehab, etc...)

It's an extremist position, but it's the one I take according to my personal experiences. People who are slowly killing themselves should have the decency not to do it in front of their kids. And I don't think society should let them.

I think when it comes down to it that removal to next-of-kin is less damaging than watching your mother or father kill him/herself. It's like amputation versus gangrene - which do you think is gonna heal first?

I fetch-and-carry for my mother because she's too obese to comfortably manage the stairs. I have been doing this for years.

I have been there.