Too fat to fit in

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~Samantha~

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Hi! My name is Samantha, and this is my first time ever on a support group site. I have 3 children, and lots of body fat to prove it! Before I had my kids, I was a perfect size 5. Now, (honestly) I can't seem to find anything that fits. I wiegh a whopping 215 pounds, and have never been so depressed. I can't even look at myself in the mirror anymore. I wonder how my husband can look at me and still find me attractive.

I have tried exercising. I have recently moved to this neighborhood, and don't really know anyone. I did find one person that walks around our neighborhood daily, but I can't seem to find the time to get out there with him because he walks at such odd hours. I have a bow flex and some sort of Tony Little exercise machine ( I forget the name of it) but I can't seem to get motivated enough to get started.

I love food. I eat all the time, and sometimes I realize that I'm not even hungry. I still continue to eat. I need help. I need to hear success stories I guess. I want to know that I'm not alone, and that others have been where I'm at. Please, I don't want pitty, but some sort of reasurance. Validation I guess. Does anyone else feel this way?

Samantha
 
You'll find that binge eating is something that most of us face on a daily basis, and it's something that we try to not do... You are not alone in how you are feeling...

You are not alone in wanting to do something about it, coming here is a good start...
you might want to start a diary to track your progress... as well as some sort of food journal where you can honestly track your calories....

Welcome to the site.. support and encouragement are yours for the taking, pity - eh - not so much... :)

make yourself comfortable and get ready to make some changes...
 
Wow- Thanks so much for replying. The reply in itself put a smile on my face. I have thought about keeping a journal of my daily routine, but honestly I think I just didn't want to see the reality of it all.

This may sound silly, but I gave up something dear to me just last week. I love soda. Pepsi was my reason for getting out of bed (LOL not really) and I gave it up. I realized it was keeping me from loosing wieght. I am currently only drinking water. Maybe that's a start huh?
 
that's an awesome start... :) think of all the calories you will save there :) not to mention the extra calories burned from the extra trips to the restroom :)
 
Pop is a really hard one to stop... because of the caffene. Its an addiction. Your doing well. I started out at 230 lbs... so I know where you are at... and am down to 167.5 right now (I swear 2 lbs of that is water weight!) So it can be done. I love food aswell... but my secret weapon to stoping eating is gum. I stick it in my mouth.. chew chew chew.. and it keeps me from sticking food in my face.
 
Welcome to the forum! There are many of us on here who feel the same way or felt the same way at one point so you are not alone. I would recommend that you start a diary so that everyone can get to know you better and have a place to offer support. Good luck! :D
 
Welcome! :D Hypo Hippo is right, a diary is a great way to start. Whenever i feel like i'm going to eat or drink something that I will regret later on, I just climb up all the stairs and come to my computer and right in my diary. Evetually as the posts accumulate, you can look at all of your accomplishments and they will stop you from committing tiny mistakes because you'll realize you haven't worked that hard to give up that easily :) good luck and i'm looking forward to seeing you acheive your goals :cool:
 
Yeah, being big has given me low confidence, so I find it hard to fit in too. I always think that others look at me and think about my weight inside their head.

Well...

That was the old me. Hopefully by my birthday I will be much healthier, and never give a darn about what people think ever again!

:D
 
Hey Samantha, you know what??? You fit in here no matter how much you weigh. That is what we are all about. Everyone is accepted. You made a great decision by registering here. We all will rock your world. ;) Have a great day and post often. :D
 
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You all are so sweet here. I never thought I'd go anywhere that I didn't get made fun of! I'm shocked, and Happy. I do want to post more. I want to get to know everyone. I have some questions though.
Can anyone tell me what I should be/not be eating?
What is a great way to get started?
What exercise works the best? ( I have a 15 month old, so my options are limited)
What's this diary you all talk about? Is it like keeping a journal of the things I eat?
 
the diary is in the diary portion of this site... you write - thoughts - menus- goals - dreams - bitches - whines - you name it - you write.. we comment :) and encouage and stuff... :)

I would encourage you to get an online food journal that you are really honest with keeping - they help to calculate your totals and well they can seeshow you where your calories are going... www.fitday.com and www.sparkpeople.com are two pretty good ones but there are hundreds out there... since you mentioned binge eating, you might also want to record your feelings wheny ou are eating to see if you can help get tot he bottom of some of your less than desirable habits...
 
As for what you should or should not be eating, that's as varied as the people in here. Some people count calories, some count points, some are on special diets. It's more of what works for you. The same goes for exercise. If you go to the diary portion of the site you can check out other people's diary's and see if there's anything there that might work for you.
 
