Sorry just need to vent...

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hopefullysoon1

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I have this friend who is overweight like me and says she's on a "diet" yet I always seeing her eat things she shouldn't eat (french fries, soda, fast food, etc) and she doesn's seem to really "try". Today we were supposed to go walking/jogging at a lake nearby and she calls me this morning saying "oh sorry I got drunk last night and I've been puking all morning so I"m not going to be able to go". This annoys me b/c here I am really into this and I haven't had anything to drink since starting my diet b/c I don't want the extra calories to sabotage my weight loss. I'm putting in 110% to try and get this weight off and here she says she's doing just as much as me but then she goes out and does that stuff and doesn't really try. I just don't get it. Sorry for the long rant...
 
Sounds like you are just in a mental space where you are ready and willing to commit to losing the weight, and she's just not there yet. Maybe she'll see the progress you're making and it will inspire her to join you in action, not just words....or maybe it won't. If you two are good friends, hopefully this won't get in the way of your relationship and whatever (and whenever) she decides to deal with her own issues, she'll still be there to support and cheer you on. I'd suggest if she keeps standing you up on working out that you might just commit to working out on your own, leaving her an open invitation to join you - or find another friend (it can even be a "skinny" friend:) ) you can count on to walk/jog with you.
 
cym said:
Sounds like you are just in a mental space where you are ready and willing to commit to losing the weight, and she's just not there yet. Maybe she'll see the progress you're making and it will inspire her to join you in action, not just words....or maybe it won't. If you two are good friends, hopefully this won't get in the way of your relationship and whatever (and whenever) she decides to deal with her own issues, she'll still be there to support and cheer you on. I'd suggest if she keeps standing you up on working out that you might just commit to working out on your own, leaving her an open invitation to join you - or find another friend (it can even be a "skinny" friend:) ) you can count on to walk/jog with you.
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You are very right I am in the mental set to loose weight and not letting anything stop me. I've spent 4 years fat and I don't care to spend another year of my young life fat and unhappy w/ myself. The thing about my friend bothers me b/c it losing weight was supposed to be something we were supposed to do together and when she does this it's like she's not committing like I am so it's just a little annoying but it's fine I can do it by myself. As far as working out I mostly work out on my own but going for a walk at the lake was just supposed to be a way to mix up the work outs.
 
Do not let your friend take you down with her! Stick to your goal ! She'll remain overweight and filling miserable ,no need to drag you into her failure.
 
Number one thing I've learned on this journey is that you have to forget what everyone else is doing and just take care of YOU.
 
Bingo. This is your deal, not hers. If you're serious about this, you're serious enough to fly solo.

Yeah, it might be more fun with a friend in tow but looking out for #1 needs to be priority 1.

Think of it like this, if you start making progress you might just give her the push she needs to get going with you. Be an example to her by taking care of yourself.

My $.02

Steve Shrinkarino!
 
I know exactly what you are going through. I posted a similar thread a few weeks ago. Only my friend make no effort to try to workout with me. She'd rather run all over South Jersey looking for chocolate cake. And she's says she's been watching what she eats. I'm learning the hard way, that you don't need that negative attention towards you and dreams. PM me if you need to vent!! I totally understand!
 
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