So frustrated!

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sneakysneaky

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Hi guys, this is my first time posting here so I hope I'm doing everything correctly.


I'm a 23 y/o female, about 5'7" and weighing in about 163. I have a relatively healthy routine. With the exception of sitting on my butt all day at work, I go to the gym most days and do cardio (elliptical or walking on treadmill) for 30-60 minutes. I've recently added a resistance training routine, mostly body weight exercises. I also eat pretty healthy. I'm not a calorie counter but I tend to make healthy choices eating out and usually eat good meals at home (my awesome boyfriend is an amazing cook!).


Here's my problem. Despite all my efforts, I'm actually gaining weight! I've gone up almost 10 lbs in the last few months even though I've become more active during this time. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong! The weight is definitely not coming from new muscle mass either. It's very frustrating and I'm running out of motivation to go to the gym at all. After all, what's the point in even going if the scale is moving in the wrong direction?


Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much!


-J
 
AWelcome to the forum. I would suggest starting a diary in the diary section. You can track your food intake and exercise...or just use to vent like I do..lol. They are great for getting feedback from other members on your routine though. Good luck! :)
 
Welcome!


I would suggest the same as jen renee - starting to write down your food intake would be a good step to helping you sort out what the issue might be :)
 
If you have added resistance training maybe your body is building muscle but definitely right everything down
 
The fact that you can see and identify frustration in your mind is a good thing. That means your mind is working. You are attentive to the situation and can determine its not working. If you were in the same situation and didn't get frustrated then you really would have a problem.

The decrease in your motivation is nothing to worry about either. What's going on in your head is a simple process that you have done all your life you just never thought about it. The main action of the mind is to compare things. The two things you are comparing here are what you thought would happen and what actually happened. And it seems to be getting out of control. Don't panic. You are working just fine. I have a thought about the extra weight.

The metabolism of the body seeks to maintain the body at a certain point with the least amount of effort. Current articles and studies show that you can if fact reset your metabolism through following a certain eating plan. Here's the thing about that though. The mind controls what you eat. So I suppose you could say the mind controls the metabolism of the body. But what controls the mind?

There is a part of your mind that wants to stay the same. It is why we resist change. It will do anything to stay that way. I suggest that there is a metabolism of the mind that has to be reset before you try to do anything else. I figured out how to do that two years ago and lost 100 pounds in four months sitting on my butt. I lost too much because I wanted to see what I could do. But the thing is I reset my mind at a certain point and it brought me back to where I'm supposed to be. Been there since and will never change.

It's a deep process and takes a lot of mental work but let me tell you that you are in the perfect place to fix your mind. Weird as it sounds the slight level of despair you feel is the perfect place to start reseting the mind. The reason for this is that the definition of despair is "a pause in reason". When you say "I have no idea what I'm doing wrong" you are in the midst of an opportunity. It is uncomfortable because the problem solver part of your mind is stumped and no longer feels any value. If you can learn to exist in that place of despair where the mind is not constantly giving you ideas then you have a chance to make better choices of how to go about your life.

Deep within you is something perfect. You can't see it but it's there. If you have ever experianced unconditional love then you are in touch with the thing I'm talking about. Unconditional love has no past or future. You don't care what happened yesterday or today you love that person right now and it never changes. That is who you are. What I figured out is how to let that part of you dictate your metabolism. You never have to think about it because the one in charge is ageless and perfect.

I'll give you an example of how to do it. When you wake up in the morning, before you do anything else, do this...take 60 seconds and be grateful. It can be for anything but feel it. Gratitude is another part of the you that is perfect. Try it for a week and see what happens.

Don't let the problem solver in there when you do this. You may want to think coffee, shower, food or any number of things. You are in control. Be grateful first, then let the problem solver go to work.
 
Sometimes people gain weight when they start working out...I think this usually happens for two main reasons:


1) Muscle weighs more than fat, so even though you are losing fat, muscle is replacing it and you are gaining weight. This is not ENTIRELY bad since muscle will continue to burn calories even when you are just sitting around (i.e., your metabolism goes up. But you do want to watch out nonetheless, because if you work out AND cut calories then you can trim weight without the extra muscle growth.


2) Burning more calories in the gym makes you hungrier, so maybe you eat more to compensate? It's good to track everything. I find that the easiest way to track calories consumed is with an iPhone app (there are several out there). Usually they have ones where you just pick what you ate, and it automatically calculates calories, nutritional data, etc and gives you a summary at the end of the day which is helpful.


hope that helps!!!
 
Hey


I'm in a similar situation to you im 5 9 and about 164lbs


I'd say try and up intensity at the gym, your body is probably used to the exercise you're doing at the moment, try a jog or faster walking/uphill


Also (as my friends keep telling me) don't weigh get a tape measure, so if it is muscle gain you'll see the reduction around the waist rather than a number going up on the scales.


Don't lose hope haha xxx
 
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