setting a goal should be a good start!

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Hi everyone,


I am 25 and have struggled yoyoing since I was a teen. currently I am overweight at 5"7 and 11.5-12stone ( i dont dare weigh at the moment as had a rough last few days of not being able to deal with emotions ( I emotionally eat.)


I need to kick the habbit as I know it is really unhealthy and I certainly feel unhealthy at my current weight. I have to change at some point. The urge to binge or overeat in times that I feel unable to cope however feel overwelming and take over everything. It feels like giving up a favourite comfort blanket I guess. It feels so scary, hence I have been unable to do it alone.


My aim weight in the past would have been quite low , however I want the goal for now to be in the healthy weight range and maintain this, so my aim weight is 10stone. In my head right now that feels overwelming to achieve.


thanks for reading,

Tink x
 
Hi Tink

I understand where your coming from.... If you need someone to talk to instead of eating. I'll be there when I can. When I was 19, I weighed about 135lbs. I started going threw loads of stress. Got my own place..... in the country where i knew barely no one. Instead of eating alot, I barely ate and drank alot of alchol. I gained 20lbs in 2years. Then got pregnant with my daughter.... Hit a weight of 185lbs. Then after her I went down to 165ish. Then 2 yrs ago got prenant with my son. Hit 201lbs I had him and now been at about 175 to 185. I'm just starting on here today, in hopes of finding others that might help me, with motivation and support threw my own dieting and exercising. I'm not sure what else help you need but we can either make it a contest.... or just listen to each other's days and encourage each other. I dont' know how this type of site works.... but I'll help you how i can, just tell me what you need from me...:newbie:
 
aww thankyou heavy mama
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i have been there with the drinking and undereating too...its important for me I think to get to a middle weight. encouraging each other sounds good, there is a contest on at the moment...getting ready for summer..it started jan1st however i am considering joining. i really need a change...and by summer I dont want to feel uncomfortable like last year. but I actually am scared of starting and doing this, my head is shouting that i wont cope without my comfort food!
 
I'll have to look into that contest, maybe. You should never be scared of change. I'm sure you could keep some of your comfort food's in a diet. My cousin lost 5 lbs this last month by stopping eating after 6pm, cutting out sugars, eating more veggie, and eating a few more healthier choices. My last attempt at a diet I lost 10lbs in 2 months. I just stopped drinking beer, pop and ate portioned meals. Instead of a big plate at supper, I had a medium plate and didn't eat after 7. And drank 2 to 3 600ml bottles a water a day. And every second day, would go for a walk to the store and back. Which is about a mile walk.

When I start to get scared about the mild diet I'm putting myself on, I look at a picture of myself when I was only 135lbs and get a tear. Then I say I will be that again. I don't know you personally, But everyone has the strenght to accomplish anything they put there mind too. And if you want this you will do it.
 
thankyou. i think its hard because of the yoyoing i have done and probably if im truthful i dont beleive in myself that i can loose and keep it off, and i guess i need to beleive before i can achieve!! reading your post shows me i need to look at small changes instead of trying to make one huge mammorth one!! i know that I CAN eat healthily and cut out junk and i KNOW i can get myself back to the gym. I just need to give myself a chance to stick to those 2 things. whats bad for me is that I mainly eat in the evening, as thats the time i need the comfort. thankyou for your support :)
 
Originally Posted by Tink


thankyou. i think its hard because of the yoyoing i have done and probably if im truthful i dont beleive in myself that i can loose and keep it off, and i guess i need to beleive before i can achieve!! reading your post shows me i need to look at small changes instead of trying to make one huge mammorth one!! i know that I CAN eat healthily and cut out junk and i KNOW i can get myself back to the gym. I just need to give myself a chance to stick to those 2 things. whats bad for me is that I mainly eat in the evening, as thats the time i need the comfort. thankyou for your support :)
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Your very welcome Tink

It is hard, if we keep telling ourselves its hard. We are going to believe it is hard and keep believing it. You must believe in yourself. Your a person, and ever single person ( I believe) has tremendous strength in them to do what they want or don't want. Let's start small, it's like smoking they say quit cold turkey, some people that works for. Because they look at it different. My one aunty had to do it gradually. She had gave herself a 6 smoke maximum a day as a goal and stuck to it for weeks and then one or two a day. Then she went cold turkey, she said she lowered her level's of nicotine gratually so she wouldn't go threw such bad withdrawls. This worked for her. If say you eat every meal a day and its got sugar or fatting stuff in it. Start removing some of the stuff..... It doesn't need to be all removed right now. That can be overwhelming. But try to remove as much as you can handle. I do believe, I will do this. Because I have people like you that if i'm having a bad day, i'll vent. Maybe get some encouragement, and just keep try. Never give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Setting a goal is absolutely the best place to start! Nothing like a clear bulls-eye to keep you focused and motivated. Just remember to not set a vague, subjective goal like: "I want to be skinny." In fact, instead of setting a goal of losing a specific number of pounds, perhaps set a goal of achieving a specific body fat percentage instead. "I want to be XYZ% body fat percentage by so-and-so date." Measure it weekly, and adjust where necessary.
 
thanks for replies and encouragement.
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I get what your saying on the smoking thing. I quit 3 years ago but cold turkey. however with the overeating i will do it in steps. I am already doing the first one which is I am sticking to having only healthy foods in and My freezer has fish and vegetables. I have been around family however and so have eaten bits of junk around them, but not gone overboard. I find it hard around family especially if they cook especially for you and pile your plate even tho you say no! I need some assertive skills to say no thankyou but in a polite way.


I am being really bad however on the exercise front...Im not doing any! I havent been to the gym in a while because I had a week when depression struck me down, but Im feeling better now. So just need motivation to get back there and to also do some exercises at home.


Alexwork - thanks I dont if you need some special scales to do body fat? but to be honest im too scared to do that anyway in case mine is terrible!! I am not actually weighing myself at the moment and to be honest I dont want to start again. I have decided want to think of it as getting into a routine i.e get to gym etc, do nice stuff for myself instead of eating. I totally agree with the goal of being skinny thing. I guess my first goal is just ROUTINE! which is hard because I dont work right now, and am inbetween doing things, I have a lot of time on my hands and sleep way too much.


Im thinking that I might start one of those diary things and see how that goes !
 
It's really hard to get rid of emotional eating. Think most of us are facing this problem. We have an extreme desire to loose weight on one hand where as we can't control ourselves when it comes to fooding. Anyways we need to control it ourselves to achieve our ideal fantancy.
 
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