First we need to know what you are looking for.. and what your comfortable doing. What kind of exercise do you like? Where do you like it.. at home.. outside... or a gym? For food what do you perfer doing, counting calories.. not counting calories.. high protein.. low carbs.. low sugar.. low sodium.. or a specific diet plan?
 
Welcome to the forum! I agree with the others, you should start a dirary. Its a place just for you to write anything you want in it. Feelings, the ups and downs of dieting, anything you want. We'll all be here to support you, and don't be afraid to look in the mirror. You are a beautiful woman, (we all are) and taking charge of your life and eating will make you feel so much better! Welcome!
 
Hi Samantha,

I am a binger too. I have only really had one time that I have "binged" in the last 6 weeks and that particular incident was not even bad compared to what I have done in the past. What I have done is told myself that food is only nutrition and I don't really need all that much of it. It has been hard work. There were times when I first started I would actually get angry because I couldn't eat something. I believe the reason for that was that I use food for things I shouldn't use it for. I would eat if I was bored, tired, mad, happy etc.... Once you stop doing that, you can only be successful. Just be patient and stick to your guns. Before you stick food in your mouth, think about what you really want or need. I think you will find that there is another issue. It could be that you are anxious about something etc...

You can do it!

I have only lost 17 lbs so far, but I can tell you that mentally I have totally changed my life by changing how I think about food. I know it will be a permanent. It will take me a long time and I will have days where I totally blow it, but it can be done.

Oh, yes...and drink a ton of water.

Good Luck.
 
Hello and welcome to the forum, Samantha :D One thing I notice is missing from your "don'ts" is SODIUM. Its a killer of all diets since it causes water retention therefore a "gain" on the ol' evil box that we all love to hate. Its in EVERYTHING practically. Diet soda included. COntrol your sodium and your caloric intake. Also sugars, including those in juices, can be a major saboteur. Binging is a common, though rarely mentioned, "condition" that is definitely possible to beat :D My first suggestion is to find a new 'habit' to take up that keeps your hands and mind busy. Take the wee one for a walk ( hey nobody said you had to run a race) or outside to play to get away from the temptation. Also, in the CLUB section there is a place for Binge eaters. Take a visit, if you haven't already, and peek at what helps those there :D

Hope this helps :D Please feel free to PM me at anytime for anything :D
 
Everyone here is terrific. I never thought there was so much support out there, let alone people like myself. It seems we all have something in common, and that is to beat this weight thing! I have in fact wrote down a lot of things you all have told me. I appreciate everything, and the suggestions are much welcomed!
I know this may sound silly, but I was actually comparing myself to my long time friend whom is an alcoholic. He no longer drinks ( 5 years sober) but he states once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. So, I thought, well I'm an eater. Once an eater, always an eater. I know I can over come this. I have done something that I've never done until now. I have changed my way of thinking. I have it drilled into my brain that I can do this. It's slow getting started I guess because until I actually see results, I feel like I'm getting nowhere. Is this common? Thanks for everything so far!
 
Hey Samantha,

I totally agree gum, gum, and more gum it helps me alot I find if my mouth is already busy that I can't stick food in it. Also I find sometimes I think I am hungry when really I am thirsty it helps to drink.

I know all about binging also, however when I was younger I also sat on the other side of the fence and didn't eat making myself anorexic. Now I am just trying to be healthy. Trying is a big word also since I was the had to have a 6 or 12 pack of mountain dew a day and a pack or 2 of reeses to go along with it kinda girl. However now it's protein shakes and bars, fruit,veggies and tons of water for me.

Good luck to you and I hope to get to know you better. BTW ty for answering my post :)
 
Make a list of stuff to do instead of eating such as:
-Clean around the house
-Take a shower ( I know everyone does this but I mean, it gets your mind off of food for a good 30 minutes! )
-Read a book/magazine
-Find a game you like and play it in your spare time
-Watch a good movie

just stuff like that to get your mind off of food. I always have to say to myself "Meaghan, there is more to life than just food." In my point of view, food is like a habit, and breaking it is as hard as breaking any other habit out there, but you have to do it to stay healthy! I wish you luck and I'm sure you'll get to your goals as soon as you know it, just find a diet plan that works for you!
 
you have got some good ideas i will have to try them but i need more will power i am going round in circles though becuase i hate the way i loook after having my baby so i eat more to confort myself but then i want to loose weight so i try to stop eating exercising then nothing happens so i get upset and depressed and confort eat. see my problem? how are things for you though?
 
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