RANT: He's morbidly obese, why is he giving advice and telling others what to do??

Sunshyne

Sunshyne

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So I am pissed. Well, not pissed just annoyed. I was at my uncle and aunt's house today and they are both overweight people....he is really big though, around 300 lbs. But they are honestly trying to lose weight to be more healthy.

Well my uncle has lost some weight and I commend him on that...but what really irks me is the fact that now he acts all high and mighty and like he knows best and he tells everyone what to do as if he has credentials. He even tried to tell me some advice but it's just so hard to take it seriously considering that he is morbidly obese himself and has been for a while

2 weeks ago he tried to make me feel bad about eating a lot of carbs, and he said that I will gain weight the way I eat. Well he was obviously wrong because I've already lost 6 pounds carbs, fat sugar and all (I even had chocolate and cookies a few times but working on cutting them out). that really made me question his credibility.

/rant.

So do you guys have and friends, family members etc; that are obese and push their nutritional advice on you? and how do you know when to take their advice??
 
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Hell I AM him sometimes (though I try not to put down ANYONE's progress as long as it isn't extremely unhealthy, then it is more about trying to get help), but I don't mean to. What I've discovered is, when I am talking like that, it is because I'm trying to feel good about my own progress.

How to take it? You can just grin and nod or you can just say to them your own success and be proud of that.

Or you tell them to knock it off.
 
Jericho said:
Hell I AM him sometimes (though I try not to put down ANYONE's progress as long as it isn't extremely unhealthy, then it is more about trying to get help), but I don't mean to. What I've discovered is, when I am talking like that, it is because I'm trying to feel good about my own progress.

How to take it? You can just grin and nod or you can just say to them your own success and be proud of that.

Or you tell them to knock it off.
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Yea I think I'm going to sit down and talk to him about it. Because he even puts down my aunt about her eating habits meanwhile she's lost about 50 pounds already. I feel like he doesn't even acknowledge my decision to EVEN get healthy period, and when he tells me what to do and makes me feel like I'm doing everything wrong it just really discourages me.
 
Yeah, based on that, you need to confront him on this. Someone like that can sabatoge weight loss for others around him. Just be tactful about it since it's your uncle and you don't want to add to the situation.

Above all, remember, YOU are doing great.
 
It's hard when someone is trying to help you but they come across as being omniscient and arrogant.

I doubt he's saying things to hurts those around him. Talk to him about it, if nothing else, you will feel better.

And I 100% agree with Jericho, you are doing awesome. Keep it up!
 
Sunshyne said:
So I am pissed. Well, not pissed just annoyed. I was at my uncle and aunt's house today and they are both overweight people....he is really big though, around 300 lbs. But they are honestly trying to lose weight to be more healthy.

Well my uncle has lost some weight and I commend him on that...but what really irks me is the fact that now he acts all high and mighty and like he knows best and he tells everyone what to do as if he has credentials. He even tried to tell me some advice but it's just so hard to take it seriously considering that he is morbidly obese himself and has been for a while

2 weeks ago he tried to make me feel bad about eating a lot of carbs, and he said that I will gain weight the way I eat. Well he was obviously wrong because I've already lost 6 pounds carbs, fat sugar and all (I even had chocolate and cookies a few times but working on cutting them out). that really made me question his credibility.

/rant.

So do you guys have and friends, family members etc; that are obese and push their nutritional advice on you? and how do you know when to take their advice??
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I am going to give you some advice about advice...


Don't listen when people in your life feed you nonsense and negativity. The end.

Seriously though, I've been at this for a while now and in my circle of friends and family the majority have been a VERY negative influence as far as their advice goes. Often they have no idea what they are talking about, they want to interject all these brilliant ideas about how you need to do things that are totally false as far as weight loss goes. I have a few friends that have been unconditional supporters and just say hey, good job and seriously that is a great thing to have because that's about all I want as far as input goes from friends and family.

I will tell you one thing that has been of ultimate value to me.

Trust your own research.

The knowledge is out there online with forums like this and other sites with GOOD information on weight loss. This means there is absolutely no time for listening to peoples wives tales and nonsense. There is nothing mystical or magical about weight loss, you don't need gimmicks, programs, pills, stupid diets, any of it. The least of what you need is to dwell on what others want you to do. You expand your understanding with good knowledge like what you will find in the stickies of this forum, and you tailor it to a program that works for you.

Learn to take everything people in your life are saying and let it roll right off your back. I had to do it because it was literally driving me mad listening to people feeding me negativity and complete BS. I used to really let it get to me to the point where it was upsetting me a great deal but I just had to put my foot down and start tuning them out. Be grateful for and hold on to those people in your life that DO give you that unconditional support and positive attitude, because they are important.

