They are all out to get me...

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Carthonn

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Call me paranoid or insane but sometimes I think the people around me are sometimes trying to sabotage me. Two of my friends are currently my roommates and it seems like whenever I say "No thanks" to let's say ice cream, buttered pop corn, any other junk food they offer me they give me lip (for example I usually get the "just take some" line). I can only say no so many times.

Like today I said that I didn't want the smores they were making and later one of them comes up to me with half a candy bar and says "Here ya go". What the hell am I supposed to do now. So I ate it of course.

I'm pretty sure I made it obvious I'm trying to limit my calories and I'm pretty sure one of my friends is too. What gives? It just really makes me angry. :nopity:
 
Oh peer pressure...Thats a tough one. If you can resist, I'd say just keep saying no. Otherwise, next time they push I think you may have to be blatantly honest with them. Tell them why you're cutting calories, that its really important to you, good for your health etc, and when they keep pushing junk food it is hard to say no and therefore ruins it for you. I think if they know how much it bugs you they will stop.
 
Yikes, been there! Actually... Wait... I'm still there. My hubby does that to me all the time. I know though that the reason he does it is because he feels bad when he's eating something he knows I like, but I can't have it. The way I look at it is that it just makes me stronger every time I say no... And then no again... And again. I think he's learned to just ask me once and if I say no, then that's it. Some of my friends on the other hand... I would go to their house and every few minutes they would bring out a snack and I'd end up saying no thanks. It got to the point where they figured out I was being very strict about my diet, and they don't offer me any snacks any more. I think what you have to do is just stand your ground. I don't think your friends are meaning any harm in offering you all this stuff. Just stand your ground! I know it's hard. And I agree with the post above... Explain to them how absolutely important it is for you to keep your diet. I'm sure they will understand. =D
 
I do want to be honest but one of them is overweight also and I don't want to think I'm trying to hurt their feelings. She can get pretty sensitive about her weight. That's another reason why I sometimes feel bad about saying no so much.
 
This might sound kind of harsh, but misery loves company. While there's a chance your friends are just being generous, there's also a chance that, deep down, they don't want to see you succeed. Especially if you're succeeding in an area where they have failed.

If she sees you're trying to do something about your weight, she might not be overtly sabotaging you, but subconsciously she might want you to give up, so she will have someone to sympathize with about her own weight problems.

All you can do is keep saying no and resist with all your might when something is offered to you! You are not being rude by turning it down, only protecting your own self interests. Eventually, if you're consistent, they'll get the point.

On the other hand, if you cave in occasionally or often, the attempts at "sabotage" will increase drastically. I have family that does this kind of stuff ALL THE TIME. They don't mean to do it to be cruel or anything, they're just killing you with kindness. Heck, I have a grandmother who drops rolls and doughnuts and other stuff like that on your plate without even asking you if you want any!

Another trap is, "Here, help finish this so I don't have to put any away."
Or, "One [piece/scoop/slice] isn't going to kill you!"
Or the guilt-inducing, "Don't you think it's any good?"

You just have to stick it out and be firm. Let people know you're trying to lose weight, if you haven't already. Sometimes hinting that you're watching what you eat isn't enough-sometimes you have to be straight up, "Dude, I'm trying to lose weight and that's not going to help me."

"No" or "I'm not hungry" sometimes isn't strong enough for some people. Sometimes you have to be more insistent, saying something like, "I'm not eating any of that." It's just a little more firm and clearly states that the matter is not up for discussion or cajoling.
 
I don't bother to tell people I'm losing weight, it's really none of anyone's business and there are some people out there who will naturally try to sabotage you...

I am not on a diet, so therefore there are no cant foods.. if you've got can't foods, you're doomed to failure...

Decide for yourself if you really want to eat the item in question... if you say no -- say it like you mean it... I'm not talking having your head spin around and spew pea soup, but just a no thank you and leave no wiggle room... (as all teenage boys and girls no - there was always a NO and a I'm supposed to say no so I am but i really don't want to say no so please talk me into it...)

Plan more activities with your friends that aren't centered around food... or have healthier choices available (and that doesn't mean just veggies... )
 
I understand where you are coming from. I'm in a situation where I also feel like someone is out to "sabotage" me (jealousy).

I agree with what Maverick said.
 
there was always a NO and a I'm supposed to say no so I am but i really don't want to say no so please talk me into it...
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Totally. And if you're softspoken, even a regular "no" can be regularly interpreted as, "I'm just trying to be strong when you know I want to be weak, please give me any excuse to get out of it! You're my friend!"

And I agree with Mal, there are some people who will sabotage you if you tell them straight up you're trying to lose weight. But depending on who you tell (and who you can trust to REALLY be out for your best interests), you can also obtain a nice little cheering section, which can be crucial if you need extra support.

Personally, I try not to make too huge of a deal out of it around family and friends (trying to be rather downlow about it so I don't have to endure transitory workout buddies who will bug me for a week and then quit, relatives who lecture when they're totally out of shape themselves, the whole "you shouldn't go into the military because they're bad/you're weak/you're a girl speech, etc...)

I just grab all my support from here. :D

Just remember-its the daily battles like the Battle of the Smores that win or lose the war.
 
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maverick said:
Another trap is, "Here, help finish this so I don't have to put any away."
Or, "One [piece/scoop/slice] isn't going to kill you!"
Or the guilt-inducing, "Don't you think it's any good?"
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Oh yeah the line I got the other day after I didn't go up for seconds : "Well I guess you didn't like the tacos". But I did want seconds and it was killing me. The last thing I want is to be reminded of it.

Another situation I have been in is if we are out and they are hungry they keep asking me "Do you want to eat here"? And I'll say "no I'm not hungry right now, you guys eat and I'll read the paper or something" But they'll ask "Well what do you want"?

I guess the "I'm not hungry" line really doesn't get through so your right about that. I like to eat at home a lot because there are fewer greasy options. That's all.

I bet I sound like a pain in the butt on here lol
 
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