Self Image Issues, help?

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seekingpeace

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I find that lately, I feel worse about myself than before I lost any weight. I can tell by looking at my old clothes that I have lost weight, but a lot of the time I really don't feel like it. I've lost all of my weight healthily, but lately I keep finding myself feeling like i'm over eating when i've only eaten a tomato sandwich the whole day. The days that I don't feel like this, I find myself way overeating. I had 5 slices of pizza and 8 cups of ice cream today. Before I lost weight, I didn't notice all of the squishy parts on my body, now I do and when I'm around people its all I can think about. This is the smallest I have been since middle school, so I don't know why I feel like i'm still 60 pounds heavier. I also feel like everyone is smaller than me, even if they aren't. I'm aware that they aren't, I just can't see that they aren't.

Help?
 
Hey there,

My name is Solon, and I have been overweight my whole life. I have recently started recording what I eat, and how I lift weights / run / etc, as well as joining this forum and developing relationships with people that are doing the same.

I would need more information and pictures to be 100% confident in what I would suggest to you...but I will do it anyway.

If you are still losing weight, and from the other posts of yours that I have read...you sound like you are doing great...don't worry about "the squishy parts"

If you can not stop worrying about it...I suggest a couple things.
a) post before and after pictures for us...and let us decide. Quite frankly it is VERY hard to see changes in yourself 99% of the time. You are, and always will be your own harshest critic.
b) Change up your exercise a bit...if there are parts that will not "un-squish" try some weight lifting, or some yoga, or something else to act differently with the muscles.

Another thing that I feel I need to say...People's opinions...unless they very specifically directly affect your life... Do Not Matter! You (as I read in one of your posts) have actually lost over 60 pounds!!! I think that is an amazing feat, and you still haven't given up on losing even more.

It does not matter why you lost the weight, or what motivated you to do so...you still, in the end, did it for you. You are the one that lost the weight, you are the one that remembers what it was like before you did, AND you are the one that has to decide to be proud of yourself. I know we all will be...60 pounds is a lot to lose!

One thing that really bothers me...is this:
I've lost all of my weight healthily, but lately I keep finding myself feeling like i'm over eating when i've only eaten a tomato sandwich the whole day.
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That is NOT healthy...nor is it enough calories to support 1/2 of one of the Olsen twins...
You really should start keeping track of what you eat...not to make sure you stay at a certain amount of calories all the time...but to make sure you are always getting enough.

I personally would rather see you eat all that pizza...than not eat enough calories to survive.

If you need, you can PM me, or just respond here....I hope I have been of some help...Try to get us more information on you! Pictures, weights, ages, what you eat, how you work out etc!!!!

This is a VERY friendly community....we are all here for the same goals....supporting each other, losing weight, and feeling great about ourself while we do it! I hate to see anyone not enjoying their journey to being in shape....


Chef Soli
 
this is normal, although we can loose off the body the brain is slow at registering we have lost weight, so this is why we may still think we look big, we may pick up larger sized clothes thinking we still fit into them.:)
Everybody had squishy bits, so dont worry about them a bit of exersize will sort that out, im sure you look great and well done you for getting this far, like the above poster said look at photos, line them up from your biggest to where you now.
Dont be hard on yourself, youve come so far and done really well :hug2: xxx
 
I'm curious to know how old you are and what your living situation is - If you're still living with your family, I'd suggest strongly talking your mom or an adult that you trust about how you're feeling... it really sounds like you're on your way to developing an eating disorder... and you're wise in looking for help now...
 
maleficent said:
I'm curious to know how old you are and what your living situation is - If you're still living with your family, I'd suggest strongly talking your mom or an adult that you trust about how you're feeling... it really sounds like you're on your way to developing an eating disorder... and you're wise in looking for help now...
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I'm 18. I live with my mom, but I'm going off to college at the end of this month!!! My mom is a size three and can never shut up about how fat she is. >.< It drives me crazy!!!

And, I do normally eat more than a tomato sandwich a day. I just find myself feeling bad for it sometimes.

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You have lost so much weight, and you are gorgeous :] ..

We all have things we do not like about ourselves, and if you only look at those then of course you will feel bad. I know when I look in the mirror I still see someone who is overweight, but then I look at my picture I took of myself 22 pounds ago. I was SUCH a mess. I have toothpaste on my face( to get rid of pimples) , my hair back in a clip.. my pj's on - and I didn't even smile because I knew no matter what my facial expression was I wasn't nowhere near where I wanted to be. I almost want to cry looking at that photo.

Since I have lost weight, I dress way nicer, I hardly go out in P.j's and jogging pants unless I am going to the gym or for walks. I am not saying wearing your pj's everywhere is bad, but thats all I did. I thought makeup was such a waste, like no matter how much I put on it wasn't going to change anything.. so why try? I wear makeup every time I go out now, and I smile in all my pictures- unless I am goofing around:]

My weight still hasn't changed some things in my life though, like my school struggles, my boy troubles, and my troubles looking beyond my past. Those are all things I am trying my best to work with..

I know how it feels to feel uncomfortable around other people about your body, I am always tugging on my shirt making sure that its where it's supposed to be. Always making sure everything is in place. The thing I struggled most with, and still today do a little is feeling guilty when I eat in front of people. I know that may sound silly. I just feel like I shouldn't eat around people and that I will look down upon for doing so. I know its crazy, but in the back of mind I feel that way.

We all have things that we have to work through, and if you only look at the negative in your life it is bound to consume you. I know when I did that, it took away two years of my life that I will never get back. I hid behind a video game and food. Never leaving my house, and cutting off people in my life that mean the world to me. It broke my mother's heart. I am doing this for me of course, but also for my mother who watched me bury myself in all the things I let get to me. She wasn't mad because I had a hard time dealing with things, she was mad because she knew I was so much stronger.

I believe you are stronger too girly, look at what you have already accomplished. Don't feel so insecure, because you have no reason too. If anything you should be one of the most if not most confident people you know.

If you ever need to talk, please PM me :] I would be glad to talk about anything with you!
 
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