Now of course I realize the contradiction of my telling you to ignore advice and then offering advice... but just pretend that starts at the END of this message. I'll close by telling you something that I don't hear enough and wish I got more. You're doing great, keep it up, and stay positive at all times.
 
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Yes family members try to help but I ignore them for the most part. I always hear the "well it's not fattening" line when referring to any food that I say I'm not going to eat. Their perception is that as long as the box says "low fat", you'll lose weight. At least that's the way it seems to me so I just go about my own business counting calories and all. :)
 
Sunshyne said:
So I am pissed. Well, not pissed just annoyed. I was at my uncle and aunt's house today and they are both overweight people....he is really big though, around 300 lbs. But they are honestly trying to lose weight to be more healthy.

Well my uncle has lost some weight and I commend him on that...but what really irks me is the fact that now he acts all high and mighty and like he knows best and he tells everyone what to do as if he has credentials. He even tried to tell me some advice but it's just so hard to take it seriously considering that he is morbidly obese himself and has been for a while

2 weeks ago he tried to make me feel bad about eating a lot of carbs, and he said that I will gain weight the way I eat. Well he was obviously wrong because I've already lost 6 pounds carbs, fat sugar and all (I even had chocolate and cookies a few times but working on cutting them out). that really made me question his credibility.

/rant.

So do you guys have and friends, family members etc; that are obese and push their nutritional advice on you? and how do you know when to take their advice??
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Some people don't practice what they preach, but that doesn't mean that what they are preaching isn't the truth.

There are police officers that break the law, driving instructors that get speeding tickets, chefs that eat canned ravioli, mechanics that don't take care of their cars, etc. But, that doesn't mean that any of those people aren't good at what they do and it certainly doesn't mean that they aren't extremely knowledgable or unable to offer sound and beneficial advice.

I know it seems hypocritical for a fat person to be telling you how to get healthy (and it's actually quite hilarious in a way), but don't rule out your uncle's advice just because he's a bit heavy.
 
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I'd love to have her figure. And good for Michelle for trying to put a stop to this childhood obesity trend.
 
ocd said:
I am going to give you some advice about advice...


Don't listen when people in your life feed you nonsense and negativity. The end.

I'll close by telling you something that I don't hear enough and wish I got more. You're doing great, keep it up, and stay positive at all times.
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Thanks! I guess I need to learn to smile, nod, and forget everything he says that is contrary to my own research and what works for me

aravind82 said:
Yes family members try to help but I ignore them for the most part. I always hear the "well it's not fattening" line when referring to any food that I say I'm not going to eat.
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This just reminded me of my mom...she always says one M&m isn't going to make a difference or one caramel coated popcorn is not gonna make a difference...but it does because it opens up an opportunity to over-eat and crave other sweet foods, duh!


Racer_X said:
+1

You know what's non-sense. Trust yourself.

"Uncle, buddy, you know I love you, but, I've found that this is a really personal thing for me, and what I've got going is working. Now, it may not be the fastest, but it's steady and healthy, and I think I'll stick with it a while. But you know, you're looking better yourself, and I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to laughing with you for years to come..."
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That's a good point. I'll say something similar to him tomorrow

Harold14370 said:
With her huge butt, is Michelle Obama the right person to take up the cause of obesity?
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Beg to differ...we all have own own tastes but I think she looks great for 2 kids
 
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Are you kidding me with that picture? She is 100% healthy. This is why people have body image issues and eating disorders, because of comments like that. Besides, what's wrong with having a nice booty lol. I think she looks fab.

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So yeah, that comment was uncalled for. Harold14370 we all have our own preferences and if you like flat asses more power to you :rolleyes:
 
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This is a problem.

Yes, Michelle Obama is a completely appropriate in her fight against childhood obesity.
 
Even the slimmest person can have a picture taken from an odd angle or that makes them look fat.

Every photo I've seen of Michelle Obama, she looks to be in great shape. Not super skinny, but not at all fat. I would love to have a figure like hers.

It's this kind of shit .. where a normal, healthy woman is ragged for being "fat" ... that causes body image issues for women in America. MO is absolutely NOT fat. And saying she is ... well that's simply stupidity and ignorance.
 
Oh geez those kids make me sad and kind of mad. They didn't choose to be that way it's because they're a product of the society. I totally agree that MO is a great person to push healthier lifestyles for kids
 
I agree re: Michelle Obama. She has a great ripped body! She is seriously so beautiful and smart. One of my girl crushes.. ;)
 
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