Somebody, please kick me in the butt...

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tracyfin

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Hi everyone-

I just joined this morning, hoping for something to "click" and get me motivated.

I know what to do. I've done it before. I just don't stay with it. Right now, I'm just not motivated. I hate the way I look. My pants are so tight that I'm uncomfortable all the time. I feel huge and ugly. But I can't stop eating junk. It seems like I am SO hungry all the time. I try to be good, pack a healthy lunch for work, but I'm so hungry the whole day that I give in to all the junk we have in the office. By then, I've given up and just eat everything in sight. What's wrong with me?

I want to be healthy, not just "lose weight". I want to make a lifestyle change. My cholesterol is high, but that hasn't been enough to motivate me to shape up. I feel better when I exercise consistently, but that hasn't been enough to keep going. My clothes don't fit and I need to go up a size, but that hasn't done it either.

Can someone help?

:piggy:
 
I don't have the energy to butt kick anyone... I'd fall over...

Check out the fear of thin thread - there's an exercise int hat thread might give you some help -- it b
asically asks you to come up with a list of reasons why you want to be fat...

Moving on - write down your list of reason for wanting to lose weight - whatever those reasons are... health, looking better, feeling better, buying sexy skivvies from victoria's secret, whatever those reasons... and put that list somewhere you can seeit.

Rid the house of the stuff you don't want to eat -- no reason you can't still have it - deprivation leads to binging - but if you want it - make an extra effort to go get it.

And decide for yourself that you want this... no one can do that for you...
 
oh yeah and welcome to the site - do start yourself a diary -it's a great way to get support and for us to get to know you better..
 
Hi Tracy,

I just posted to ya in the other thread - where to start, what to do.


good luck.

There's a lot of support here from the threads to the people.
 
Hi there..

I understand exactly where you're coming from. I used to be dedicated, motivated and disciplined but over the course of a year and a half lost it all.

You CAN get it back. You have to really want it, enough to take the necessary steps to change. Just like we start bad habits (not working out and overeating) we can replace them with good ones. It takes a few weeks (3 I think) to actually create a new habit. Maybe instead of looking back on the past so much you should focus on solely those 3 weeks of change. Short term goals, I've found, are sometimes easier to reach. Take things one day at a time and stay positive. I strongly believe that our attitude and belief in ourselves plays a major role in our chances to succeed.

Visualize what you want. See it in your head- what you want to look like, how you want to feel, and what your healthy eating and working out looks like.

Write it down- Have you ever written a "Letter to the Universe"? This helps me out tremendously when I'm stuck in a certain area of my life. Simply write a letter, addressed to yourself, stating all the things you want. Your aspirations and dreams. Be specific and try writing a couple a week. I promise it works.

I wish you luck and strength and hope to see you around here.
Take care of yourself,

Karma
 
I was in your position when I first started my journey, and my kick in the butt was the fact that I hurt my back and that the only way to see any long-term relief from the condition was to lose weight. I was facing sacrificing my mobility and losing my independence as a result. But in your case it sounds like you need other motivation.

Think of your loved ones. Think about how being overweight or obese can effect your health and well-being, and how in effect how that will effect your loved ones. Also, and most importantly, think about the ways it will make your life easier! A long time ago a really nice lady who had been very obese and lost a lot of weight told me, "I no longer live to eat, I eat to live, so that I can 'eat life.'" What she meant by eating life, is that with her strength and mobility back, she could enjoy her life to the fullest, taking everything in, and enjoying other aspects of life other than food. She still enjoys food, but she modified the amount of food and the kind of food.

Also, try keeping a food diary with you, a small notebook to keep in your purse and take it everywhere, and write down everything you eat, and I mean everything. It will help you keep yourself in check, and remind you at certain points of the day when you get those cravings, that you have, indeed, had enough to eat, and it'll make you think twice before succombing to cravings. Another thing that helps is that every time you have a craving when you know you don't *need* to eat is to go do something else, away from the kitchen, read a chapter out of that book you've been meaning to get to, or take a walk around your block, or go organize your sock drawer - do something to take your mind off eating. That usually helps me, and it's helped other people, too.

As far as the eating at work thing, talk frankly with your coworkers about what you're going through. Say that you're trying to improve your health and that fattening treats aren't really a part of that plan. Tell them that if they must bring things in to not pressure you to take them. However, it is okay to allow yourself little indulgences here and there. It keeps you from feeling 100% deprived and prevents later bingeing...for example I work at a health food store that sells these really yummy cookies in our deli. My treat once a week is one of those cookies - usually when I get off work on Friday. Maybe if someone brings in some treats on your designated treat day, you can have *one* item from the treats. Or you can do them one better and bring in some healthy snacks and offer those to your coworkers - maybe you'll start a healthy snack trend, who knows? Take some baby carrots and hummus, or a fruit platter in with you one day and see how your coworkers react...you may be pleasantly surprised :) Either way, there are ways around it, and if you're assertive enough with people around you, they usually are supportive. If they're not, ignore them. Also, continue to take your lunch to work, that's a good habit to keep with. I do the same. Not only does it save money, it keeps me from being tempted to eat junk or overeat.

Either way, I hope for the best for you - this is a great board full of supportive people, and we'll all try our best to cheer you on and encourage you! :)
 
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