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kt052204

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Today is one of those "down in the dumps" days. I keep going back and forth. I don't have a question why it is happening. I know why it is. I can't be "faithful" to me. I always do this. I loose about 10 lbs and then I am stuck in a rut for a couple of weeks. I am just getting frusterated with myself cause there is no way it should have taken me 5 months to lose 30lbs.

Everytime I am thinking about "cheating" I always justify it, "It's the weekend", "Slow and easy weight loss is the way go, so this super size fry will be ok", "I love this restaurant and want to eat my favorite thing on the menu, I don't come here often".

I am hoping to reach the point where I don't even think up ridiculous excuses to "cheat".

LOOSING WEIGHT IS SOOOOO HARD!!!
 
I was having one of those moments after last weekend... I drank and ate and drank and drank... *because it was the weekend*

On Monday I nursed a bad hangover and felt sorry for myself.

Yesterday I changed my frame of mind. It was so hot and then the rain came and outside it was like a sauna... and I told myself "I cant go out walking/running tonight".

I sat here for a half hour trying to convince myself it was alright to skip today and go tomorrow and then I thought "in the time I have spent thinking about this I could have nearly completed my exercise". So I went and did it... and felt great.

I think you should try spend time feeling good about the good things you are doing rather than feeling bad about the bad things you are doing. Why dont you give it a try today? Make a list of two good things for today. You are going to have a healthy dinner and are going to do some exercise later. Then do them and feel good. Tomorrow you will want that good feeling again so make a deal with yourself to do two more good things and so on.

Try stop focusing on the negative things you are doing... dont give them another thought. Create positive things and then do them! Focus on positives.
 
Stay Positive

I have days where I take steps backwards too.

Last weekend some family and friends came to visit and I ended up drinking too much and I felt like I got off track and then felt guilty about it. What's done is done, learn and move on. Try not to make the same mistake.

As far as french fries, I just eliminated those and soda completely. I just act like they will kill me if I consume them. Maybe you can bake some sweet potato fries if you crave them.

Yesterday I moved my treadmill to a new spot in my room, set up a huge fan and tv in front of it. Tonight I'm going to rent a new movie and watch it while walking. At least that will make the boring routine a little different and something to look forward to.

I started at 216 lbs and am down to 195 lbs. I have been stuck at 195 lbs for weeks. I am exercising, lifting weights and counting calories, but am getting frustrated with the scale.

All you can do is take it one day at a time and know that if you keep making the right choices then good things will happen. Good luck and stay positive!
 
30lbs in 5 months is nothing at all to feel bad about, you should feel proud! Its pretty close to 2lbs/week. Thats excellent progress.

Remember, losing weight isn't something you just do for a while and then stop, its a lifestyle change that has to go on the rest of your life. You can look at the last 5 months and think "wow, I should've done better", or you can look at the last 5 months and think "thats 30lbs thats gone forever, I didn't get any worse, and its 30lbs less than I would have been had I done nothing at all - 30lbs lost is better than nothing lost!". You've got to be motivated to continue despite what the scale says because the scale can only be motivating for so long - you will eventually reach a point where you have to maintain your loss, and you won't see a number going down.

One thing I've come to realize over the past couple years is that life is going to come and go regardless of how I spend it. There's only so many "next monday's" I can wait for. I tell myself everyday... I can either spend the next year losing 100+ lbs to be happy the rest of my life and able to do everything I want to do - a year that will be all but an insignificant amount of time if I live another 60 anyways. OR, I can spend the next year doing nothing, feeling bad, missing out, and continue to do that for the rest of my probably shortened life, and accomplish nothing. Or maybe it will take 5 years or longer, idk. But 5 year accomplishing something is still better than those same 5 years accomplishing nothing, right? And if it earns me an extra 10-20 years at the end of my life, and a lifetime of enjoyment and satisfaction, isn't it worth it?
 
I find that if you remove the word diet out of your vocabulary it helps you to control your eating habits and thus you will never want to cheat.
I always tell myself that I am not on a d.i.e.t(don't imagine eating this) because what I am missing out is not good for me anyways, and food is a temporary pleasure not a lasting pleasure. I might feel good while eating it, but after finishing it I feel guilty, bloated, and down right disgusted at myself-and those feelings last longer than the pleasure of chowing down a pizza.

Everything in moderation is key. Eat tasty healthy foods so you don't fee like your missing out on "the good" stuff that are obviously bad for you. Never cheat!!! How can anyone ever think that cheating is good for you, we were taught in school not to cheat so in your health don't cheat either.
 
kt052204 said:
Everytime I am thinking about "cheating" I always justify it, "It's the weekend", "Slow and easy weight loss is the way go, so this super size fry will be ok", "I love this restaurant and want to eat my favorite thing on the menu, I don't come here often".
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That's why I've given myself rigid rules. I'm not allowed to eat fast food at all, therefore I won't cave to super sizing because I'm not there in the first place. I also only go to restaurants that post nutritional information for their meals online... that way I know exactly how many calories are in the dishes they offer. It helps you make the right choice if you know the consequences of the wrong choice (like "Holy cow, there are 1200 calories on that plate. That's just wrong.")

Rigid rules work for me. I know that if I make even a small exception it will turn into a bigger exception eventually, so I just don't allow any exceptions at all. Now I don't even think about fast food because I haven't had it in so long that I don't even crave it.

Also, associating unhealthy foods with negative consequences also worked wonders for me. I don't even want white bread, potatoes, or white rice anymore because when I look at them, all I see is fat and weight gain. You have to look at that food and realize in that instance "This will make me feel good for a very brief second but make my miserable for much, much longer."

Also, if you're someone who likes to eat a lot (like me), remember that you can eat SO MUCH MORE healthy food than unhealthy food. You can't lose with healthy food because you get quantity and quality, but you lose every time you eat unhealthy food because it's not even close to quality food and if you have a large quantity of it you're in big trouble. The longer you eat healthy food, the more your tastes change and you start craving the healthy stuff and your body just forgets about the unhealthy stuff.

And yeah, losing weight is hard, but I promise you that eating healthy can be easier. You can do it. :)

Edit: I wanted to add that 30 lbs is nothing to be ashamed of. You've done what some people never will. Some will never even try.
 
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